Tag Archives: relationships

Leaving a Lasting Impression
  • September 13, 2012

    Sunday morning I woke up to the smell of bacon frying. Dishes clanging in the sink, my mother singing along to gospel radio - a few beats behind and more than a few ...

    How to Yell At Your Boyfriend
  • September 10, 2012

    Quiet as it's kept, things were relatively new between Mr. Max and I before the insurgents came on the scene. We'd been together long enough that we were no longer ...

    But He Doesn’t Love Her
  • July 16, 2012

    I have a friend that has a great guy. She's really lucky. He's all the obvious things a girl wants in a guy - smart, funny, handsome, and kind. And even better he's ...

    Say It or Do It
  • June 25, 2012

    I'm a writer. You guys already know this. And as a writer, you can imagine what words mean to me. The right sequence of words can lift me up, kick me down, bolster ...

    Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Long-Distance Relationships
  • May 24, 2012

    I'm not the kind of woman who is typically defined by her man. Truth be told, as someone who has been single for most of my adulthood, there hasn't often been a man ...

    Confessions of a Cheater
  • May 16, 2012

    I told someone the other day that I had the soul of a cheater. She said that was an oxymoron because cheaters have no soul. Which is an understandable point of view ...

    Possession (50 Shades of Hot)
  • April 2, 2012

    I have a new obsession. Not that I needed one more thing to distract me from work, my friends, my workouts, and my blog; but my new compulsion is a dirty little itch ...

    I’m a Greedy Girl
  • February 29, 2012

    "If your biggest problem in life is that your girl wants you too much, you have no problems at all".

    How to Make Your Woman Happy
  • February 8, 2012

    Ah women. They're some puzzling creatures, aren't they? They cry when they're happy, go silent when they're mad, and say things are okay when they're clearly not. ...

    Handle With Care
  • February 6, 2012

    When I was a little girl I got in trouble for lots of things. Reading at the dinner table, not washing the dishes when I got home from school, spraying hair spray in ...

    Are You a Nag?
  • February 1, 2012

    That women nag seems to be a forgone conclusion of life. As sure as the skies are blue, 1+1=3, and Jay-Z is the greatest rapper alive, Women nag. They nag about ...

    But I Don’t Want To (A Nasty Friday Pickle)
  • January 27, 2012

    So you've found a dude and your parts are getting oiled on a regular. Congrats girl. Good on you. And bonus points if it's good and not political. Book yourself some ...

    The Cool Girlfriend
  • January 10, 2012

    I am cool. It's what everyone says about me, and the one thing I know about myself. Though I may occasionally be weird, awkward and spazzy, the fundamental truth ...

    Do You Submit to Your Man?
  • January 5, 2012

    "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22)

    How Not to Cheat
  • December 15, 2011

    As you guys know, I'm often asked for advice. It's one of my favourite things about being a blogger. Whether it's dealing with bitchy family members to overcoming ...

    If It’s Broke, Fix It
  • December 14, 2011

    The great thing about being in a relationship is being able to share our feelings with our partner. Be it good, bad, or ugly - having someone in your corner means ...

    Inappropriate Behaviour (You Be The Judge)
  • November 17, 2011

    As those of you who know me in 3D life know, I am a chronic over-thinker. Seriously. When I get something good to wrap my brain around I am like a dog with a fucking ...

    Intimate Acts
  • November 16, 2011

    There are a great many people who believe that the best part about being in a relationship is the ability to just relax and be yourself. To let go of airs and ...

    So You’re On A Break
  • November 10, 2011

    A couple I know recently decided to take a break from one another to think things over. Although as a rule I avoid getting close to both parties in a relationship, ...

    The Easiest Thing (You’re Not Doing) To Make Your Girl Happy
  • November 9, 2011

    If I have one great talent in life it's knowing how things should be done. I can walk into just about any situation, get the lay of the land, and say "here are all ...

    Don’t Call Me Baby (Remix)
  • November 2, 2011

    Last night, after making a valiant attempt to write a post called "Tunde: 600 Words of Awesome", I had an urge to write a post about pet names. As those of you who ...

    What You Won’t Do for Love
  • November 1, 2011

    The other day during a lovely chat, Mr. Max mentioned that he wanted to get a Bottom Bitch Theory t-shirt. For those of you not familiar with the Bottom Bitch ...

    Adventures in Crazy Part I
  • October 19, 2011

    My first boyfriend deceived me in a cruel and disgusting way. It was really terrible. So much so that very few people even know the story. Even now, over a decade ...

    When the Shoe Drops
  • September 7, 2011

    In every relationship of substance there comes a time when the rose-coloured glasses come off and we realize that the person we're dealing with is but a mere mortal. ...

    Talking to You and Hearing You Answer
  • July 14, 2011

    "Talking to you and hearing you answer - that's the kick" (Toni Morrison)

    I Don’t Love You Anymore
  • June 30, 2011

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3nbdFdCi-Y There is no worse moment in your relationship than the moment at which you look up at your partner and think to yourself ...

    He Never Says I’m Pretty
  • June 23, 2011

    A few months ago a man told me I was very beautiful. And since he didn't say it during sex, I believe he meant it and I have to say it floored me.

    The Benevolent Dictator

    First things first: please take a moment to head over here to vote for me to win in The Black Weblog Awards for Best Personal Blog, Best International Blog, Best Sex ...

    The Soul of a Cheater
  • June 8, 2011

    Lately I've been thinking a lot about monogamy. More specifically, I've been thinking about monogamy as it relates to me - what would I be like in a monogamous ...

    Mixing Friends and Lovers

      As those of you who know my life story are already aware, my first love was one of my best friends for years before we ever bumped uglies. As a result, he was ...

    The Double-Edged Sword
  • May 25, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know ...

    Romancing Your Man
  • May 19, 2011

    Yesterday I read a post by the beautiful @GemoftheOcean where she talked about being deprived of romance. I totally felt her on it, because I've almost never ...

    The Day the Lights Went Out
  • May 16, 2011

    There are a lot of things that can cause a person to leave your life. Sometimes it’s some deep and unforgivable bullshit that goes down that causes you to ...

    Intimate Talks

    The choice is yours today.

    A Marriage of Convenience

    A couple of weeks ago I took in a Raptors game with Mr. Should-be Right. Since the Raptors weren't doing much and we could only really spend about three minutes ...

    Somebody Else’s Man
  • April 18, 2011

    Confession: I have a thing for your man. Well not yours necessarily, but someone’s man. I don’t know what it is or when this started, but I’m ...

    Right Person, Wrong Time

    By the time you read this I’ll be causing trouble and wrecking shit in DC. I’ll be there for the rest of the week – and yes I will be at the SBM ...

    Are you ready for your next relationship?
  • March 21, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader question. This one is from @TashiMee and she asks “When you get out of a long term relationship how much time do you ...

    When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust You
  • March 16, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader advice question. This one was a good one in that I was a little stumped. For those of you who can’t see the video or ...

    Snooping: A Rant and The Rules

    So today we’re talking about snooping and I’m doing a combo move. A video rant about how very much I wish women would stop doing this shit. And the rules ...

    Can You Claim Him?
  • February 28, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader question. Read the question below and then watch the video to see my answer. I have “seeing” a guy for about 3 ...

    Mr. Should-be Right
  • February 2, 2011

    Of all the men I've ever dallied with, there were only two I could see myself happily married to. Snickers, with whom I had almost nothing in common but a love deep ...

    The Switcheroo
  • January 19, 2011

    So yesterday my blogging boy Lincoln Anthony Blades put up a post about what he calls The Worst Lie Too Many Men Believe. The post basically attempted to dispel the ...

    Playing Your Position

    Whenever I write about unconventional relationships like unboyfriends, open relationships, or casual hookups, the discussion always leads to someone protesting that ...

    Wedding Roasts (A Guest Post by @superblackgirl)

    Today we have a guest appearance from my lovely and talented little sis @superblackgirl. Show her lots of love in the comments and check out her most hiliarous but ...

    Do I Want an Older Dude?
  • December 7, 2010

    Let me tell you a story about my last good first date. I met the dude at a mutual friend’s New Years party. A few days after the party he sent me a nice note ...

    Single by Choice Not by Chance

    If there’s anything that annoys a single, marriage-minded woman it’s a man who doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Especially because these men ...

    Can You Do What I Do?
  • October 18, 2010

    I’ve always been kind of a nerd. You guys already know this about me. Most of what appeals to me in life is cerebral and carnal rather than physical. ...

    Wanted: Unboyfriend
  • October 14, 2010

    It's getting chilly and the internets are abuzz with tweets and blog posts about people looking to couple up for the winter. And while I hate cold weather as much ...

    5 Things I Want in a Man That I Don’t Have Myself
  • September 1, 2010

    Another post inspired by Until I Get Married – I swear that guy has the best ideas! I’m sure I’ve blogged about this at some point in time, but I ...

    5 Gifts You Must Never Buy Your Girl
  • August 30, 2010

    Today is the last day to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. Have you voted yet today? Head over there and vote at least 5 times before you read this. With the holiday ...

    5 Things I’m Not Doing if I’m Not Wifey
  • August 10, 2010

    Don’t forget to vote for me and your other favourite blogs for the Black Weblog Awards. All the details are right here So yesterday I was over on Until I Get ...

    The Art of the Chase (Throwback Tuesdays)

    In the old days, when I had my eye on a dude, I had one strategy: shameless and reckless pursuit. And although this method made for some great stories, it never ...

    The Great Guy and the Regular Chick
  • July 21, 2010

    Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Last night I was gossiping talking to a ...

    Ready for Love – A Guest Post

    If you’ve been reading this blog with any kind of regularity you probably know by now that love is not on my agenda. Although I have a great appreciation for ...

    Throwback Tuesday – The Just Before Girl

    The just before girl kinda has a bad rep.  Nine times out of ten she is (or is portrayed as) the one who lied, cheated, took advantage, stole, stalked, hurt, ...