Category Archives: sex

Possession (50 Shades of Hot)
April 2, 2012

I have a new obsession. Not that I needed one more thing to distract me from work, my friends, my workouts, and my blog; but my new compulsion is a dirty little itch ...

But I Don’t Want To (A Nasty Friday Pickle)
January 27, 2012

So you've found a dude and your parts are getting oiled on a regular. Congrats girl. Good on you. And bonus points if it's good and not political. Book yourself some ...

A Couple’s Best Friend
December 9, 2011

So my friends over at Lelo have come through with another amazing toy for me to school you on.

Oh You Can’t Get Sex? Here’s Why.
October 25, 2011

Last week we touched on a very hot topic around these parts - whether it's easy for a woman to get sex when she wants it. The women said no, the men said yes, and ...

Reopening A Can of Worms (Still can’t have sex whenever we want)
October 18, 2011

One of my very favourite things about this blog is getting feedback from my readers. I love it when people write me and tell me they love the blog and I love it even ...

The 10 Commandments of Casual Sex
September 21, 2011

As you guys know, I'm a big fan of casual sex. Not necessarily for me personally, but as a concept. Just had to make that clear. But what you might not know about me ...

How to Be a Jump Off Without Ruining Your Self-Esteem
August 24, 2011

As a lover of sex and a shunner of monogamy, I hold casual sex relationships in very high regard. I believe in them. And I know from personal experience that they ...

The Quiet Fuck
August 11, 2011

Let me tell you a story: once I fucked a man I'd wanted to fuck for a really long time. When the moment came that I knew it was finally going to happen, I was so ...

So You Wanna Be a Freak
July 21, 2011

The thing about being a female sex and relationships blogger is that people tend to expect things of you. Readers look to you for answers, friends expect you to ...

The Zipless F*ck
July 8, 2011

Another Friday night at another club with your girls. Your little clique dispersed ages ago; and you stand off to the side, watching the crowd and wondering why you ...

Deflowering a Virgin
July 4, 2011

So I received a great advice question via email the other day and I thought today would be a great day for a video post since the majority of you are not working. Oh ...

My First Time
May 23, 2011

So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know ...

I Wanna F*ck You
May 6, 2011

A few weeks ago I asked a random man if I could touch his hair. He had long, beautiful, well-tended to locks and the urge to feel them in my hands outweighed the ...

5 Must-Have F*cks
April 29, 2011

Here’s your daily reminder to please nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Or two. Or four and we can top last year. Go here to get all the instructions and ...

Am I Bad in Bed?
April 13, 2011

Confession: the comments on Monday’s post gave me a bit of a complex. Now I’m not the woman in the scenario, but I felt for her. Like I said, I’ve ...

Did He Use Me for Sex?
April 11, 2011

So I’m back with another reader advice question. Check out the question and my answer and then weigh in in the comments. So I met this guy about 8 months ago ...

Beauty and the Beast – Strip clubs vs. Burlesque Shows

One last guest post for you guys while I recover from my epic weekend in DC. Today we have Nubian Empress of Kinetic Culture extolling the virtues of burlesque ...

Mastering Missionary

In the world of media strategy, we use different tactics to elicit different reactions. We might make an ad with a game in it to get people to interact with our ...

The After-Sex Phone Call
March 9, 2011

Conversations among girlfriends about the first time one of them slams a dude can vary wildly depending on many things. If the sex was good the discussion will be ...

The last epic sex I had
March 4, 2011

A couple of weeks ago I was out with a group of friends. I should have been having a good time but I was horny and couldn't stop thinking about my secret lover and ...

Your Multi-Penis Policy
March 3, 2011

When you are a single woman trying to keep your parts oiled it’s imperative to give some thought to the issue of multiple sex partners. One of the beautiful ...

The Beautiful Backshot
February 25, 2011

We have another Nasty Friday guest post this week courtesy of @AO1379 who is paying homage to the wonderful backshot. Give him a warm and nasty welcome. There are ...

I had sex today
February 18, 2011

There are many good reasons to love sex. That exquisite moment when the cock slides its full length into the pussy. The sounds of bodies slamming into each other, ...

Call It Your P*ssy (A @drjayjack guest post)
February 17, 2011

The Well Respected and Connected Dr. J is back to bless us with another guest appearance.

So You Smashed the Homie
February 16, 2011

As you can see, I’m trying something different today. I’ve been getting lots of requests for video content so I’ve decided that whenever I get a ...

Sex Manners (You be the judge)
February 7, 2011

I heard an interesting story the other day about this girl I used to be friends with. Apparently she was long-distance dating a dude who lived in Ohio and after the ...

Unchartered Waters
January 25, 2011

Confession: I have a crush. This is not exactly breaking news, considering that I am rarely without one. But this latest crush is different. I don’t know this ...

The Dramatic Structure of Sex
January 21, 2011

The other night I had the most delicious daydream.

Sex, Smut, and Porn (All I Need in This Life of Sin)
January 20, 2011

I cannot start any more posts talking about the fact that I love sex. You guys already know this. Sex to me is the most important factor in my well-being. When ...

P*ssy Pic Etiquette
January 18, 2011

Ah the pussy picture. First I told you not to do it.  Then I ate my words. Now I am of the firm belief that the ability to take a hot coochie shot is an essential ...

The Men Weigh In
January 17, 2011

So! Last week was quite interesting over here, wasn't it?

Oh Baby I Like It Rough
January 14, 2011

A couple of nights ago, armed with my new laptop and a blessedly empty apartment, I settled down to watch some porn.

So Who Was Right?
January 13, 2011

Well! We had quite the interesting day over here yesterday, didn't we? For those of you who missed it, we had a lengthy debate about whether a woman can get sex any ...

No, We Actually Can’t Have Sex Any Time We Want
January 12, 2011

If you subscribe to the theory that a way of thinking can be assigned to a gender, I definitely tend to think more like a man than like a woman. But if there is one ...

You on Top
December 10, 2010

In all the years that I was with my first love, I don't think I ever rode his dick. I have no idea what the reasoning for this was, but I can only assume it was some ...

I Wish Someone Would: The Narcolepsy Edition
December 6, 2010

  And we’re back with another edition of I Wish Someone Would. This is a good one. Ready? Let’s begin. Okay so Man and Woman meet. They talk on the ...

I Tried it. And I Liked it.
December 3, 2010

As I mentioned somewhere around here recently, I wasn’t always a dirty bird. I know – it’s hard for me to believe too but it’s true. Until I ...

How Safe is Your Sex?
December 1, 2010

So I have a little story for you. As some of you guys know, in addition to this blog I also write a Sex Etiquette column on a site called PinkMafia.ca. One day I was ...

I Wish Someone Would: The Booty Call Edition
November 30, 2010

I heard a story the other day that blew my mind. It was so ridiculous I wished it had happened to me so that I could blog about it. I wanted to know what my dear ...

Dirty Things I’ve Never Done
November 19, 2010

It’s a common misconception that people who blog about sex get it a lot and it’s epic. And while that is definitely might be true, even us bloggers have ...

Signature Sex Moves
November 12, 2010

The story of me losing my virginity is so crazily epic that the actual sex has gotten lost in the details. When I tell the story (which I am not going to do here ...

5 Men I Would Like to Sleep With
November 10, 2010

So we’ve talked about the men I can’t stand, the men I might not date, and the men I’m convinced don’t exist. Let’s spend some time ...

Bad Bedroom Moves for Men
November 5, 2010

A couple of weeks ago I schooled the ladies on shit they shouldn’t be pulling in the bedroom. Men now it’s your turn. 1. The Jackhammer Okay really ...

Bad Bedroom Moves for Ladies
October 22, 2010

There are few things in life that provide more opportunity for self-expression than sex. With the right combination of people, a simple “insert tab A into slot ...

Faux Sex
October 15, 2010

As much as I love the peen, I’m pretty selective about which ones I allow to play in my garden despite what you may have heard. This of course leads to ...

Make it Mo’Better
October 8, 2010

Personally I like my sex au naturel; no frills, no soundtrack, no condoms, no soft lighting, no foreplay, and no accoutrements. To add these types of garnishes to an ...

5 Random Things that Get My Motor Running
October 5, 2010

If you measure horniness on a scale of 1-10, my resting rate is about a 4. I’m never not at least a little bit revved up and it doesn’t take much to push ...

Revisiting In Through the Out Door
September 23, 2010

I’m uninspired this week so we’re throwing it back to one of the first Nasty Friday posts. Enjoy and I’ll have something fresh for you next week. ...

An Ode to Balls
September 17, 2010

If penis is my one true love, balls are my eternal sidepiece. I really don’t know what it is about balls, but I effing love sucking them. They are just hours ...

Songs That Make Me Want to Rip Your Clothes Off
September 10, 2010

No matter how much I might be changing, I’m still a girl who loves sex. So much so that it usually doesn’t take much to get my motor running. I’ve ...

The Jump Off Code of Conduct
September 8, 2010

During a recent conversation with one of my most favourite people, the subject of ideal jump off behaviour was raised. Not rules per se, because the nature of the ...

Dr. Max Answers the Mail
September 3, 2010

Although we all get a lot of titillation on Nasty Fridays, at its heart is purpose is to educate so everyone can have better sex. Actually let me be real – the ...

Hot Talks
August 12, 2010

Those of you who have been paying attention around here should realize three things about me: 1. I like sex 2. I like talking about sex 3. I like to use the dirty ...

Very Bad Things
August 8, 2010

Please don’t forget to vote for me and your other favourite blogs for the Black Weblog Awards. All the details are right here. Those of you who follow me on ...

Cunnilingus 101
August 5, 2010

In the weeks since I wrote my post on not wanting a man to um, eat at my table, I’ve had a lot of men eat my pussy extoll the virtues of their muff-diving ...

Reckless Talk
August 3, 2010

Don’t forget to vote for me for the Black Weblog Awards! All the info you need is right here. In this day and age of casual sex, unrelationships, and random ...

Sending Your Coochie Through the Mail
July 29, 2010

With all the talk we’ve been doing about thirst these days (see this and this if you need to get caught up) I thought it might be a good idea to devote this ...

Who Doesn’t Masturbate?!? (a collabo post)
July 22, 2010

If you guys have been paying attention around here, you know two things: first, that I’m a highly sexed girl and second that I’m on a celibacy kick. And ...

Who Told You to Have Feelings (Throwback Tuesdays)

Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Observe this conversation between fcuk buddies: ...

How to Hook Up
July 5, 2010

Time’s ticking…have you nominated me for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. If there is one thing I’ve ...

First Time Fail
June 2, 2010

It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you ...

Your 101 Guide to Head
June 1, 2010

If there is one truth to life as a single woman, it is this: into every girl's mouth a penis must eventually be placed.

Good F*cking Morning
May 28, 2010

Shout-out to @HoneyMatthews for suggesting this post. For years I have bemoaned the fact that I had never had morning sex. Especially considering I spent three years ...

Hush Mama
April 30, 2010

Like most days, I spent a good amount of yesterday over at SingleBlackMale.org. And like most days, a little bit of bacchanal popped off. Like most days, my blogging ...

Older Women 101
April 28, 2010

A while back I wrote about the allure of the younger man. At that time, I hadn’t  played in the sandbox experienced the phenomenon and wondered whether there ...

The Slow Dance
April 26, 2010

I don’t know about you guys, but high school was a less than enthralling experience for me. I don’t wax nostalgic on anything about that ...

A Throwback Post – Why I Don’t Date White Guys
April 23, 2010

Sorry guys – it’s been one of those weeks. But here’s another oldie but goodie for you. Years ago when I was in school I had these two friends Adam ...

The No-Cry Zone
April 21, 2010

As a woman who is blessed with many male friends, I hear a lot of stories about sex. First-time sex in particular. And lately I’ve noticed an alarming trend ...

I Wanna Little Sugar in my Bowl
April 19, 2010

If you’ve read this blog even once before then you know I’m a pretty forthright person. Despite that, I tend to keep the more um, intimate details of my ...

5 Reasons Why You Didn’t Count
April 16, 2010

Love is a game and we all have a score. But unfortunately for all of us, your score isn’t calculated based on your virtues, it’s based on your bedmates. ...

First-Date Sex
April 14, 2010

At the end of my last first date, the dude suggested we retire to his bedroom. I laughed, thinking he was kidding. He wasn’t. He proceeded to explain to me ...

Conversations About Sex
April 12, 2010

In case you haven’t noticed, I kinda love sex. Sex comes second only to books as the true love of my life. I write about it as often as I can, think about it ...

Donkey Punches and other Liberties
March 26, 2010

I'm of the opinion that sex is like hockey - better with a little violence. Trouble is, a single woman who avoids attachments usually doesn't take time having those ...

A Throwback Post – The Little Engine that Could
March 22, 2010

I had a bit of a rough weekend with no time to write so I’m sharing a post from my old blog with you today. Many years ago I went on a date with this guy. The ...

Yuck is in the Details
March 19, 2010

I'm not a romantic woman. I don't need soft music or rose petals to get me in the mood. Whispering sweet nothings in my ear will make me throw you out of bed. I ...

No Too $hort
February 26, 2010

If there’s one thing I’ve learned from writing this blog, it’s this: no matter how nasty you think a sex act is, at least one of your friends is ...

Baby what’s your size?
February 22, 2010

One of the things women love to do is to take random facts about a man and deduce from them details about his attributes. There are many manifestations of this ...

The Thin Red Line
February 19, 2010

In a woman’s life, there is only one thing more certain than death and taxes – the arrival of Aunt Flo. Like a mini plague, the curse descends upon us ...

The Tossed Salad
February 12, 2010

With Valentine’s Day almost upon us, the internets are awash with flowery lovey-dovey posts about how to celebrate your boo on the big day. If you guys are ...

size, shape, width, and girth
February 10, 2010

Way back when I first moved to Toronto, I lived in a house with four single girls. As you can imagine, all manner of debauchery went on in that house, to the point ...

A little treat for you….
February 1, 2010

When I was a lot younger, I dated this dude. I should have known he was a bad scene because he took me to see Blade on our first date (worst.movie.EVER!). But I ...

The Sex Match
January 26, 2010

I hate the beginnings of relationships, but I do like discovering people. Meeting someone who floats your boat and getting to know them can be exciting. The first ...

Shhh…It’s a Secret!
January 22, 2010

A great man recently said “the key to a great sex life is discretion’. Not being a big proponent of discretion myself, I can’t really comment on that, but it ...

In through the Out Door
January 12, 2010

When I was young, oral sex was the thing no one admitted to. No self-respecting Black man would admit to ever eating a woman’s fruit – much less beg her to let ...

You Want to Sleep Where?!?
November 25, 2009

As I may have mentioned a time or two, I don’t like sleepovers. Now considering the fact that I’m a bachelorette for life, I would have thought that this ...

And if I can’t have it, then I’m fakin’ it
November 2, 2009

Ah the big O. I’ve talked about this before but a discussion that came up at Inside Our Heads the other night prompted me to re-examine it.  We were ...

the boy has to ask the girl to dance

If I kept a tally of all the advice I get from my girls, the #1 most-advised thing to do would have to be this: “Just ask him ____”.  As in, just ask him ...

can a bad girl turn good?
September 9, 2009

i came across this post in my google reader the other day. and while the actual content of the post was bullshit had little to do with the title, it still got me ...

The Allure of the Younger Man
September 6, 2009

Demi did it. Samantha Jones did it. Apparently Courteney Cox has a show coming out about it. It seems a younger man is the new accessory of choice for the ...

what’s your number?
September 4, 2009

Over at The Fly Guy Chronicles reading this post got me thinking about numbers…not telephone numbers (because realistically, who needs those anymore?) but the ...