Possession (50 Shades of Hot)


[dropcap]I[/dropcap] have a new obsession. Not that I needed one more thing to distract me from work, my friends, my workouts, and my blog; but my new compulsion is a dirty little itch I can’t stop scratching. I try to stop myself, knowing I should ration it, stretch it out, make it last, but I just can’t stop myself. It’s like drugs.

That obsession is of course the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy and let me tell you something: you need these books in your life. Just google the title and you’ll see that people are going apeshit over these books. They’ve been dubbed “mommy porn” but don’t let that dissuade you. Unless suburban mommies around the globe have been hanging around here on Nasty Fridays, these books are way hotter than anything they’ve experienced. Even a certified perv such as myself has had to put the books down and rub one out on many an occasion. These books take smut to a whole nother level.

But while the sheer hawtness of the books alone is reason enough to cop them, there is another, more interesting aspect to the stories that I find really compelling. Without giving too much of the story away, the books centre around a couple with a dark side. The woman – young, naive, and inexperienced – falls for the man who is powerful, domineering, and heavily in to BDSM. This makes not only for some seriously panty-soaking sex scenes, but also for an endless power struggle between the two of them.

What distinguishes the books from regular garden-variety porn (which  – don’t get me wrong – is a beautiful thing) is how the theme of possession and domination manifests not only in their bedroom (and playroom, but you’ll have to read the books to find out more about that) but throughout their life. The man seeks to control, possess, and dominate his woman in every aspect of her life and her struggle to find a middle ground between being the submissive partner he wants and being a self-actualized person in her own right is really interesting.

See as far as I can tell, there are three types of women in the world: those who refuse to be controlled, possessed, or dominated by their man in any way shape or form (aka single women), those who say they want it but chafe against possession the minute it interrupts her plans, and those who are able to submit to their men without having an existential crisis about it.

Most women think they’re #3 when they’re actually #2. That’s where I am, and that’s where homegirl in the book is a lot of the time. And from observing her struggle in the books, I wonder whether it’s even possible in this day and age for any woman to succeed at being fully possessed. It’s all well and good for a man to tell you your pussy belongs to him and he can do what he wants with it, but what about your wardrobe? Your social circle? Your career? Your name?

To hear mr. man in the book tell it, everything about his woman belongs to him. He has the final say in every aspect of her life. And her punishment for defying him is swift, often brutal, and fucking hot. When I read the books, I find myself shaking my head at her perpetual disobedience. Unlike most men, he makes his expectations crystal clear, so why doesn’t she just do what the fuck he says? But I know from my own experience that it’s easier said than done.

Or maybe she just disobeys him because his punishments always involve blindfolds, handcuffs, and earth-shattering orgasms. I can get with that.

Whether you want to possess your woman or be possessed by your man or not, these books are definitely worth checking out. Worst case scenario, you get some food for thought about what the ideal relationship dynamic should be. Best case, you get that and some very pleasant throbbing in your nether regions.

But what do you guys think? Have any of you read the books? Did it make you want to hand someone a riding crop and encourage them to go to town, or were you horrified by the perversion? How does the theme of possessing or being possessed manifest in your relationships? Speak on it in the comments.

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  1. Nyangi says:

    I want this book now!!

    1. max says:

      If you’re skilled in the art of downloading torrents, there are lots of them out there for the ebook. Not that I advocate piracy, I’m just saying 🙂

  2. Tracey says:

    I am just about finished with Book 2, AND I just started dating someone to whom I shared the concepts of control, obedience, submission, bondage and the like. Oh man, is he on board! After spending the weekend with him I came home with a red bottom due to breaking a number of “forgotten” rules 😉

    There is something completely erotic and fulfilling in being completely submissive to your man. I trust this man, else I wouldn’t be dating him, so I have no problem whatsoever with him telling me what to do and how to do it.

    What I love about the discipline and control is that it provides both individuals with what they need. I need the discipline and I GIVE UP control to my man. He might not have the need to control in certain situations but he really likes effin me, so he is willing to do whatever I ask, even if it means beating the shit out of me!

    1. max says:

      Sounds like this man is a keeper. You better tie him up and keep him close (#seewhatididthere?)

  3. Krista Joy says:

    I really want that book. It sounds really interesting.
    I think I’m the type two woman, one who thinks can submit but when it runs me down I boot. But I think I have a fear for submition cause I watched my mum do it only to be run down on. *sigh* talk about having issues. But besides that, I WANT that book(s)

    1. max says:

      Just focus on the important part: get the book. You won’t be sorry.

    2. Tracey says:

      I am a control freak, so finding someone who I can playfully but the semi-serious give all the control to… shew….it’s like a vacation. Submitting, or being submissive doesn’t mean you give up control to someone who is domineering, it means that you trust your man to make decisions and take actions that have your best interests(or his) in mind.

      I’m sorry that you’ve had some bad experiences in your life, but because of that I think you will especially find this book “freeing”, pardon the pun. I bought all 3 for my Kindle and can read on the Kindle Cloud reader, my Smartphone, my Kindle everywhere! It’s too hot to do it in public. 😉


  4. MysticGoddess says:

    Just put the book on my kindle after reading your post. Wow………this book is hot !

    Thanks for pointing the way to this book.

    *Fans self as she continues reading*

  5. Krista Joy says:

    *sigh* I have to wait till the book hits the bookstores in my country. Or do you have a link I can download the e book? Are e books equally good?

    1. max says:

      Send me an email (max@max-logic.com) and I’ll hook you up 🙂

  6. Alexis says:

    Im a huge romance novel freak, and I cannot believe I have never heard of these novels! I’m going to start reading ASAP! I wish I had a man who can take control and possess me in the bedroom. I have to admit part of it is my fault, since I like being in control of all I do, but a change in the bedroom can be just the balance I’m seeking. I’m off to read these novels!

  7. LC says:

    I will definitely need to try these books out! I absolutely think I am in the number 3 category. I love erotica featuring dominant men. (It literally gives me chills in places I didn’t even know I had places!) But when it comes to real life situations, my bossy, feminist self can’t let go enough to “submit.” I don’t even like that word outside of my erotic fantasies!

    For now, I will stick to the books and this trilogy will be my next frontier. Thanks for sharing!

    1. LC says:

      Oops! I meant number 2 category.

      1. Alexis says:

        Then you’ll love these books. I just started reading the first book and I’m not very into that kinda stuff but this book is definitely making my skin tingle. It’s worth trying out.

  8. Manny says:

    The funny thing is that this was a Fanfiction I read a year ago. Wow, great that she’s gotten so much success from it. I’m gonna read it and see how it’s changed.

  9. Mrs. Brightside says:

    Max I went and bought the book this past weekend and I just wanted to say thank you for suggesting it. I knew you wouldn’t steer me wrong. Heavy sigh.

  10. Nikki Bee (@nikkib1920) says:

    I flew through the first two books and couldn’t wait for the ebook of book three, so I bought it. To me it was a hot story, hotter sex scenes and just as you said, the struggle to be both submissive and self actualized.

    Nice assessment!!

    Yes, the books were worth it in my opinion.

  11. Tamara says:

    I’m going to have to check out these books. This is about the twentieth time this week I’ve heard someone rave over them. I definately alternate between type #2 and #3. A little bedroom control is fine but I start getting the need to flee when control starts to erupt in real-clothes-on-day-to-day-life. Which is funny because a lot of men don’t even realize that they are being controlling. Anyway, I must check out the books. Great review. Peaked my interest!

  12. Ekute ile says:

    now i’m interested in that book….i hope i can get it here in Brussels though……and yes, you are right…loads of women are in the 2nd category.

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