Ah men. If ever there were a more frustrating, more infuriating, more baffling creature than a man in a relationship, I don't know what it is. Nothing, but nothing, can make a woman want to bang her head against a wall more than the man with whom she is currently involved. When men get up to their antics, it's understandable for their women to want to inflict harm on them. And since domestic violence of that nature is frowned upon, your next best bet is to lash out with words.
When a woman gets vex with her man, she will use every tool in her verbal arsenal to inflict hurt on him. She’ll fling the most hurtful words she can find at him. Call him an asshole, insult his limp dick, threaten him with other men who are waiting to take his place, insinuate that she’ll give her pussy away, she’ll say what she has to to get him to feel a fraction of the frustration she’s feeling. And while I don’t condone saying shit in anger that you really don’t mean, I can certainly understand the inclination to do so.
I believe that there is one thing that is crossing the line. One thing that takes a woman from being frustrated and angry to being a deranged harridan. One thing that ensures that no productive resolution is coming to whatever disagreement she’s currently having wither her man. One a woman should never, ever, ever say to a man, in anger or otherwise:
You need to step up and be a man.
I’ll tell you guys in all honesty that I have never in my life said this to a man, and I don’t want to hear about you guys ever saying it either. Even if it’s true, even if it’s obvious, even if everyone else in the world says it, the ladies of max-logic do not say this to their men.
Why? Because it’s fucking stupid.
For one thing, ladies I think you’re a bit out of line to advise anyone that he needs to “be a man” when you a) are not a man yourself and b) probably wouldn’t have the first clue how to be a man if you had to. Do you even know what it means to be a man when you say this? Or do you really mean “you need to step up and do what I want you to do?” Which, by the way is likely the opposite of being a man. As far as I’m concerned, saying this to a man amounts to speaking out of school and you deserve to have your knuckles rapped for it.
But even if you are right and the man in question does in fact need to step up and be a man, is this the appropriate way to make that happen? Do you really think that hurling this at the height of your anger is going to be the catalyst that brings about the change? Really? Come on now ladies – you know how fucking contrary men are – do you really think is that all it takes to get your man to “step up” and handle his business is for you to say this to him? Get real.
Call me a traitor to my gender, call me a penis-panderer, call me what you will, but I must say this: a lot of the time when women are saying this, they are entirely full of shit. Yes there are times when women say “step up and be a man” and they mean “step up and feed your children, provide for your family, lead your household”. But more often when a woman says step up and be a man she means “step up and buy me shoes, take me on a trip, eat my pussy, pay attention to me”. And while those are not necessarily unreasonable demands, they are probably not what equates to being a man. Ladies you need to learn to use your words when you’re arguing. Actually let me stop – you need to learn to argue less. But that’s another post for another day. The point is, if there is something you need from your man that you’re not getting, there are better more effective ways of expressing that and bringing about a change than this stupid shit.
I don’t mean to suggest for a moment that there are not an astonishing amount of males running around who are not handling their business. I know they’re out there and I know all too well how maddening they can be. But telling your beau “you need to step up and be a man” is not the answer ladies, I can promise you that. I bet you I can’t get 10 women to leave a comment on here with a story of a time she said that to her man and he actually stepped up and changed. It’s not that men don’t need to hear this when they’re fucking up, but he needs to hear it from his mentor, his boy, his father – his mother even. He doesn’t need to hear it from you.
So women I implore you in the name of happy relationships everywhere to find a better way to express your displeasure. Actually scratch imploring. Let me warn you instead – if I ever hear of any of my female readers saying some wack shit like this to her man I will come to your city and punch you right in your throat.
What do you guys think – is there ever a reason a woman should be saying this to a man? Are there 10 women out there who can prove me wrong? Speak your piece in the comments.