So to shed some much-needed light on this discussion, the Sardonically-Barbed one is here to weigh in on why we gals just can’t seem to get our itches scratched when we need to.
Women don’t understand men as much as they think they do.
Let’s talk about sex.
Specifically, let’s talk about the idea of getting sex “whenever we want”
Everyone knows what the general consensus is (be it true or false)
Women can get sex whenever they want.
Now one of my favorite bloggers Max delves deep into this issue and she makes some salient points about the inability of women to harness that particular superpower.
However she neglects one very basic fact of life.
Men. Like. To. Hunt.
Let’s set the groundwork.
Men know that they get horny all the time.
So when we are not in a loving and fulfilling relationship (read: getting sex on the regular) we tend to sow lots of “seeds of interest”.
That is we at least test the waters for potential partners so that when we are hit with “sudden onset konji” we have options other than blue balls or lotion.
Now it’s quite possible that women are completely unfamiliar with SOK and the helplessness it sometimes instills in its victims.
But I don’t think that’s it.
Society has frowned upon lascivious women. So they have hidden their symptoms well enough, so much so that even a man that they’re interested in wont notice.
Not only do men not know what to look for in a deeply horny woman, but we’ve been trained so well by women that the mere idea that the girl we’re interested in could one day be uncontrollably horny…is well…anathema.
So Miss X, you’re horny.
And you actually want to get some.
So what do you do?
You pick up the phone and you proposition the guy at the top of your List-that-will-never-be-seen.
Now this guy may or may not have had sex with you in the past
But the truth is that if you weren’t feeling particularly frisky, that dude would not have a chance.
At least not a chance that wasn’t prevaricated by dinner, movies, alcohol, and copious amounts of conversation.
So you call him up and you serve up sex with you on a platter.
That guy MUST turn it down.
If he ever wants to have sex with you again (as in multiple times)? He has to…
Because he didn’t catch you.
He didn’t break you down
He didn’t lure you in, make you comfortable, and then swoop in for his target like the avenging eagle he is.
You devalued the prize.
And rather than take it in its “less-than” state, he decided to forgo it and you until you’re past your moment of weakness and its worth something again.
So yes, women CAN get sex whenever they want.
They just have to make the guy work for it
(or at least make him think he’s working for it)
If women knew men as well as they thought they did, then they would know this simple rule.
It actually shocks me that they don’t
And that many are still confused as to why a man would turn down goodies when proffered.
So what do you guys think? Men do you agree that pussy that is freely offered is not worth taking? Women do you think this is why you can’t get it when you want it? Weigh in with your thoughts in the comments.