Reopening A Can of Worms (Still can’t have sex whenever we want)
One of my very favourite things about this blog is getting feedback from my readers. I love it when people write me and tell me they love the blog and I love it even more when they say I'm their friend in their head. I love when readers ask for advice and I love when they follow up with me to tell me what happened when they followed it. But what I love most of all is when people write me to say "Max you were right".
So earlier this year we had a bit of bacchanal on the blog when I innocently wrote a post called No, We Actually Can’t Have Sex Any Time We Want. I had no idea when I wrote it that chaos would ensue the way it did – like I said at the time, the very idea that a woman can just snap her fingers and get fucked is so preposterous that I cannot believe a post needs to be written about it. But despite my very compelling explanation of what goes down when a woman tries to get some impromptu sex, the men refused to see sense.
To prove my point, I conducted an experiment to prove to men that I couldn’t get sex easily just because I wanted it. Yet despite incontrovertible evidence, the men again refused to see sense. Refusing to be thwarted, two of my favourite male readers went on to conduct their own experiment that proved that men cannot just send raw dog requests for sex and get it, but still did absolutely nothing to disprove the original contention – that a woman cannot get sex just by asking for it.
We never did come to see eye-to-eye on this subject, but after a while I had to let it go. I got so tired of trying to explain this basic and obvious concept to men that I struck it from my conversational repertoire and vowed never to discuss it again.
But still, it niggled at me. Somewhere in the back of my mind I knew I’d have to write about this again, because I will not rest until men are made to see that getting sex is not easy for a woman. But I decided to just be easy and wait for the right time to reopen this can of worms.
Then fate – in the form of a homegirl and faithful max-logic reader – intervened with a frustrated text message on Sunday:
“I just want it to be known that getting sex from mnen when YOUR want it is not easy and anyone who says it is can kick rocks”.
To which I promptly replied “RIGHT?!? This is what I keep trying to tell them!”.
My girl went on to tell me a story that hurt me to my very core. She did everything right. She made her intention clear: sex. She provided a 48-hour window of opportunity. And she chose a candidate AND back up. And still….my girl is unfucked.
Something is wrong with this world.
She had been in contact with guy number one all week long. He knew and she knew that come Friday night some shit was gonna go down. But what does he do? Takes a double shift at work just because. Okay, fine, he’s entitled to handle his business. Maybe we prioritize ass over money, doesn’t mean he has to right? But then on Saturday he has some meeting to attend. Okay fine – do your thing. But then Saturday night came and my girl did not. Because this dude decided to go riding his motorcyle. For real? Next day he decided to do some other random shit – maybe it was important, but who cares? Point is, he had pussy waiting for him on a platter and he decided to do all kinds of bullshit rather than step up and take it.
See what I’m saying?
And lest you think this is an aberration, don’t forget that my girl had a backup in place as well. They made plans during the week that they would get it in on the weekend. Then the weekend came and once again the poor girl did not. Why? Because he was “busy”.
If every girl on the planet had a dollar for every time a man was too busy to fuck her, there would be a lot of dollars in the world.
I think my girl’s story here pretty much proves once again that it is not easy for a woman to get sex when she wants it. Nor do men come running every time we flash a little pussy in their direction. We have to work at it, just like men do. Women – do you agree? Men – what say you now?