This week on Ask Max we have a rare male reader question and we're talking about one of my favourite topics - dicks. Is it possible for a man to have a healthy sex life when he has a small penis?
Hey Max Love your site! You seem to be a very liberated woman with regard to sex. My issue stems from the fact that I think I have a small penis. I’m 24 and never had sex. I feel like as a Black man, I have a penis inadequacy compared to what Black women want or are used to. My whole life the only penises I’ve had to compare mine to were the Tiny’s, Justin Slayer’s, Lex Steeles of the world. I read scientific surveys, a few other websites, and even a funny post about another Black male and him “suffering” with an average penis. My question is can you have a real sex life with an (sub)standard six inch penis? Will women similar to yourself give a smaller guy a chance? I hope I can overcome my hang-up regarding this, sometimes I feel like life isn’t worth living, never being able to be intimate with a woman.
Buddy, in a few minutes you are gonna be so glad you asked me this question.
See, the politically correct thing for me to say is that there is no reason for you to feel any type of way about your dick size. The proper thing for me to do would be to spout all kinds of statistics about how the average dick size is 3-4 inches from tip to base (source) or some such reassuring figure. If I were a bit better behaved, I would tell you that the nerves in the vagina are concentrated in the lower third and most women have very few nerve endings and therefore very little sensitivity in the upper two thirds, thus making a big dick a waste.
But lucky for you I’m lawless and that means I’ll tell you the truth.
The truth is that – whether it makes physiological sense or not – most women care about dick size. Some women consider a big dick to be the sexual equivalent of winning the lottery, a few crazy women prefer something small that is not going to make her feel like her organs are being shifted. Either way, a woman who has plans to fuck you is waiting with bated breath to see how big your dick is and she’s sighing when she finally sees it; either in relief or disappointment.
So yeah, if you do in fact have a small dick, women are going to think something about it. But only the most unreasonable of women are going to refuse to fuck you because of it. So while I definitely don’t think you need to let the smallness of your cock make you sit out the sex game, I do think you need to take steps to mitigate your circumstances.
Step 1: Get over yourself
Boy, the thing women like more than anything else is confidence. So please get over your little complex and start believing that – small dick or not – you can blow backs out with the best of them. Women are lemmings and the easiest way to get a woman to want to fuck you is to act like you already know that she wants to fuck you. So you just strut around like your 1.5 inches are the most powerful 1.5 inches since the Lelo Mia and you’ve won half the battle right there.
Step 2: Get your peripherals in order
I’m gonna tell you a secret: some of the best sex I’ve ever had in my life was with a man who had a small dick. I’m not proud of it, but it’s true. Because although he lacked the ability to give me that filled to bursting feeling that comes with a gigantic cock, everything else about the sex was in order. He knew how to talk dirty like no one else and dropped the magic line at exactly the right moment. He was rough in exactly the way I like to be roughed up. He could bring me to bust just with some artful fingering and he ate pussy like a fucking champ. By the time he stuck his dick inside me I was so open I didn’t even notice how big it was.
Step 4: Assume the position
There are certain sexual positions in which men with big dicks stay winning. For example, if there is a single greater experience in life than the missionary position with a man with a giant cock, I’ve not experienced it yet. But by the same token, there are certain other things that just don’t work with a mammoth dick. So my advice to you is to master the positions that best showcase the advantages of your small stature. The good folks over at AskMen.com break it down over here, but just as a for instance I would advise you to become a master of doggie style fucking. Because nothing says I’m about to choke to death like getting fucked hard from the back by a giant dick.
At the end of the day, the most important thing I can tell you is to stop letting your reservations about your dick size stop you from living your life. You need to get fucked my friend! Immediately! Just give it a shot and you’ll see that – while I’d never lie to you and say that size doesn’t matter – the size of your dick is not as big a deal as you’re making it out to be. And even if it is, you should always err on the side of fucking. Always.
That’s my advice – what say you readers? Women how much do you care about the size of a man’s dick? Men – I know just about none of you are going to participate in a discussion about another man’s dick size so I guess I’ll just see you in the comments tomorrow.