From Christina: “I really stumped on what this guy’s intentions are and I was hoping you would help me make light of it. I knew this guy for about 7 months now, we met in college.I didn’t like him but, he grew on me. Last semester I had a non-serious friends with benefits situation with [...]
“I really stumped on what this guy’s intentions are and I was hoping you would help me make light of it. I knew this guy for about 7 months now, we met in college.I didn’t like him but, he grew on me. Last semester I had a non-serious friends with benefits situation with him but, we never had sex. Anyways, of course, I fell for him and he played me. So, with the summer coming I decided to just lose all contact with him. It worked for about a half of month and then he texts me. Now has been texting me everyday for the summer but, never calls. Even when I suggest that he calls me sometime he brushes it off. What are his intentions? Whats the point? I’m confused. Is he just bored? If you could throw some of your opinion in it ..it would be appreciated.”
So I’m trying something different this week and giving you guys and audio response rather than a video because I spent the day moving furniture and I am not fit for human consumption right now. You can listen to my response or read it below:
Ah Christina. Dear, sweet, young Christina. I want to go in on you right now but I’m going to refrain because it’s clear you’re a little green. But your problem dear Christina is that you are playing a big girl’s game that you are clearly not ready for. First of all, I want to talk to you about this friends with benefits situation you got in that did not involve sex. Christina my love, you’re missing the point! What benefits are you getting if you’re not fucking? And please for the love of God do not say cuddling.
Secondly, how did you let yourself be played by a FwB that you weren’t even fucking? That is not the way it’s supposed to go. Not at all. If you’re going to allow yourself to be played you might as well have just been in a relationship. And you tried to cut him off and only lasted two weeks? What did this man put on you?
Now on to your question. What are his intentions? He intends to make sure he can still smash. Or whatever the equivalent of smashing is in your sexless relationship. He’s keeping you warm; just to make sure that if he decides to come back and interfere with you he won’t have to start from scratch. That way, if one of the women he is paying real attention to is ever not available, he still has you as an option to give him whatever he needs at the moment he needs it.
If I were you I would declare the time of death on this one. Just quit responding to his texts until he gets bored of you. Sadly it probably will not take very long to do that. Then delete his number and move on with your life. And the next time you embark on a FwB relationship, make sure you’re getting the full benefits!
That’s my advice, what do you guys think? Anyone think this man’s intentions are honourable? Should she try to make things work with him? Give Christina some guidance in the comments.