And we're back with another advice question. This one comes from Kyra and she writes: So basically I've known this guy for about 7 years and recently decided to take it to the next level which might have been a huge mistake. I hate Facebook & how he can "poke" me but will not message, call or text back! Oh did I mention we were both in long term relationships? They both ended for different reasons. I find myself thinking about this guy all the time (not like on a stalker-ish type level ) I'm pretty much stuck & I don't know what to do. Should I let it go or try and talk it out??
Watch the video to see my response.
For those of you who can’t view the video, what I basically said is that I’m of two minds here. On the one hand, my innate girl-logic immediately leads me to the conclusion that this dude is just not feeling her for whatever reason and she should just write him off and move on with her life. I mean really – poking? We’re still doing that? Come on now.
On the other hand I’m reminded of the advice a wise man once gave me which is that some men are stupid when it comes to communicating effectively with women. Sometimes the legitimately don’t know any better. So if she’s really feeling this dude – which it seems she is – it might be worth her while to just say something to him. In a light hearted, non-bitchy, non-demanding way, she should let it be known that she would like to actually converse with him, rather than just being the recipient of endless pokes. Because again, really – are we still poking people?
At the end of the day, we would all be better off if we erred on the side of over-communicating. Too many situations in life get fucked up because everyone is making assumptions about what’s going on in everyone else’s mind instead of just growing some stones an speaking on it. So be a big girl and tell this boy no more poking!
That’s my take on it – what say you guys? Would you bother to address it or just move on with your life? Weigh in with your advice in the comments.