Any 10 on Tuesday with @MrSpradley
2011
This week on Any 10 on Tuesday we have the fan favourite The Most Interesting Man in the World. If you know him you love him and wish he wasn’t married. If you don’t, get caught up. Ready? Let’s get to it. Describe yourself in three sentences or less. I believe in God and his [...]
This week on Any 10 on Tuesday we have the fan favourite The Most Interesting Man in the World. If you know him you love him and wish he wasn’t married. If you don’t, get caught up.
Ready? Let’s get to it.
Describe yourself in three sentences or less.
I believe in God and his son Jesus! I have an unwavering belief in my own ability to shape my reality. I am the most interesting man in the world.
1. Is there something about your life or lifestyle that makes your perspective on dating/relationships unique?
Due to an interesting set of life circumstances, I ended up being raised by a team of really great black women. My grandmother, her daughter, and my grandmothers two sisters (My Great Aunts) probably had the biggest influence on the person I grew into. Much of what I know and understand about women comes from the fact that I’ve been managing relationships with women for my entire life. I learned early what it means to live with a woman, what a woman expects from a man she loves, the subtle differences in how sexes communicate, and just how deep a woman’s love can go. My best friends are almost all women, and I’ve ‘known’ many women in my time.
Also, I’m going into my 5th year of marriage, nothing teaches more about what it takes to create a successful relationship than having a successful relationship. The first 5 years of marriage are like the first 5 years a bluechip NBA player spends with the team that drafted him. After that first 5 years is up, you renegotiate your contract and re-up for another 5 or … you take your talents to South Beach. We’re in the process of renegotiating our contract with one another and I’m 100% certain we’ll re-sign with each other. She’s not demanding a trade, nor am I.
2. To what extent are you willing to adapt this lifestyle to that of your partner?
When it comes to interpersonal relationships, I think I’m a bit too controlling to adapt to someones lifestyle. I’m not controlling in a deliberate, mean, heavy handed sort of way. I think I just have a subtly dominant sort of personality. In most of my relationships, eventually, the person I’m with just begins to see things my way on most issues.
3. Thong or boyshorts?
I don’t have a preference.
4. Could you be in a relationship that is not monogamous? Why or why not?
Not a committed relationship – no. I think the point to committing to each other is to say that, I’m with you and no one else, and you’re with me and no one else. Now, I have been in relationships that didn’t have those sorts of boundaries. But, I don’t consider those to be real relationships. We were just enjoying each other’s company for an undefined period of time.
5. True or false: it is rude for a man not to call the woman the day after he slams for the first time.
True.
6. If you were alone in your boy/girlfriend’s house, would you snoop?
I’m too confindent in my own ability to control the person I’m with to ever consider snooping. Snooping, for me, would mean admitting that I’d lost the measure of control necessary to compel the person I was with to #1: Be incapable of infidelity and #2: Be compelled to tell me if they were even considering keeping something from me.
7. What is your favorite sexual position?
Missionary, with her ankles at my ears and my hands gripping her shoulders rendering her completely incapable of sliding all over the bed or from using her legs as leverage in preventing me from inserting every glorious inch of myself into her.
8. Name the most interesting place you have had sex.
In a car while parked on a pier at dusk.
11. What is something you have always wanted to try, but haven’t yet?
Sex with someone who intimidates me.
12. Best piece of relationship advice you’ve ever been given?
“Now that you’re married, don’t be in a rush to have kids.” All of my married friends with kids told me this. It’s not that they hate their kids, but, that it’s that having kids changes everything. It’s a much bigger jump to go from being a married couple with no kids, to being a married couple with kids, than it is a to go from being two people in a serious, long term relationship to being a married couple. That’s an awkward sentence, I hope you all get what I’m saying though.
14. What is the most sensitive spot on your body?
I am easily tickled… pretty much all over.
16. What is your most embarrassing sexual experience?
First time I experienced love with no protection I lasted, maybe two or 3 strokes.
17. What’s your fatal flaw in relationships?
I don’t know that I have one. My wife is pretty happy I must say. If anything, I guess it’s that I’m almost completely detached from my emotions. I don’t really feel things the way most people do. It’s a gift and a curse. I love my wife, but, I choose to love her. I don’t really feel those warm, fuzzy feelings people normally associate with love.
18. If you had a super power what would it be? Why?
I saw a preview for a new movie where a dude takes a pill that gives him the ability to use 100% of his brain’s power, instead the 20% we’re able to use normally. If I had any super power, I think I’d want to be able to use all of my brain. That would be dope because, the power is already there, it’s just untapped. Instead of finding a ring and the ring giving you power, or, having power because you came from another planet, or not really having power, but having a lot of money to buy cool gadgets to accentuate your advanced martial arts skills, being able to access 100% of your brain’s ability just means you get to be able to be the absolute best version of yourself you could possibly be.
19. What turns you on?
Women who are really comfortable in their own skin. I like a woman who’s sure of herself with her clothes on, and with her clothes off. I’m very comfortable with myself and I think sex is best when both people are totally comfortable with themselves. It allows you to be free of inhibition and to let go, and just do what comes natural. Seeing a woman be completely comfortable in her own skin makes me think she’s probably great in bed… and that’s turns me on.
21. What would the title of your autobiography be?
On the Shoulders of Giants
22. What’s the first thing you notice in a woman?
Face. I am, above all else, a sucker for a pretty face. Throw in a nice smile and a great set of pearly whites, and I’m good.
24. If your friend was cheating, would you tell their partner?
I respect the G-Code.
25. Name three famous women you’d put a hurting on if you had the chance.
Keri Hilson, Phylicia Rashad as Aunt Polly, Jill Scott
27. Do you know what a dirty sanchez is?
Yes, but only from googling it after reading this question on the first Any 10 Tuesday.
28. Have you ever been caught masturbating?
Nope.
You guys know what to do right? Weigh in, discuss, heckle in the comments.
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A few things:
1. On The Shoulder Of Giants. Wow.
2. Your name fits… well almost all the way.
3. One of the best Any 10′s ever.
Not better than mine though4. I hate numbering things. Don’t know why I started… *shrug*
Enough said.
Finally, a man agrees to missionary being his favourite position. Most people who fall in this category are stereotyped as lazy…which I hate because I love this position as well.
Word! I love missonary
its my favorite… with ALL the variations!!!
I approve this statement!!!!
I think some women can be lazy about missionary. But, a good partner will know how to throw it back and work her hips even when she’s on the bottom…
co-sign up, down, all around. Missionary is my fave, but guys always want to do some yoga, downward facing dog type of position. smh…
Bwhahahahaha… Yoga is not my friend.
That movie looks pretty interesting, and it sure doesn’t hurt that Bradley Cooper is starring in it.
A) Nice suit is there is one thing I am jealous of fit ninjas (pause) its how much better they look in suits compared to big ninjas (pause again)
B) Co sign 11, 16, 18 and 24 Bradley Cooper is the man (pause 3x #chrisbrown)
C) All comments made in points A and B are perfectly heterochexual observations and in no way should discourage any woman from giving me the buns.
No offense but I don’t understand how he could be a fan favorite. I didn’t like his answers about controlling the woman he is with. After reading this it doesn’t make me interested in reading his blog at all. Athough he is nice on the eyes.
I can see how this would be a little off-putting for someone to read. I didn’t really expect those answers to go over too well, but, figured I’d err on the side of honesty.
As far as being controlling, I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing and it’s not something I do by choice, it’s just a product of my personality. I eventually grew to consider it a responsibility. At a certain point in my life, I realized that when it comes to women, I need to admit to myself the influence I was having over the ones I was dealing with. Doing this was a major reason why I got married. Aside from deciding to love my wife and be with her, it was also my way of accepting responsibility (to a certain extent) for growing impact I have on her.
So yeah, I can understand how that might make someone feel some kind of way… and, I don’t think my blog is for everybody, I definitely don’t shy away from offending over there, so, I totally understand if you don’t want to read.
Thanks for saying I’m nice on the eyes though… I appreciate that.
Interesting Any 10 from a married person’s perspective!
But like Average Chick, the whole “controlling” thing made me turn my head to the side like “huh?”
MOST! I didn’t know you were so friggin handsome! I love the Q&A format….Max you are rolling over here! I love it!
Thanks Queen… that made me smile.
Sounds like a textbook narcissist to me.
My thoughts exactly when I was reading.
I always thought Most was a pretty standup guy. There’s just not that many people I can have a conversation with and feel challenged or enlightened.
I appreciate this homey… I enjoy, and value our conversations as well.
Agreed @Menelaus (even tho I have no idea why you go by this alias, another discussion for another time I guess).
I came across TheMost on SBM, when I first wrote a few guest posts for them and not knowing the community very well, I appreciated that (although I believe we agreed on nothing) he was respectful and challenged what I said. Even made me question myself on a few points – I mean I never changed my mind because I always think I’m right; otherwise, why would I say it – but I can always respect someone who can agree to disagree while making a sound and valid argument without reverting to cuss words and labeling everyone who disagrees with them “an idiot.” Sadly, this is more difficult to find on the Internets than it should be.
Respect.
i agree with average chick, overall i wasn’t too thrilled about his answers. Not only did he seem overly confidant (not attractive) but i too did not like the controlling statements. It seemed like he wanted things his way and would only allow another to have their way if only it suited him. But if it works for his wife, thats all that matters. Also, is it just me or did most of the Any 10 Tuesday guests answer
that a car was the most interesting place they had sex?
I liked this 10 with Most although until he clarified I was a bit concerned as well. Question, Most you’re like 27/28 right? If you’re going on 5 years of marriage you got married at like 22/23? You were ready to turn in your player card so young? Btw, your answer describing yourself warmed my heart.
Hey BP,
Yeah I got engaged at 22 and married at 23. I’m 27 now.
Never really attached much value to the player card. Even as a young, single dude, I valued spending time and getting to know women 1 at the time. There are a great deal of other things that went into the decision. Being a husband just suits me. I’m way better at being a husband than I was at being a single person, and I take pride in being a really great husband.
Awww…(claps for Most). When I was married, I took alot of pride in being a wife…a good one at that.
I actually enjoyed this Any 10 and getting a response from someone married. I feel like it’s in a man’s nature to feel in control so honestly I thought nothing of it and appreciated his honesty. Most of us women intrinsically feel that we are in control as well, so what’s so different? I also busted out laughing at my computer…Aunt Polly? lol
Phylicia Rashad was so bad in Polly. My gosh. And she had crazy style on the low too.
As always I love and appreciate Mr. Spradley’s honesty. If someone didn’t know him via Twitter and/or his blog then I could see how his answers could be off-putting. However, I know him from both so the answers weren’t suprising. #7 made me swoon, I fully co-sign #18, and #25 made me laugh (Aunt Polly?!).
Good job, sir
Thanks MsEsquire you know have have all sorts of e-love for you!
I can’t wait to give you my thoughts
unsolicited, of course#16 made me snicker. I’d never give up that information voluntarily.
Good job Most & Maxie
I mean, it was like an epic 2 or 3 strokes though!
Not that this matters to any of the answers above (which I thought were fabulous by the way. Any man who admits to being controlling in his relationship is a tad arrogant but I find that quality sexy in my opinion). Nevertheless, my question……
What’s your astrological sign?
(My guess is you’re a water sign – Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio – or maybe even a Leo. Please humor me. Thank you.)
Hi Lippz,
To answer your question, I’m a cancer.
I don’t think he is a water sign but definitely a cardinal sign (Cancer-unlikely, Libra – possible, Aries, or Capricorn). All cardinal signs are leaders and don’t like to be bossed around. However, like I wrote before I have never read his blog. Judging by his answers to me he is either a Libra (cause he’s good looking) or a Capricorn. I could be wrong though.
Swoon all up and through this post! The control part didn’t bother me one bit. I think it is the responsibility of a man to take the lead role in a marriage and family. I grew up with a strong male influence(gramps) and I loved seeing the way my grandparents marriage worked. He wasn’t a dictator but we definitely knew who was the head of the house.
Salute! to Mr.Most
Agreed.
Damn you Most for overtaking my comment record!
Right Now, my
questionablerole models in life areChris Brown (Young, Handsome, Rich)
Michael Jordan (Ultra-Competitive)
Trey Songz (What Alot Of Black Women Are Lusting After At The Moment
Even though he like men & trannys)If I can be a combination of all the good qualities of those men… I could die a happy man…
I like Most because he is very articulate, mature
(which I lack at the moment)& has a deep, profound grasp on life… Definitely in the running as one of my mentorsOn another note
Women prove to ME OVER & OVER again (& Max agrees with me see: max-logic.com/2009/09/13/honesty-is-the-best-policy/) being honest (especially with women) is more of a CON than a PRO
I think alot of women like to be dominated & controlled & resent men who are not dominant & and a bit controlling…
(I have the many rejections to prove it), if it was up to me, as a slightly piscean feminine male, with the right woman, I would love her to run the relationship… But I be on Fantasy Island from time to time…Brother Most, Question…
You have been married for 5 years, no seeds… How did you pull that off… Were you not trying to have kids… Or was the collective attitude was “if it happens, it happens”…
I have no kids, and I am ANAL about my sexual health & the women I lay with… And I would do my best not to procreate unintentionally (I like to try to have a baby, to no avail…)
Good Post Max & Most
Adonis,
Thanks for the love on this homey. To answer your question, Mrs.Most and I have made a conscious effort to not have children.
Everyone says that everything changes when you get married. This is true in a lot of ways, but, if you were not the type of guy that was interested in being with lots of different women, then, the difference is way less pronounced. Had we had kids before we got married, or, right after we got married, then everything would have changed because we would have had to become parents. I think my wife and I like each other a whole lot, and we enjoy each others company. We like to travel, and we like to go and do fun stuff that we would not be able to do (as much) if we had kids. I think kids are cool – we’re just not quite ready for all that yet.
Good answers, Most.
lol @ your 2 or 3 strokes.
I like your answer to #19.
#teammissionary!!
#18 was wavy
#swoon
i love a respectful man in control.