In the battle of the sexes, men and women often throw boomerangs at each other. By this I mean that we each bemoan the other’s propensity to do effed up things that we are guilty of ourselves. Throwing over “bad” ones for “good” ones is something both men and women do. Saying one thing when we actually mean the exact opposite is not the exclusive domain of men or women. We both lie, cheat, and hurt the ones we love and we both make decisions with our little brains instead of our big brains
But if there is one egregious act that is absolutely the exclusive domain of men, it is bookmarking. Bookmarking is when a man meets a woman and likes what he sees but wants to save it for later. Maybe because he’s in a relationship, maybe because he needs to lose one of the b!tches in his triangle before he adds any to his roster. Maybe it’s because he deems her the “relationship type” and he’s not ready for that right now. Whatever the reason is, the basic premise of bookmarking is that he knows he wants her, just not right now.
It sounds relatively innocuous I know, and it would be if they just left it at that. But that would leave their prey vulnerable to an attack by another hunter, and what bookmarking man wants to do that? So in order to secure his future position he’s going to do two things:
1. Be flirty but non-committal
The bookmarking man has to let the woman he’s bookmarking know he’s interested, but not let her think that he’s so interested that something is about to happen. So he will flirt with her but not make any concrete moves. He might stare in her eyes a little too warmly, or squeeze her hand a second longer than is necessary. His hugs will be extra tight and his cheek kisses will be thisclose to the side of her mouth. He’ll definitely ask for her number but he might not call her; although he will be flirty and responsive if she contacts him. He’s drumming up just enough enthusiasm to stay on her radar, but not so much that she’ll start to expect time or attention from him on a consistent basis.
1. Piss in a circle
Of course if the dude is leaving his target at least partially open, he has to do what he can to stop other shooters from aiming in its direction. So what’s he gonna do? Some good old-fashioned c*ck-blocking. He’ll introduce her to his friends as “the woman I’m going to eventually marry”. Any If asked what the deal is between him and her he’ll be evasive he’ll set the highest possible step-aside fee for this girl and if it comes down to it will outright lie to stop any man he knows from hollering.
Now as you can imagine, I’m not a fan of bookmarking. I think it’s selfish and stupid. But I also have a niggling feeling that I may not be looking at it the right way. On the one hand, I almost want to applaud the man for not getting into some sh!t he’s not ready for with a good woman but on the other hand all this c*ck-blocking and confusing the woman is just rude and stingy. Ultimately though I think that if you meet a good woman at the wrong time in your life, you’re either supposed to step up and get your house in order so you’re worthy of her or you’re supposed to
introduce her to your hot friends let her go because she’s obviously not the one for you. Or you let her go with the faith that if she’s meant to be yours, she will be when the time is right. But all this putting a pin in her is just stupid and I think men should stop doing it.
But what do you guys think? Men am I missing something? This is an asshole move in my book – am I just looking at it wrong? Ladies have you ever been bookmarked?
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