Deep Throat 101

07
Jan
2011
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Ah the deep throat. As a woman who loves giving head and more importantly, who recognizes the power that comes with giving great top, the deep throat is one area in which I have been sorely remiss.


To me, deep throat is kind of like that scene in Pretty Woman where Richard Gere shows up on Julia Roberts’s fire escape to rescue her from her life of poverty – it sounds good and everyone would want it if they had the opportunity but we all know that shit doesn’t happen in real life. If my girlfriends are deep throating their guys, they’re not talking about it. And if my boy friends are plunging the depths of the mouths of the idiot women they slam, they’re not telling me about it.

If you deep throat a man and neither of you ever tell anyone about it, did it really happen?

The sum total of my experience with the phenomenon of deep throating has been to take as much dick into my mouth as possible. But that was really more about greed than anything else.Whatever doesn’t fit just had to get covered off by my hands, because up until recently I had no idea that there were techniques you can use to get more penis into your mouth. (And I call myself a sex blogger. I should be ashamed). Luckily for me the good folks over at Good For Her recently allowed me to participate in their Giving Great Head workshops. You can imagine my joy when I checked out the agenda and discovered that deep throating was one of the things I would be learning. I listened raptly, shoved my practice dildo so far down my throat I almost couldn’t retrieve it afterward and took copious notes when we got to that part of the workshop. And now, because my mission in life is for all my female readers to excel at head, I’m going to share with you what I’ve learned about the secrets of deep throating.

Angle for position

Your gag reflex is at the top back of your throat, so you want to aim the dick downward so that you don’t hit it. That’s if you don’t want to vomit on him of course. Certain positions lend themselves better to deep throating than others, and your standard kneeling in front of him while he stands or sits facing you is not really going to work. If you want to take him in as deeply as possible, you want your throat to be extended, so try either lying with your head on the edge of the bed (but not hanging off the edge) while he stands in front of your head. You can also have him lie down on a bed or the floor and kneel on one side of him (up by his shoulders) and then take him in. If that’s putting your lady parts to close to his eyesight to suit you you shouldn’t be giving head in the first place you can try having him stand up with his legs spread. Wiggle yourself in between his legs so your mouth is directly beneath your target. Whichever position you choose, remember to tilt your head back and angle the cock downward.

Take control

Under normal circumstances I’m all about having the man take control of the blow job. His hands in your hair while he thrusts in your mouth is always a win as far as I’m concerned. In this case though I definitely advocate a hands-free approach. You hold on to the dick so you can control the pace and angle at which it enters your throat. Otherwise he will get caught up in the excitement, get to thrusting, and next thing you know you’re choking to death. Or vomiting. Neither of which is particularly sexy.

Go slowly and don’t breathe

Although both his and your inclination may be to get it in as quickly as possible, take your time with the deep throat. Get yourself into the right position, relax your throat muscles, make sure he’s lubed up properly (with actual lube, not just spit) and slowly ease him in. Once you’ve swallowed as much of his swollen shaft as you can, don’t breathe. Swallow instead. You want to exhale before you pull him in and inhale as he slides back out.

Beat that pesky gag reflex

I would imagine that one of the big reasons women fear the deep throat is the gagging. It’s hard to feel sexy when you feel like you’re about to lose your lunch. And although there are obviously ways you can reduce the risk of gagging, if you’re truly committed to the deep throat cause you can train your gag reflex to be less sensitive. You do this by pressing an object up against it until you just feel it, holding there for 10 seconds and releasing it. Do that a dozen times a day for a week and it will be less sensitive. You might eventually choke to death though.

And there you have it. The quick and dirty deep throat how-to.

But tell me ladies, are you into deep-throating? Is this a regular part of your head repertoire? Am I the only one in the slow class? If you’re not a regular deep throater, do you think you’ll try it? Men how much do you care about this? And is it a physical enjoyment thing or a psychological thing for you? It’s Friday and it’s been a while since we’ve had a good oversharing session so spill your guts in the comments.



49 Comments

  • Paddez says:

    Yay to the return of nasty Fridays! I find this a good trick to have in the
    repetoire. Nothing sucks worse (pardon the pun) than a boring blow job. Mix it up &
    Keep it interesting. Practice makes perfect, especially if you’re blessed with a
    man who’s packing. Take a deep breath and dive in, your man will thank
    you for the effort.

  • Sam Sharpe says:

    Maxie, with this post you continue to illustrate just why YOU are the BOSS!

  • DT is great if you can get it. If you’re really well endowed though, it’s often an exercise in futility. I said this on another blog once before. When you’re young and inexperienced, you think the fact that you’re well endowed is a great thing, when you’re older, and more experienced – the realization of how infrequently you’ll be getting great dome in your life begins to settle in. You start to wonder if life would be better were you minus a few inches. So yeah, DT is awesome, if you can get it.

    • max says:

      I see what you did there Most.

      • TheLeoGrl says:

        egggggzackly!!! (It’s always all about Most) SMH…nice one ;-)

        Thanks for the tips Max (well actually BF thanks you more I’m sure)

    • Kiki says:

      It’s not that hard to get a big boy down, you just need to have the determination and the patience to practice. My guy has a 10 inch penis, and it only took me about a month of practice before I could get him all the way in my mouth. I must admit though, I never would have tried half that hard if I didn’t love him and want to please him. No one night stand would ever get that treat from me.

    • Kiki says:

      It’s not that hard to get a big boy down, you just need to have the determination and the patience to practice. My guy has a 10 inch penis, and it only took me about a month of practice before I could get him all the way in my mouth. I must admit though, I never would have tried half that hard if I didn’t love him and want to please him. No one night stand would ever get that treat from me.

  • RedLady821 says:

    I have never deep throated before. I feel like my head game is bullshit now! lol

  • Wow, ok, well, I think I have all my notes together…. Ready for the exam……..

  • Starita34 says:

    “You might eventually choke to death though.” Ha-frickin-larious!

    Being that my tertiary goal in life is to give the best head my man has ever gotten, the DT is absolutely something that I’ve spent some time on. I have in no way perfected it due to lack of partner *cussing under my breath*. But when I’ve had a partner, I’ve done my damnedest. And Most is right as GD usual the XXL ones can provide an extra bit of challenge…but some of us, just see that as a goal to accomplish. I see an above average richard and immediately think, “oh you poor thing, you’ve never gotten a proper blow job…let’s step to as to correcting that posthaste…” For this reason watching the average porn chick give head infuriates me to no end.

    Funny story…to me anyway-so I’m 25, very new to the world of physical intimacy with a man and not just my damn self #YingYangTwins and what one would call incredibly eager to please. I’m with a steady guy and trying to live out every head trick that I’ve ever witnessed or heard about, having the time of my life not for real, he was sorta wack, but I had the luxury of not knowing that at the time since it was so new to me. “Him” came around and totally eclipsed him in every way though. So I’m trying deep throating with him one night, mildly successful, I can’t do it with the ease of this chick –> http://bit.ly/i4fSJL but overall a successful evening.

    The next day I have my annual doctor’s appointment, and everything’s going well and he checks the ears, cool.
    Knocks my knees, reflexes good.
    Blood pressure, excellent.
    Open up and say “ah” – *look of terror washes over my doctor’s face*
    I’m immediately concerned, “What?! What’s the matter!?”
    He’s still befuddled and slowly says, “There’s some significant bruising in your throat…” still perplexed…
    I’m worried, confused, scared-and then realization slaps me in the face…lol I blush and tell him, “Um, yeah…I had some pretty extensive oral sex last night.”
    He gives me the “Well, alright then!” lip purse, smile, and head nod and we move on…LOL I’d never thought to check out my throat afterward, but I do now! LOL

    My one piece of advice: don’t try to deep throat on a full stomach, they may get an ego boost from the choking and that constriction, but there is not nan thing cute about throwing up on a brother’s most prized body part. Practice when hungry, if ya do it right, he’ll give ya some nourishment. ;-)

    Ya’ll, if you’re going to do something, do it well!

  • ThickCurls83 says:

    I learned all my of my head game from erotica books. But through experience I have DT a few times on ‘accident’ and I agree it was all about the angle. I must admit that I absolutely love giving head and wish that I coulda been at that class with you. But I will be reading this post several more times until I know all the techniques by heart. I will have a happy man!!!

    P.S. Was there anything else that you learned in that class?

  • i’ve never had DT before and it sucks (pun intended). i’ve had women try but to no avail. smh. like TMIMITW said earlier, it really is the gift and the curse.

  • Its really all about the angles and the breathing. However, like Most and Tun said, the thicker/longer, the harder it is. Literally and figuratively.

  • BreezeBayou says:

    First time commenter here! YES #FTW

    Completely ROFL @ “You might eventually choke to death though” Def don’t wanna do that. Never really tried to DT, def more a fan of the handmime technique… but I have heard that Chloraseptic works, very well, numbs the throat, but you have to spray throat like 30 mins before hand, so you don’t numb the tip of the Richard LOL! because that would clearly defeat the purpose eh? lol

    Maybe I should try this with my toothbrush hmmm *saunters off* lol

  • Yoles says:

    now that its late in the day i can comment w/o consequence… i am frequent partaker of DT… and i also have my limits.. anything below 6″ and above 9 1/2″ are a no go (for now)… i will say i concentrate and breathe only during active stroke and for best results i control the tempo. but when with someone that you have a real good history with you can go crazy on it.. DTing until you can stick your tongue out and sweep the balls or rub your nose on his stomach which give an extra visual thrill…

    the secret: its all about angles, breathing, relaxing and mediating that gag reflex away

  • Andrienne says:

    I’m definitely a fan of the deepthroating. I try and get it in as much as possible. Have to agree though, practice makes perfect. I’m still on the quest to desensitize my gag reflex. There’s just something about sucking a nice big D that does it for me. Sometimes I’d much rather give my man head rather than do anything else. It’s so much about being in total control and the look on his face when he’s about to cum…..PRICELESS!!!

    • Starita34 says:

      THIS!! –> “There’s just something about sucking a nice big D that does it for me. Sometimes I’d much rather give my man head rather than do anything else. It’s so much about being in total control and the look on his face when he’s about to cum…..PRICELESS!!!”

      Give me head or give me death! It is oh so much more blessed to give than to receive. now if only I had me a man…*pouts*

    • keisha brown says:

      exactly.
      i truly dont get why this is demeaning. that ish right there is POWER.
      *walks away humming kanye….
      ps: oh yeah.. humming…. ;)

  • Starita34 says:

    *drool* oh, wait, I typed that? my bad…

  • KSImmi says:

    I refused to comment yesterday because I was stuck at work and didn’t want to dare get my juices flowing. Hard read for me. Oh the agony of reading a grand ol’ post from your favorite blogger basically telling you, “step ya game up shawty.” I mean its been done a few times but that gosh darn gag of mine. But I’ve made a promise to myself to: 1. Find a freakin workshop 2. Practice, practice, practice 3. Be able to come back to this post and do a cocky giggle.

  • Iceburg says:

    LOL this was a good one…

  • This was a great post.

    My only addition would be to tell you to use deep throating like a tool in your kit. Know that every man is different, there’s tip guys, shaft guys, ring guys, all types of things that really turn a man on and make him cringe. So the deep throat is a tool in the kit, don’t let it be your only move.

    Your size only matters to her. The thing is that she is basically taming her gag reflex, therefore, it’s really no problem for her to DT 10-12 inches. Your size shouldn’t matter to you. Also, I stopped making insinuations to my penis size at like age 18, someone told me it was crass and a sign that you were overcompensating. So I felt a little uncomfortable at some points of this post.

  • keisha brown says:

    good for her for the win!!! those ladies rock!
    that is all.

  • sheela says:

    I’m definitely a fan of the deepthroating. I try and get it in as much as possible. Have to agree though, practice makes perfect. There’s just something about sucking a nice big cock that does it for me. Sometimes I’d much rather give head rather than do anything else. It’s so much about being in total control and the look on his face when he’s about to cum… and my throat is pulling the cum out the head, watching their knees buckle, ass he pulls it out of my hungry mouth, cum dripping from the corners. now thats priceless..

  • Kiki says:

    I definitely deep throat, but I only put that effort in when I really care about someone. Until recently though, I only ever just popped the tip down in to my throat, but I’ve found a really good guy I really like, and him I take all the way down.

    Patience is very important, especially with a big guy. You and he both need patience and respect for one another to really deep throat well. Most important of all is practice.

  • steve says:

    hey there thanks for your input /advice no its not all in the head pardon the pun :) in saying that ive never had my cock all the way in/down but the further it goes the better it feels and there is nothing better than seeing your cock diapear into a girls mouth or coming back out, gives me a hard on just thinking about it .one day maybe before its to late lol

  • WTFL says:

    For me I do love to recieve a good quality BJ over a bad DT but a well perfomed DT out ways all others

  • jennifer says:

    I use to hate giving bjs but was always told I give really good ones. Now I love giving my man a bj. Maybe it’s cuz im in my mid twenties now and not so so and embarced.I’m one of those lucky girls without a gag reflex and my favorite thing is to deep throat it sometimes i even crave giving one specially after watching our sex tapes we make.its all about keeping the flame alive and never letting the passion die

  • libz says:

    Haha, love that comment Sheela. Brilliant. And I found it a very helpful article anyway, thanks max.

    I’m the same as you jennifer, I used to dislike but now LOVE giving bjs, especially to my current man because of the visible effect it has on him. He isn’t well endowed however, so it’s not ideal for DT, but I really want to do it.
    I just don’t get the breathing thing..it feels so illogical to breathe out before taking him in? Can you explain it any more?


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