Like most days, I spent a good amount of yesterday over at SingleBlackMale.org. And like most days, a little bit of bacchanal popped off. Like most days, my blogging boy Dr Jay Jack dropped the real talk on the ladies and a couple got a little upset. Like most days, what the ladies were upset about had very little to do with what Dr Jay Jack said.
Yeah – I said it. Deep down, a woman just wants a man who can put her in her place. This doesn’t mean that we want a man to be abusive, dismissive, or mean, but we do want a man who knows when to bring out the “hush mama”. The hush mama (© emti) is when a man tells a woman in no uncertain terms to settle herself. And it is a beautiful thing. I used to have a man who warned me that I was about to “fly past my nest” on the rare occasions that I was getting rowdy. It was so hot.
Of course there are a lot of men who don’t know how to do this properly and that creates all types of problems. But there is a time and a place for the hush mama. Sometimes women act up because they want attention or because they’ve misunderstood something. Sometimes we get in a tizz over things that even we recognize are meaningless, but we’ve started and we can’t back down now. And in these types of situations, there is nothing sexier than a hush mama.
You don’t have to say “hush mama”. You could say “calm yourself” or “sit down” or “don’t fly past your nest”. There are any number of ways you can tell your girl to settle down in a way that results in her being turned on rather than losing her shit. It’s all about the circumstances and the delivery.
But let me say it again: a man who knows how to put me in my place is a fucking sexy man.
Now if you’ve read my blog enough you know I’m not a spazzy kind of girl. I don’t yell, nag, or forbid. But I am a hyper girl, a nervous girl, and a man who knows how to distinguish between legitimate anxiety and a dramatic moment and will shut it down has the potential to be Mr. Fab.
Ladies, I’m dying to hear what you think because I bet you don’t know youagree with me. Can you see the appeal of a man who knows how and when to tell you to hush? And
e mastered the hush mama, give me a call sometime let me know.