Mind Sex – A Nasty Friday Guest Post
2010
Even a perv like myself runs out of dirty things to talk about from time to time so we have a guest appearance from Lincoln Anthony Blades today. If you’ve never visited his site, make sure to check it out. He goes even harder than I do. Pause. Anyway. Read, enjoy, comment, and don’t forget [...]
Even a perv like myself runs out of dirty things to talk about from time to time so we have a guest appearance from Lincoln Anthony Blades today. If you’ve never visited his site, make sure to check it out. He goes even harder than I do. Pause. Anyway. Read, enjoy, comment, and don’t forget to vote for me.
Um, yeah.
Romance is not an act, it’s an art and making love isn’t something you have it’s something you create. When both work together flawlessly, it can take even the most reserved of women from a cold, standoffish, asexual being to a sensuous freak craving your very touch – and it doesn’t take much.
Please don’t confuse my interpretation of Mind Sex with the lame Dead Prez song with negroes talking about “playing chinese checkers on futons and eating garden salads and wearing kufi’s”. For me Mind Sex is all about “Penetration-Preparation” or basically everything you do before you put it in. I’ve always been a firm believer that if she is not dripping all over the place just before the sex, then you have not properly “pre-heated” the oven and the turkey ain’t ready to be put in yet.
Most people think of foreplay as an arduous and lengthy act, but it does not have to be either of those. And here’s how..
1) Greet Her PROPERLY
The first thing you need to do as a man is drop the selfishness and silly past fights and just get yourself in the mindset that you don’t matter. Not tonight. Tonight it’s all about HER. You can’t just TRY to do this, you need to FULLY commit to this way of thinking because the most important part of Mind Sex is the initial greeting – whatever way you typically greet her is NOT good enough. No “Hey”, “What’s Good?”, or “What the hell took you so long?”.
2) Be Attentive To The SMALL Things
Women are extremely attentive so they notice the smallest things when it comes to interacting with a man. And it’s not even small, OBVIOUS things like did you open the door for her or did you pull her chair out. It’s more innocuous than that. Though it’s different for every woman, it’s things like:how you introduce her to your boy that you saw at dinner (you introduced her as “My woman” and not “My friend” or just her name) or things like a non-obvious compliment or a brief sensual touch on the arm.
3) Eye Contact Is Crucial
The eyes are definitely the window to the soul and the intensity of a lustful look is what women are into. It might sound weird to us men, but it actually makes a lot of sense. Women see lack of eye contact as a lack of confidence and if you can’t stare deep into her eyes it’s either because you’re too scared, too shy or too dishonest, but whatever it is, he’s NOT someone she wants to take home and find out IF he can please her. If she playfully asks “Why are you looking at me like that?” then you have her right where you want her.
4) Every Touch is Calculated and Delivered With Force
Most men don’t know how to deliver the casual panty-moistener hug, but the ones that do know EXACTLY how something as small as a hug can go a long way in creating sexual anticipation. A woman’s body is not meant to be grabbed or groped UNTIL it’s get-it-in time; her body is meant to be EXPLORED. Unlike men, women have many erogenous zones all over their body and it’s all about caressing those parts subtly enough that you don’t look like you are just being an inexperienced, overzealous horny bastard like one of those kids from American Pie or Superbad, but without enough force that she knows YOU cherish every inch of her body even when it’s fully clothed.
5) Find The Right Pace
This is crucial. Remember that YOU don’t control the pace, and neither does she. Her body controls the pace and if you can’t read it, then you will NEVER know when she’s ready. A woman’s body cannot hide its reaction to pleasure; though she can keep a straight face or keep quiet her body will always give away how turned on she is.
The final stage of Mind Sex may be considered teasing, but I just call it “previewing.” You don’t ravish her neck and collar bone with your tongue, but you give her a strong massage and every now and then just pass your [non-chapped] lips over the back of her neck for a brief moment and feel her tense up waiting for to kiss and neck her, but don’t – just pull away slowly and let her mind imagine how good it will feel when you actually do it.
This isn’t meant to be a how to please your woman manual, just some friendly reminders that bringing out the freak in your girl doesn’t take a stripper pole or Booty Call 56 DVD’s, just some time, attention to detail and willingness to please.
What do you guys think of LAB’s take on mind sex. I know this stuff would definitely work on me, but what say you ladies? Men – what’s your strategy for penetration-preparation?
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great tips! 2-3 especially for me. and A Night Off is a great musical selection…
I know right? I'm ashamed to say I did not know about this song before I read the post. Now I'm obsessed with it!
Man am I wet.. and I don't even have a vagina.. pause..
Good post
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IMO, I don't like how the author put dead prez under the bus.
Let's Get Free is a classic album.
0_o
You are kidding right?
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Now I remember, you don't check things out when people tell you they are good b/c you are 'different' and 'an individual'. So you never listened to So Far Gone the whole way through? See what you miss out on Maxi-pads?
Yeah I kinda cringed at that. But if I can forgive you for calling Jada over-rated then I can agree to disagree with him on dead prez.
I don't think the Mad Scientist will be happy to see that though…
Max when you get a chance peep the latest feature on my blog–you might like that one too…
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I don't know why its not showing the most recent post above… http://musicmakesmehigh.wordpress.com/2010/08/20/…
Dead Prez 'Mind Sex' = Great Beat + Original Concept + Hot GARBAGE LYRICS
"but tonight we'll try a different route, how bout we start
With a salad, a fresh bed of lettuce with croutons
Later we can play a game of chess on the futon"
Or maybe we can play Pictionary over a glass of homemade cider? or how bout Pokemon pogs after our caramelized tofu?
I guess that's what's hot in the streets if you wear a kufi and high-water khaki pants with a mountain man beard renting a studio apartment with adult finger paintings on the wall – i find it lame but then again that's just my opinion
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Agree or disagree this comment is fucking hilarious.
Ill tell yo0u what…
This list is soo KEY!
#4 when used correctly, is a finisher!
Oh My Word!!
Good Lawd haff mercy.. see, posts like this gets people in trouble..
I almost needed a minute to gather my bearings..
and I've dealt with some real selfish dudes.. That's all I'll say about that..
At least I seem justified in why I'm off the wang…
My recent post So Fine Let’s Rewind…
This whole post made me sigh. Now, I might have to forward this post along and/or read aloud the next time we are together. HMMPTH!
CHeeKZ after I listened to the song I looked everywhere for a links to download SFG and I cannot find one anywhere. You're right – I shunned it at the time because people were bigging it up too much. A dumb-ass move if I've ever made one.
"I guess that's what's hot in the streets if you wear a kufi and high-water khaki pants with a mountain man beard renting a studio apartment with adult finger paintings on the wall – i find it lame but then again that's just my opinion" <<<DEAD
Streetz don't you just need to give a girl your special look and she's instantly wet?
I'm sure I heard that somewhere…
@nick @ PKGM
Girlz. If anyone saw my tweet the other day about getting revved up in the middle of the day….now you know what did it. This post killed me in the good way.
Ur on a roll today…lol
I want to do strange and freaky and dirty things to the man who wrote this guest post.
I'd even make him a sandwich after…
Yeah corny part of the verse. But lets keep it real, the very next line includes four out of your five tips for "mind sex"
See i ain't got to get in your blouse
It's your eye contact, that be getting me aroused
When you show me your mind, it make me wanna show you mines
Reflecting my light, when it shines, just takin our time
Before the night's through, we could get physical too
I ain't tryin to say I don't wanna fuck, cause I do
But for me boo, makin love is just as much mental
I like to know what I'm gettin into
just keeping it 100