I’m Gonna Make You Love Me
The other day while pretending to work toiling away at my incredibly demanding job my ipod delivered a one-two punch of songs that sent my little brain spinning – Your Girl by Mariah Carey and Tell Me You Love Me by Amerie. The basic premise of both songs is this: you don’t know it but [...]
The other day while pretending to work toiling away at my incredibly demanding job my ipod delivered a one-two punch of songs that sent my little brain spinning – Your Girl by Mariah Carey and Tell Me You Love Me by Amerie. The basic premise of both songs is this: you don’t know it but I’m the girl for you and I’m going to make you fall in love with me and do my bidding.
It’s not a particularly new concept, but it got me thinking – is it possible to lead a man from zero (complete disinterest) to 10 (completely besotted) just because you want to? It reminded me of two girls I knew back when I first moved to Toronto; each of whom set their sights on a man and basically went after him with such force that he was powerless to resist her. One married her target and 10 years later they’re blissfully happy. The other – after stealing him from his current fiancé – cannot stand the dude.
The only time I’ve ever put in real work to make a man love me was with Snickers, and that was really less about getting him to love me and more about getting him to admit that he loved me. Since then I really cannot be bothered to put in much work. Once I’m in a relationship I’ll work hard to keep my dude happy but my strategy for getting a man to like me basically boils down to 1. Dazzle him 2. Confuse the shit out of him. When If that doesn’t work it’s on to the next.
Given that I’m single, I’m thinking my strategy might not be as comprehensive as it could be. So I took to the internets to see what other #swindles tactics the ladies are using to attract a man. So without further ado I give you Top 10 Ways to Make a Man Love You:
1. Look good
I shouldn’t even have to tell you this. If you don’t know by now that men are visual creatures then you’re probably not even old enough to be on this blog. But I’m going to remind you one more time that if you’re trying to capture a man’s interest you’re gonna need to look good. What that means depends on who you are and the circumstances and I’m trusting that you have enough judgement to make the right choice. Just look good and sexy in a non-trashy, non I will let your boys run a triz on me kinda way.
2. Get in the path of destruction
The lovely and talented Dr. Jay already schooled us on this. If you want a man to notice you you have to be in his line of sight. I know The Rules and all those books tell us that he has to chase after us, but it’s a little difficult to get him to do that if he doesn’t know or care that you exist. So as @emti would say – you gotta chase him until he chases you.
3. Be a social butterfly
People are lemmings and they always want what everyone else wants. So if he sees that other people want to be around you and hang out with you it will likely pique his interest. However this can backfire if you’re seen with too many dudes as being “too social”…some dudes don’t like that.
4. Be cool
Drama is never a good thing but it’s never worse than when a man is first starting to notice you. We all know how lasting first impressions are right? You don’t want him to think of you and immediately recall the fracas you got into with your ex’s next at the club the other day. So avoid drama at all costs at least while he’s present.
5. Be yourself…kinda
For the record I am not advocating being fake or engaging in any trickery to capture your target, but I cannot unequivocally advise you to just be yourself as so many other people do. Be yourself, but be the most interesting you or the most charming you or the most flirtatious you. But don’t be the you who is complaining loudly about your menstrual cramps or bad-mouthing your no-good ex. Don’t be yourself like that. Please.
6. Gas up his head
For many men, what attracts him to a woman is less about the woman herself and more about the way she makes him feel about himself. Honest, sincere compliments give men a nice little boost. This is a good thing. It’s a great thing if you pay him a compliment he’s never heard before or doesn’t hear often. If he feels good around you he’ll want to be around you.
7. Feign Show interest in what he’s interested in
The idea that we are drawn to people who share our interests is pretty straightforward; I don’t think I need to elaborate on that. So yes if you share an appreciation for vintage OutKast with the dude, letting him know that is a good move. But even if you’re not into what he’s into, displaying a genuine interest in it will serve you well.
8. Go for the nose
This is what you do: when you know you’re gonna see the dude, “paint your nails” right before you leave the house. The dab a little bit of your “love” the same places you’d apply fragrance. For one thing, you’ll have a great post-orgasmic glow and for another you’ll be giving off all kinds of pheromones and pussy-fragrance. What man can resist that?
Too much? Okay well try this instead: Wear the same scent every time you see him. Make sure he gets close enough to smell it on you. Sooner or later he’ll come to associate that fragrance with you and wherever he smells it – even if it’s between the thighs of some other chick – he’ll think of you.
10. Gently confuse him
Once you’ve put all this work into getting this dude to lust after you, you don’t want to mess it up by being too available. Men are hunters and they get off on challenges so make it a little difficult for him or he’ll consider you conquered and move on to the next one. And don’t let anyone tell you different.
What say you guys? You’ve been awfully quiet lately and you know I lose my blogging mojo when you guys don’t interact with me. So I want to hear from you. Ladies – what tips or tricks do you have to get a man interested? Men – do you think these tactics would work on you? Speak your piece in the comments.
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