Who Told You to Have Feelings (Throwback Tuesdays)
Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Observe this conversation between fcuk buddies: Girl: So can I come over tonight?Boy: Nah, sorry I’m booked.Girl: You’re booked? What does that mean?Boy: I mean I already have plans. Sorry.Girl: Oh with another girl? [...]
Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet?
Observe this conversation between fcuk buddies:
Girl: So can I come over tonight?
Boy: Nah, sorry I’m booked.
Girl: You’re booked? What does that mean?
Boy: I mean I already have plans. Sorry.
Girl: Oh with another girl? Oh so it’s like that then? Okay fine. Have fun. Talk to you later.
Boy: (confused) okay, um, bye.
Two days later…
Girl: You know you really hurt my feelings the other day…
Boy: (no memory of the above conversation) I did, how?
Girl: When I said I wanted to come over and you said you were booked.
Boy: *stupefied silence*
Ladies, I’m going after you today. You’re wrong in three ways on this one:
1. Use of the phrase “another girl”
This implies that you thought you thought that you were the only girl. And the very fact that you are on fcuk buddy status with this dude should tell you that that is not the case. In fact, more times than not, you are the “other” girl.
2. Being Passive Aggressive
Saying “Okay fine. Have fun then” in a pissy tone of voice is a classic girl move that does not work. When men are in situations like this, they hear words, not inflections and not the feelings behind them. So if you’re saying ‘”have fun” he’s hearing “have fun” and moving on with his life. And you know you’re pissed and you don’t want him to have fun so why not try saying what’s on your mind? I told you before, men are not mind readers. If you’re disappointed that you can’t get together then say something and maybe you guys can work something out.
3. Using the “F” word
“You hurt my feelings’”? Girl, you are out of bounds here. Who told you feelings were allowed in a fuck buddy relationship? A fuck buddy relationship by definition is a casual, non-exclusive, no-strings attached type of deal. If you’re getting your feelings hurt because dude has plans with another girl, you’re obviously not built for this type of thing and you need to keep it moving.
In my opinion, 99% of girls in the world are not built for casual sex. Not because they catch feelings (although you’re wrong for doing it) but because they seem to think that the dude should care about said feelings. Ladies, if he wanted to care about your feelings you’d be wifey, not jump-off. So please either keep them to yourself or recognize your limitations and stick to feelings-friendly zones like relationships.
That’s my rant for today, but what say you dear readers? Are feelings okay in a fcuk-buddy relationship or should they be checked at the door with inhibitions? Have you ever been the girl or boy in this scenario? Discuss.