Okay now really – have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? I hope you have but if you haven’t there’s still time to redeem yourself…get all the details and sh*t over here. If you follow me on Twitter, yesterday at about 5:30pm you would have seen me tweet [...]
Okay now really – have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? I hope you have but if you haven’t there’s still time to redeem yourself…get all the details and sh*t over here.
If you follow me on Twitter, yesterday at about 5:30pm you would have seen me tweet this: “Homeward bound with @superblackgirl”. Then at about 12:15am you would have seen this: “Finally [home]!”
Now I’m reasonably sure that all of you are much better at addition than I am and can do the math on this – my sister and I left our parents’ house which is two hours away at 5:30pm and I did not reach my home until 12:15am the next day. Why? Car trouble again. Without boring you with the details, suffice it to say that said car trouble involved us sitting in my sister’s disabled car on the side of the highway in a little town called Brant Ontario. After exhausting the list of relatives with cars and free time whom we might beseech to come and save us and drawing back nubs, there was but one solution: call Him.
Him is my ex, and I would have to say he is probably one of the world’s greatest exes ever. Him is the ex that I have called at 2 o’clock in the morning to come pick me and my drunk friends up from the club and he has gotten up out of his bed to do it. Him is the ex who was at my house at 6:00am two weekends in a row to help me move. Him is the ex with whom I happily cohabited for two years after our breakup. Him plunges my toilet and fixes my computer for me. If I need something, I call Him and Him almost always comes through. Him is that ex who hangs out with me and my friends and laughs along as I tell stories of effed-up shit he did to me and then willingly admits that he was an asshole when we were together. And Him is the ex that graciously authorized a post celebrating our friendship, despite the fact that I have already used everything that has ever happened between us as fodder for this blog at least twice.
Now despite my tumultuous relationship history, there aren’t a lot of dudes that even warrant the term ex. And most of the ones who do are dead to me are not in my life anymore. I don’t really believe in being friends with my ex, but somehow this one slipped through the cracks and I’m glad we did because I really do think we are a shining example of the perfect ex-relationship.
If you are lucky to have an ex that you can actually stand to be in the same room with, who does not bring any drama or confusion into your life, with whom you can hang out and talk without him trying to get back into your pants, thank him. Or her. Because a good ex is a great thing!
So what about you guys? Do you have a great ex or do you have the kind that you would murder if the courts were giving out bad breakup passes? Do you think the quality of the relationship predicts the quality of the ex? Share your stories in the comments.
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I'm a bit envious right now! I don't hate any of my exes but I'm not particularly cool with any of them either. All of my break-ups have been conciliatory but didn't allow much room for a continued friendship. This is probably a good indication of why we aren't together.
It's amazing that you and "Him" have such a good friendship. He should write a guest post about his perspective on it.
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so let me get this right. your ex has all the responsibilities and duties of being your current but none of the benefits (read: beats)? i hope that at least some of this is reciprocated. if not, in my opinion he is not over you and you are taking advantage of that. i could be wrong though.
My recent post The Highlight Reel
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hahaha he would never in a million years write a guest post for me…his dopeness has limits!
But on our LONG drive back to the city we did talk about this a bit; trying to figure out how it is that we ended up with such a good friendship. For the most part I think it comes down to a firm commitment to stay in each others' lives and doing what we had to do to make that a positive thing.
And the fact that there was no back-sliding after our break up; if you know what I mean
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Oh no it's not like that…I'm not calling him on a regular basis to do things for me or help me out of jams…he's not a stand-in or anything like that. But we all have our go-to person for when our sh*t is dragging and he is mine. And trust me, it's reciprocated. I mean, I'm not plunging his toilet but I definitely do my part.
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cool. just making sure he wasn't the substitute dude you wrote about earlier.
My recent post The Highlight Reel
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Hahaha oh no. He is soooooo over me.
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Finny thing is this, i'm actually cool with all my exes except one. She got pregnant by my former best friend from middle school. She's fat and works at Footaction. My more current exes have never worked out on account of we just weren't a good fit, or I didn't want to be in a relationship at the time. I've been blessed to have dated some great women, shooot, to lock the Doc down, you have to be a phenomenal woman. Of my last three exes, I talk to all three on a regular basis. And no i'm not sleeping with any of them nor am I interested in sleeping with them. I'm almost sure that all of them are now in relationships and i'm happy for them.
I wrote a post about my ex, here: http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/06/04/why-you…
My recent post Ngga Sht
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I am still confused if the ex has the ability to beat. I have an ex who has caused me much head ache. After we were together (atleast I think it was after) she did my man. But letting than effect me would be immature and very un-pimp (to be hurt by something like that implies that I still care). So I actually called her. Than we started talking and we realize that we really respect each other's opinion.
She is very much my mental match, great conversation (really the only person I can stand being on the phone with). But I still would beat again… just on some I want to conquer her ishh, but I feel that way about all exes.
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My exes are hellions and have been banished back to the Netherealm.
Your ex is simpin
yes Im mad.
lol
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My ex does not have the ability to beat. He's married!
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From what I've heard, your exes need to stay banished.
Mine has a little behaviour and that's why he's allowed out.
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Thank god some bloggers can write. Thank you for this writing…
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This may be this blogs greatest writing I have read.
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