I don’t know about you guys, but high school was a less than enthralling experience for me. I don’t wax nostalgic on anything about that time…except one thing, the dances. Particularly the end-of-the-night slow dance. Ah the slow dance. It may just be the most slept-on courtship ritual. There’s nothing like a slow grind to [...]
I don’t know about you guys, but high school was a less than enthralling experience for me. I don’t wax nostalgic on anything about that time…except one thing, the dances. Particularly the end-of-the-night slow dance.
Ah the slow dance. It may just be the most slept-on courtship ritual. There’s nothing like a slow grind to set your wheels to spinning, is there? It has all the elements you need: the dark room, the sexy music, the full-on body contact, all of this with the added titillation of being in public. Seriously – is there anything greater than a slow dance?
Remember when we were in high school and we would go to dances for the express purpose of having that slow dance with the girl or boy of our dreams? You didn’t have to spend the whole night trying to talk to each other because there was a time for move-making: the end of the night. Of course, if the end of the night came and you didn’t get your dance you were plummeted to the depths of misery, but oh well.
Unfortunately, like passing notes and cheer-leading uniforms, slow dances don’t seem to fit in with adult life. It’s such a tragedy. These days, when the slow jam portion of the evening comes, the ladies lean up on walls singing to each other and the men head to coat-check. Or their cars.
The dearth of slow dances has rendered a lot of really great songs almost useless so today I bring you my Top 20 Songs to Take a Grind To.
1. Turn off the Lights – Teddy Pendergrass
2. Crazy for You – Madonna
3. Act Right – Teairra Mari (although I feel like I am the only person in the world who even knows this song)
4. Night Nurse – Gregory Isaacs
5. Birthday Sex – Jeremih
6. I Don’t Want to Do Anything + Freak N You – Jodeci
7. Storm – Glenn Lewis (If you follow me on twitter you already know this song makes me want to do bad things…)
8. Me and Mrs. Jones – Billy Paul
9. Let’s Wait Awhile – Janet Jackson
10. Untitled – D’Angelo (if for no other reason than the opportunity to play that video in your head while you’re dancing…oh lord)
11. Missing You – Case
12. O – Omarion
13. Rock Me Tonight – Freddie Jackson
14. So Anxious + Stingy – Ginuwine
15. Stroke You Up – Changing Faces
16. Take Away – Missy Elliott
17. These Arms of Mine – Otis Redding
18. You Are My Lady – Freddie Jackson
19. It Kills Me – Melanie Fiona
20. Stairway to Heaven – Led Zeppelin (Random? Yes. But it was always the last song at my high school dances so it wins for nostalgia. Plus it’s like 20 minutes long so you get a good looooooong grind)
So tell me people – do you guys miss slow dancing too? Or is it still part of your life as an adult? What are your favourite songs to grind to?
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I would kill to be able to go to a party full of slow jams (if I had someone to dance with). Nowadays, ladies think you're trying to cop a cheap feel or that you're required to swap DNA while getting your bump & grind game going…I guess I can understand people being hesitant–it can be pretty intimate…Here are some of my fave tunes:
Be Your Girl – Teedra Moses
Insatiable – Prince
As We Lay – Shirley Murdock
Fire & Desire – Rick James & Teena Marie
Simply Beautiful – Al Green
Love TKO – Teddy P
Distant Lover – Marvin Gaye
Sara Smile – Hall & Oates
For the Love of You – John Holt version (not really a slow jam, but hey, it's my list)
Hello It's Me – Isley Brothers version
I'm Going Down – Mary J. Blige version
I Forgot to Be Your Lover – William Bell
I'm So Proud – The Impressions
The Makings of You – Curtis Mayfield
Really, I could go on forever, so I'm just gonna stop boring the masses with my bump n grind list….
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oooooh that's a good one. I forgot about that song!
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You have some good ones on your list. Of course. Distant Lover and As We Lay are classics that I can't believe I left off.
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and just like that i'm back to thinking he's not real
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Here are a few that I like:
Caught Up in the Rapture – Amita Baker (A must have)
How Deep Is Your Love – Bee Gees
Sideshow – Blue Magic (classic)
Let's Lay Together – The Isley Brothers
Do Ya – Smooth
Stairway To Heave – O'Jays (I'd replace it with #20 on your list)
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How Deep is Your Love is a dope pick. I give you kudos for that.
The O'Jays' Stairway to Heaven is a good one too – but the Zeppelin one has a special place in my heart.
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i thought this was going to be an article about songs to have sex to. i'm thrown off by the lack of sex that is usually discussed.
but just to show you guys aren't completely insensitive, i will contribute:
Minnie Riperton's 'Loving You'
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Good pick!
And fret not, we'll be back to talking about sex soon enough…I never stay away from that topic for very long.
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I too felt the absence of slow-dancing in my life. So much so that my 28th birthday party was a slow-dance house party entitled "You Remind Me of My Jeep." All the guests RSVP'd with their song requests and after everyone was liquored up enough to forget how awkward they felt
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I too felt the absence of slow-dancing in my life. So much so that my 28th birthday party was a slow-dance house party entitled "You Remind Me of My Jeep." All the guests RSVP'd with their song requests and after everyone was liquored up enough to forget how awkward they felt the slow dancing went on till 5am. Slow dance parties definitely need to be a much more common occurrence…
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Okay first of all I totally forgot about that song but that's a GOOD one.
Second – I wholeheartedly approve of the all-slowjam birthday flex. What a great idea!
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lets see:
4 letter word- raheem devaughn
sweet love-112
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LOL….what, because I like slow jams….listen, I am not the Easter Bunny, I am very, very real.
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Oh what was that? maxfab is volunteering to host an all slowjam party. Cool. I'm in.
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I might do that for my birthday….invite only men and I can dance all night!
Whoever gives the best grind gets to come home with me
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lets see:
inside my love- minnie ripperton
sweet love- 112
4 letter word- raheem devaguhn
can't get enough- kenny lattimore
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You win the prize for choosing all songs I don't know.
Clearly I need to step up my slowjam game.
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I actually ruined a couple of girl's innocence to Sweet Love by 112. Very good pick.
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**yo I got a million more outside of this**
Cupid – 112 (every middle school couples' song)
Lately – either the MTV unplugged version or Stevie Wonder
Lloyd – You remix feat Andre 3k and Nas ( sorry I'm a hip hop head)
Be here – Raphael Saadiq
Rock the Boat
Fortunate – Maxwell
Lady in My Life – Mike Jack
NeverNeverLand – Life Jennings
a Night off – Drake
House aint a home – Luther (no last name)
I believe to my sould – donny hathaway
Let me be your angel – stacy lattisaw
Cater 2 U – The evil Beyonce
and to wrap this up… I am a sucker for new jack swing
Troop – All I do
Mint Condition – What kind of man
Jodeci – Love U 4 Life
TLC – baby bay Baby
New Edition – canu stand the rain
Bobby Brown – tenderoni
Aaron Hall – i miss u
At Your Best – Aaliyah (apology to the Isleys)
and any Boyz II Men up until 2000.
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Chaka Khan – Through the Fire (I may even give you my number after that dance…)
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and agreeing with emti…
You have a name like a private eye from 1940's films
You seem to be a rationale male
You put PRINCE on your list
You put Hall and Oates on your list…
you can't be real
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i love this guy too maxie
you have great readers lol
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Oh man CHeeKZ this is a dope list. I was going to put Aaron Hall on mine but that song makes me bawl every time I hear it (honestly I'm tearing up right now just thinking about it) and crying during a slow dance is a vibe-killer.
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Very classy pick.
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and not even a regular well known prince song like Adore…the man put Insatiable
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What can I say? My older sister is a HUGE Prince fan. Plus, I like music. Plain and simple. And really, you don't need to be a fan or anything, but I can't trust a human being who can't hum along (at least) to a Hall and Oates song. That shit is catchier than herpes.
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