*this is a repost from my new urban singles column on examiner.com. please go over there and subscribe. and yes, you do have to subscribe to both* If you’re urban and single in Toronto and you like to hit the clubs,the parties you frequent probably fall into one of five categories: There’s the “hardcore” parties [...]
Next we have the “backpack” parties. These parties are almost neverdowntown and while there’s no dress code, if you’re not wearing a plaidshirt, horn rims, or Converse you’re gonna stick out like a sore thumb.The bill usually features a DJ or artist you won’t have heard of ifyou’re not a backpacker and the music is more Wale than Lil Wayne.
“Music Lover” parties are for the music snobs. A staunchly 30-pluscrowd and a style code so you can be comfortable but still look likeyou have some “broughtupsy”. These parties are downtown but in smallerclubs so you can rub shoulders more intimately with music aficionadossuch as yourself. The music runs the gamut from Otis Redding to PhilCollins to J. Holiday and almost every song emits a wall bang from atleast 50 people.
“Upscale” parties are for the fabulous, darling. There’s a strict dresscode and they happen in clubs that aren’t clubs – they’re lounges, ortheatres. The crowd is 30 and up with a few celebrities thrown in forgood measure. The music doesn’t matter much but expect to hear at least5 Drake songs per night.
Lastly we have the “bashie” parties. These parties are usually inScarborough. They happen in restaurants or social clubs and the dresscode goes like this: dress to sweat. If you’re not wearing sneakers andyou didn’t walk with your rag you’re gonna be sorry. The music iseither all soca or all reggae. All night.
But that’s not a big deal, right? It’s just a matter of taste inparties – it has no impact on your relationship. Or does it? On somelevel, isn’t our taste in parties a metaphor for our attitude towardlife? Think about it – if you love dressing up for parties andhobnobbing with celebrities or if you refuse to go to a club that makesyou remove your cap at the door; if you’ll pay $300 for bottle serviceso that you don’t have to mingle with the crowd or you refuse to paymore than $5 cover, doesn’t that on some level relate to the way youapproach life? And if you are dating someone who taste in parties isdiametrically opposed to yours, aren’t you – at least in some small way– dating someone whose values are diametrically opposed to yours?