eff what you heard, there are few things more complicated than friendships with the opposite sex. my position is and always will be that sooner or later feelings are gonna get involved and complicate things.

but that's not the only way things can get messed up. especially when you add significant others into the mix. balancing your boy friend and your boyfriend (or girl friend and girlfriend) is more than a notion sometimes. but what about your boy friend's girlfriend?

any smart girlfriend knows she must bow down to befriend her dude's girl friend. if you've seen brown sugar you know what happens if she doesn't. the girl friend has your guy's trust and she will use it against you if you don't play nice. but sometimes, even if girlfriend tries her best, girl friend sees right through her and comes to a realization: 'i don't like your girl'

what's a girl friend to do when she doesn't like her boy friend's girlfriend?

this situation is fraught with opportunities for misunderstandings and hostilities. as the 'platonic' female best friend, it's inevitable that you will at some point be accused of wanting to fuck date your boy friend, so you need to tread carefully when expressing your opinions about his girl or your credibility will be shot. so if you find yourself in this situation, here's what to do:

1. consider why you don't like girlfriend.
9 times out of 10, your ass is jealous and you need to SADDOWN (© awesomely luvvie). either you want dude for yourself or your feelings are hurt because he doesn't have as much time to listen to your sob stories chill with you as he used to. think real hard and if your dislike is rooted in girlfriend and not you, proceed to step two.

2. consider their relationship.
where are dude and girlfriend in the courtship cycle? is he just having fun, does he consider her wifey? are they in love? is he about to propose? if he's already committed to her the likelihood that he's going to see your advice as anything more than petty jealousy is slim and you might be the one left in the dust.

3. did he ask for your opinion?
you had to know this one was coming, given what i told you about friends and advice. sorry ladies, but sometimes your dude doesn't care what you think. if he's getting head on a regular feeling his girl, your opinion is not going to make him change his mind.

3. what did she do?
did you catch girlfriend in the corner deep-throating a next dude? or do you just not like her vibe? if you have no real, concrete reason for disliking girlfriend, keep your mouth shut. if you do then be a big girl and speak up.

if you do decide to say something, please say it only once and say it in a constructive way with no agenda. express your concerns, but if dude brushes them off and continues to see the skeeze girlfriend, don't get salty. just continue to be supportive, grab some popcorn, and wait for their shit to crash and burn.