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  • November 12, 2013

    My word it's been a long time, hasn't it? Too long! I originally intended to say it's been __ number of weeks since I last posted anything on here but when I looked at the date on the last post ...

    Leaving a Lasting Impression
  • September 13, 2012

    Sunday morning I woke up to the smell of bacon frying. Dishes clanging in the sink, my mother singing along to gospel radio - a few beats behind and more than a few notes off-key. It's a scene ...

    Get Caught Up
  • September 12, 2012

    This may count as cheating in my #30for30 challenge (but I don't think so) but since this blog was playing baldheaded games for the last day and a half (until I snatched its wig and forced it to ...

    The Secret Life of Baby Bellies
  • September 11, 2012

    Confession: before I got pregnant I was fascinated by pregnant bellies. I would watch pregnant women moving around the world, going to meetings, buying groceries, talking on the phone, acting ...

    How to Yell At Your Boyfriend
  • September 10, 2012

    Quiet as it's kept, things were relatively new between Mr. Max and I before the insurgents came on the scene. We'd been together long enough that we were no longer obsessed with each other, but ...

    I Call Bullshit on Social Media Woes
  • September 7, 2012

    A big part of my job and my life is talking about social media. It's the biggest thing ever in the entire world, dontcha know. What's the role of it, should you participate in it, how do you ...

    #30for#30
  • September 6, 2012

    Here's a fundamental truth about me: I believe in signs from the universe. And here's another: I have a slight competitive streak. Especially when it comes to this blog. And while I've been ...

    Are You Ready? (A Nasty Friday Guest Post)
  • August 31, 2012

    This week my homegirl @JustLissen graces with a Nasty Friday guest post. Let's all thank the non-pregnant folks out there who are still fucking and want to write about for me. I salute you!

    Ramblings of a Mad Pregnant Woman Vol II
  • August 27, 2012

    Sakes alive I suck at keeping up with my blog. I'm sorry kids. I promise I'll do better from now on. Not that I could do any worse, right?

    #AtTheSameDamnTime
  • August 10, 2012

    The homie @_chunk_ is blessing us today with a Nasty Friday guest post because my pregnant ass is too tired to even think about fucking. Enjoy!

    Ramblings of a Mad Pregnant Woman Vol. I
  • August 9, 2012

    Confession: I am dumb jealous of everyone who is doing the #30for30 Challenge this month. There was a time when 30 posts in 30 days would be nothing for me to write, now we can call it a victory ...

    Big Fat Secrets Revealed
  • August 1, 2012

    Lately many of you have been tweeting to me or emailing me asking when I'm finally going to reveal the secrets I hinted about a few posts ago. I've been trying to wait until what I deemed to be ...

    But He Doesn’t Love Her
  • July 16, 2012

    I have a friend that has a great guy. She's really lucky. He's all the obvious things a girl wants in a guy - smart, funny, handsome, and kind. And even better he's all the things she wants in ...

    Ask Max: Is My Man Gay?
  • July 13, 2012

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Say It or Do It
  • June 25, 2012

    I'm a writer. You guys already know this. And as a writer, you can imagine what words mean to me. The right sequence of words can lift me up, kick me down, bolster me for battle, or soothe me ...

    A Girl Moment: Paint Your Nails Like a Pro
  • June 20, 2012

    Hahaha tell the truth - you thought this post was going to be about masturbation, didn't you? Dirty birds.

    Big Fat Secrets
  • June 12, 2012

    Last Wednesday a tonne of bricks fell on my head. It was sudden and unexpected and left my brain spinning with confusion, but it was also kind of awesome. And then on Thursday morning another ...

    That Time I Fucked Him Deaf
  • June 6, 2012

    By special request from @GoldieDuVall, Nasty Fridays comes to Wednesday. Hope this helps you guys over the hump day.

    On the Brink of Insanity
  • June 4, 2012

    I'm thinking about jumping into insanity. The workout, that is.

    Adventures in BDSM (The Return of Nasty Friday)
  • June 1, 2012

    Disclaimer: I'm a good girl who doesn't talk about her sex life (anymore) . Because it's private. So let's just assume for the sake of argument that none of what I'm about to say is based on my ...

    Idiosyncrasies
  • May 30, 2012

    If there's one thing that is definitely true about me it's this: I'm a fucking weirdo. Anyone who knows me or has spent any amount of time with me knows this. And while I'd love to be a smooth, ...

    The Thing About the Black Weblog Awards
  • May 28, 2012

    For the better part of the last year I've been trying not to think about it. The Black Weblog Awards; the bane of my blogging existence. When I go back and read old posts and see my impassioned ...

    Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Long-Distance Relationships
  • May 24, 2012

    I'm not the kind of woman who is typically defined by her man. Truth be told, as someone who has been single for most of my adulthood, there hasn't often been a man by which to be defined. But ...

    Confessions of a Cheater
  • May 16, 2012

    I told someone the other day that I had the soul of a cheater. She said that was an oxymoron because cheaters have no soul. Which is an understandable point of view I suppose, if you're someone ...

    Time to Get Summer Fit
  • May 14, 2012

    So there are 37 more days until summer and if you're anything like me, there's a bit of a crisis going on beneath your clothes. Under normal circumstances, I do a pretty good job of working out ...

    An Interesting Take on Manscaping
  • May 10, 2012

    My theory on manscaping has always been very simple: Do it. Or yes please. There is no reason for you to have your woman choking or pulling hair out of her teeth when she's trying to do you a ...

    I’m Back Bitches
  • May 8, 2012

    Kids, I know. I am a blogging failure. But true you don't know what I've been going through. You just don't know! Four weeks straight of sleepless nights and skull-shattering tooth agony? Plus I ...

    The Chuck Bass
  • April 16, 2012

    If you follow me on twitter you may have noticed my random tweets about shit that happened on Gossip Girl a long time ago. True to my essential slow-class nature, I was two seasons behind on the ...

    5 Fates Worse Than Death
  • April 10, 2012

    I'm writing this in the middle of the night. It's actually 2:01am on Tuesday morning, if you want to get technical about it. If you know me in real life you know that if I'm awake at this hour ...

    Possession (50 Shades of Hot)
  • April 2, 2012

    I have a new obsession. Not that I needed one more thing to distract me from work, my friends, my workouts, and my blog; but my new compulsion is a dirty little itch I can't stop scratching. I ...

    Three More Days
  • March 30, 2012

    Are you there world? It's me, Max. I'm still alive!

    10 Thoughts About Quitting Smoking
  • March 19, 2012

    I fucking love smoking. It's what I do. My entire adulthood has happened with a cigarette in my hand. Well, except for a two-year blip in my twenties where I quit smoking and went through life ...

    Appreciation
  • March 14, 2012

    My girlfriend made me late yesterday. I had plans to meet up with my sister after work, and for once in my life I'd planned my departure perfectly so that I would arrive on time - no aimless ...

    Are You Following Your Flow?
  • March 12, 2012

    I've never really been one for making life plans. For most of my adulthood I've drifted seamlessly from job to social circle to neighbourhood to hairstyle; never giving much thought to how one ...

    Shit You Should Never Say to Your Man

    Yes this is a throwback, but every once in a while the ladies (including myself) need a reminder to mind our P's and Q's. Plus it's one of my favourite posts ever and I think we could all use ...

    Truth Lite
  • March 5, 2012

    A couple of weeks ago I watched a documentary about Bob Marley that fucked me up.

    I’m a Greedy Girl
  • February 29, 2012

    "If your biggest problem in life is that your girl wants you too much, you have no problems at all".

    Ask Max: Am I Being Friend-Zoned?
  • February 27, 2012

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    A 5 Out of 10
  • February 22, 2012

    When I was 15 years old, Jason Hughes* told Jessica McKenzie* (not their real names) that I was an 8 out of 10 on the scale of prettiness. This was a momentous occasion because a)I had a gigantic ...

    The Lover and the Loved
  • February 15, 2012

    They say that in every relationship, there is the lover and the loved. The one who exists solely to please another, and the one who allows him or herself to be pleased. The one who puts their ...

    Yours
  • February 10, 2012

    I've always been a girl who likes to be free. A lone wolf, a rolling stone, a bird that can't be tamed. Ever true to my indecisive Libra nature, I need options in order to thrive. I want the ...

    How to Make Your Woman Happy
  • February 8, 2012

    Ah women. They're some puzzling creatures, aren't they? They cry when they're happy, go silent when they're mad, and say things are okay when they're clearly not. It's a waste of time for men to ...

    Handle With Care
  • February 6, 2012

    When I was a little girl I got in trouble for lots of things. Reading at the dinner table, not washing the dishes when I got home from school, spraying hair spray in my little sister's eye. You ...

    The Acrobatic Fuck
  • February 3, 2012

    You've been circling each other for months. Both attracted, both eager to fuck, but neither one in a rush. You know it's going to happen when the time is right. You eye each other seductively, ...

    Are You a Nag?
  • February 1, 2012

    That women nag seems to be a forgone conclusion of life. As sure as the skies are blue, 1+1=3, and Jay-Z is the greatest rapper alive, Women nag. They nag about little things, they nag about big ...

    Something Has to Give
  • January 30, 2012

    Dear readers,

    But I Don’t Want To (A Nasty Friday Pickle)
  • January 27, 2012

    So you've found a dude and your parts are getting oiled on a regular. Congrats girl. Good on you. And bonus points if it's good and not political. Book yourself some regular waxing sessions, stay ...

    Shit Max Says
  • January 25, 2012

    I have a confession: I've become obsessed with these Shit ____ Say videos. Honestly they are like drugs to me. I - who used to avoid YouTube like the cesspool it is - have spent more time than I ...

    I Don’t Like to Work Hard
  • January 24, 2012

    "History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats."

    Ask Max: Too Many Fish in the Sea
  • January 23, 2012

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    A Dizzy Girl’s Guide to Succeeding at Life
  • January 19, 2012

    As those of you who know me in real life know, I'm a big time scatterbrain. I don't know if it's my age or my superior intelligence or what, but my brain is like a sieve. Actually no - it's more ...

    If I Could Ask God One Question
  • January 18, 2012

    If it weren't for the possibility of going to heaven, I probably wouldn't be quite such a good person. I mean I'd definitely have way more inappropriate sex. And I'd probably lie more and steal ...

    Do You Have a Line?
  • January 17, 2012

    I'm an extremely generous person. Always have been. A "here take the shirt off my back" kind of person. "Oh you like it? Take it!" kind of person. I give freely and willingly and feel happier for ...

    Ask Max: Do I Need to Soften Up?
  • January 16, 2012

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    The Thing About Squirting (A Nasty Friday Throwback)
  • January 13, 2012

    This is a throwback post because squirting is one topic that never gets old. Plus I read somewhere that it's bad sexual karma to write about sex on Friday the 13th. Enjoy and I'll be back with ...

    You Do It To Yourself
  • January 12, 2012

    As those of you who know me know, I'm currently a little bit obsessed with The Biggest Loser. I can't believe it's been on for twelve seasons and I'm only just catching on to its amazingness. It ...

    #JudgeyTweets
  • January 11, 2012

    I love twitter. I really do. It's one of my favourite sources of entertainment, where I get my news, and the absolute best way to waste time when you're supposed to be doing something. It's my ...

    The Cool Girlfriend
  • January 10, 2012

    I am cool. It's what everyone says about me, and the one thing I know about myself. Though I may occasionally be weird, awkward and spazzy, the fundamental truth about max is that I am cool as shit.

    Ask Max: Double Header Day
  • January 9, 2012

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Bound
  • January 6, 2012

    This is what you do: tell your girl to get naked. Right now. Make her stand still for a minute while you look her slowly up and down. Then you grab her. Yes, I said grab her. Some shit is about ...

    Do You Submit to Your Man?
  • January 5, 2012

    "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22)

    Dads & Daughters
  • January 4, 2012

    I have the best dad in the world. I know a lot of people say that, but in my case it happens to be true. Anyone who has ever met my dad can attest to the fact that he's awesome. My dad is smart ...

    Resolutions
  • January 3, 2012

    Happy new year and whatnot. As you guys know I'm a flop show and therefore there will be no 2011 Year in Review-type posts that everyone in the blogosphere is doing. That requires an amount of ...

    Fucking Like a Grown Up
  • December 23, 2011

    Last post before the holidays and I should be thanking you guys for a great year, wishing you a warm holiday season with your family, or remembering the reason for the season and all that nice ...

    Shit Girls Say
  • December 21, 2011

    I'm not much of a YouTube watcher. Although much of my professional decisions are made based on the universal presence that YouTube=drugs, the truth is I find it a bit of a snoozefest. I probably ...

    Trini Christmas Is De Bes
  • December 20, 2011

    Confession: I hate Christmas. I know this officially makes me a Scrooge, a Grinch, and an otherwise miserable human being, but I can't help it. I have no Christmas spirit and if it weren't for ...

    Ask Max: All About Oral Sex
  • December 19, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    How Not to Cheat
  • December 15, 2011

    As you guys know, I'm often asked for advice. It's one of my favourite things about being a blogger. Whether it's dealing with bitchy family members to overcoming shyness to how to take a man's ...

    If It’s Broke, Fix It
  • December 14, 2011

    The great thing about being in a relationship is being able to share our feelings with our partner. Be it good, bad, or ugly - having someone in your corner means having someone in whom we can ...

    Ask Max: Should I Give a Player a Chance?
  • December 12, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    A Couple’s Best Friend
  • December 9, 2011

    So my friends over at Lelo have come through with another amazing toy for me to school you on.

    Smug Bastards
  • December 8, 2011

    I'm not a particularly humble person. I don't really believe in false modesty. I work hard to be as dope as I am and I take immense pride in my dopeness. And I believe that everyone should. In ...

    Stupid Bitch Moves
  • December 7, 2011

    I like to think of myself as an equal opportunity blogger. And a gender agnostic. Men and women alike do shit that irritates me greatly and so I try to make sure I go in on both sexes equally. I ...

    Never Say This To a Man
  • December 6, 2011

    Ah men. If ever there were a more frustrating, more infuriating, more baffling creature than a man in a relationship, I don't know what it is. Nothing, but nothing, can make a woman want to bang ...

    Ask Max: I’m Awkward
  • December 5, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Forbidden
  • December 2, 2011

    "Come here," he says, pulling my arm and attempting to draw me away from the crowd. I stand still but make to attempt to get him to let go of my arm. I cast a fleeting glance over my shoulder; ...

    The Biggest Panty Meat Move Ever
  • December 1, 2011

    Warning: this is a rant. As far as I know, I don't write many rant posts, but I'm pissed off today and I have to make it known. So indulge me just this once as I unleash my rant.

    Break On Through
  • November 30, 2011

    A couple of years ago I logged off of life. For about six weeks I didn't go anywhere, didn't see anyone, and didn't speak to my friends beyond "yes I'm okay". I needed complete solitude to ...

    Exclusive Dating? I Call Bullshit!
  • November 29, 2011

    Okay. So here's the situation: Boy meets Girl. They date, enjoy themselves, date some more. Feelings grow, bonds develop, they realize they don't want to date anyone else. They have a ...

    Ask Max: My Friend is a Hoochie
  • November 28, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Three’s Company
  • November 23, 2011

    So it's almost Thanksgiving and I'm taking a break for the holidays. The fact that I'm not American and I already had my Thanksgiving is completely irrelevant. Just consider it my nod of respect ...

    Eff Yo Video Game!
  • November 22, 2011

    There's a new breed of women around. You'll recognize them by their haunted eyes, the angry set of their mouths. They're everywhere you go, a little bit understimulated, a little bit cranky. ...

    Ask Max: Help! I Like This Guy
  • November 21, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    I Touch Myself
  • November 18, 2011

    Just picture it. You're doing your thing at work; sitting through meeting after meeting all day. And you're into it - you're talking, you're listening, you're engaged. But there's one little ...

    Inappropriate Behaviour (You Be The Judge)
  • November 17, 2011

    As those of you who know me in 3D life know, I am a chronic over-thinker. Seriously. When I get something good to wrap my brain around I am like a dog with a fucking bone. I am also a Libra, ...

    Intimate Acts
  • November 16, 2011

    There are a great many people who believe that the best part about being in a relationship is the ability to just relax and be yourself. To let go of airs and pretensions, relinquish our best ...

    Fucking Up
  • November 15, 2011

    As those of you who know me in "real" life know, there have been a lot of changes going on in my world in the last couple of months. They've all been good changes, but one way or another they've ...

    Ask Max: How Can I Make Him Scream My Name?
  • November 14, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    No More Vanilla Sex
  • November 11, 2011

    I wrote this for my friends at Met Another Frog a while back but I never shared it with you guys. It's one of my favourite nasty posts ever. Enjoy.

    So You’re On A Break
  • November 10, 2011

    A couple I know recently decided to take a break from one another to think things over. Although as a rule I avoid getting close to both parties in a relationship, as it happens I'm close to both ...

    The Easiest Thing (You’re Not Doing) To Make Your Girl Happy
  • November 9, 2011

    If I have one great talent in life it's knowing how things should be done. I can walk into just about any situation, get the lay of the land, and say "here are all the things you're not doing ...

    Ask Max: I Can’t Nut
  • November 8, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Say You Want It (A Nasty Friday Story)
  • November 4, 2011

    This may or may not be a true story…

    Wanderlust
  • November 3, 2011

    Until fairly recently, I wasn't much in to travelling. As a matter of fact, I've been fervently anti-travelling. I'm a creature of habit and a big sucky baby when forced to deviate from my ...

    Don’t Call Me Baby (Remix)
  • November 2, 2011

    Last night, after making a valiant attempt to write a post called "Tunde: 600 Words of Awesome", I had an urge to write a post about pet names. As those of you who know me in real life know, I ...

    What You Won’t Do for Love
  • November 1, 2011

    The other day during a lovely chat, Mr. Max mentioned that he wanted to get a Bottom Bitch Theory t-shirt. For those of you not familiar with the Bottom Bitch Theory, it's basically a rundown of ...

    Ask Max: I Don’t Know What He Does
  • October 31, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Raw
  • October 28, 2011

    Come with me. I want to take you on a journey. A journey to a place where sex is free of encumbrances. Where all you need is a dick and a pussy and a dirty mind.

    Subliminal Questions, Failed Tests, and Non-Answers
  • October 27, 2011

    "If he snaps, then you know you got him. And there's no need to go, is there? But if he tries to act all cool and shit, you just gon' have to go teach his ass a lesson".

    Oh You Can’t Get Sex? Here’s Why.
  • October 25, 2011

    Last week we touched on a very hot topic around these parts - whether it's easy for a woman to get sex when she wants it. The women said no, the men said yes, and chaos and bacchanal ensued. At ...

    Ask Max: Do Long Distance Relationships Work?
  • October 24, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Let Him Nut in Your Face
  • October 21, 2011

    Ah nut. For a woman who takes pride in a job well done, it is the raison d'etre when it comes to fucking. Nothing says "job well done" like getting a man to shoot a big beautiful load. The ...

    Discipline
  • October 20, 2011

    It's 6:58pm on Wednesday and I'm asshole tired. I've been up since 4 o c'lock, spent my morning sitting through mind-numbing meetings, and fought to stay awake all afternoon back at my desk. I ...

    Adventures in Crazy Part I
  • October 19, 2011

    My first boyfriend deceived me in a cruel and disgusting way. It was really terrible. So much so that very few people even know the story. Even now, over a decade and a half later, my face gets ...

    Reopening A Can of Worms (Still can’t have sex whenever we want)
  • October 18, 2011

    One of my very favourite things about this blog is getting feedback from my readers. I love it when people write me and tell me they love the blog and I love it even more when they say I'm their ...

    Ask Max: He Doesn’t Know I’m Alive
  • October 17, 2011

    Ask Max is my weekly advice column where I respond to readers' sex, dating, and relationship questions and the max-logic fam weighs in with their own advice. If you have a question that you need ...

    Does Your Partner Embarrass You?
  • October 16, 2011

    You know it's something exciting when I post on a Sunday right? My friend Josh at Bandito Films is casting a a new documentary on embarrassing boyfriends/girlfriends. He's looking for a couple ...

    Dickmatized
  • October 14, 2011

    This is a story about a girl who loved sex. For her, there was no greater feeling than the moment a man slid his turgid dick deep into her...except maybe for the moment when all of her expert ...

    The Theme Song
  • October 13, 2011

    As some of you know, for the last little while I've been re-watching the TV show Ally McBeal. If you've never watched the show, it centres around the weird, skinny, angsty Ally McBeal who is ...

    Body Envy
  • October 12, 2011

    In a lot of ways, life was simpler when I was a chunky girl. My primary concern was finding clothes that fit me that did not make me look like a sausage and making sure I had the peripherals like ...

    Ask Max: Overcoming My Upbringing
  • October 11, 2011

    First off, I apologize for being missing in action the last little while. Between trying to recover from my vacation, my last days at work, a quick trip to visit my parents, and...other ...

    Separation Anxiety
  • October 6, 2011

    I don't believe in permanence. Call it learning from past experience, call it pessimism, call it yet another example of my craziness, but I just don't ever expect anything in life to last. ...

    Commandment III: Thou Shalt Not Waste Time
  • October 5, 2011

    Just as God had to step in and give the Israelites some instructions on how to conduct themselves, so must I tell you the proper way to behave in your jump off type relationships. So every ...

    On Vacation
  • September 29, 2011

    I'm posting this via the free wi-fi on a Megabus to New York...tomorrow's my birthday and I'm on vacation bitches!

    Commandment II: Thou Shalt Not Lie on Pussy
  • September 28, 2011

    Just as God had to step in and give the Israelites some instructions on how to conduct themselves, so must I tell you the proper way to behave in your jump off type relationships. So every ...

    Greatness
  • September 27, 2011

    I never really wanted to be great. I had no big career aspirations growing up. When I was a little girl if you'd asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up I would have told you I wanted to be a ...

    Ask Max: I’m a Short Dick Man
  • September 26, 2011

    This week on Ask Max we have a rare male reader question and we're talking about one of my favourite topics - dicks. Is it possible for a man to have a healthy sex life when he has a small penis?

    Anticipation
  • September 23, 2011

    When I first met you, I didn't think I would ever fuck you. I liked the way you look and I liked talking to you, but I didn't think the vibe was there. You were funny, you were nice, but ...

    She’s Never Satisfied
  • September 22, 2011

    Way back when Purple Rain came out, my sisters and I went apeshit over the song When Doves Cry. I remember a day when the three of us were pissed at our mum for something, and we all crowded ...

    The 10 Commandments of Casual Sex
  • September 21, 2011

    As you guys know, I'm a big fan of casual sex. Not necessarily for me personally, but as a concept. Just had to make that clear. But what you might not know about me is that I am also a big fan ...

    Sexy Ugly
  • September 20, 2011

    There are few things greater than getting down and dirty with someone whose looks you love. Getting your parts oiled by someone who is both hot and sexy is pretty much the holy grail in the ...

    Ask Max: FwB and Oral Sex
  • September 19, 2011

    This week on Ask Max we have another question from Kyra of He Always Pokes Me fame. This week she leads us to explore the murky waters of casual sex and oral sex.

    Voyeurism Stories
  • September 16, 2011

    So there we were, in a slightly narrow hotel bed. He undressed me slowly, touched me everywhere. We moved around and over each other as smoothly as water flows over a rock. Every stroke, every ...

    Mr. Nice Guy
  • September 15, 2011

    As those of you who are close to me know, I'm going through a bit of a mid-life crisis. And yes I realize that usually happens to people in their mid-fifties, but I think I'm justified in having ...

    White Guys that Black Girls Love
  • September 14, 2011

    Everyone who knows me knows I don't date white guys. Tried it, didn't work, not doing it again, not getting into it in today's post. It's a wrap for me and the white men of the world.

    He’s Not You
  • September 13, 2011

    Yesterday when I heard the sound of my gchat go off in the afternoon I knew it was you. We haven't talked in a while and I miss you and figure you must miss me too. We've always told each other ...

    Ask Max: Can I Go it Alone?
  • September 12, 2011

    And we're back with another edition of Ask Max Mondays. This week we have a question from a woman trying to navigate life in a new city. Read her question and my response and weigh in with your ...

    Sprucing Things Up
  • September 9, 2011

       

    The Art of the Threesome Part II
  • September 9, 2011

    The three of us sat around talking for a while. He carried the convo at first, but after a while we started to warm up to each other. She was really cool and I could see why he thought we'd be a ...

    Random Things I’m Anal About
  • September 8, 2011

    Like my girl Shonnerz always tells me, I am a mess. Not in the scandalous way, but I’m a total scatterbrain. My home and office are in a constant state of barely-controlled chaos, and my ...

    When the Shoe Drops
  • September 7, 2011

    In every relationship of substance there comes a time when the rose-coloured glasses come off and we realize that the person we're dealing with is but a mere mortal. It has to happen, but still ...

    Ask Max: I Haven’t Had Sex in Four Years
  • September 6, 2011

    I'm about to turn 21 and I haven't had sex in a little over four years. You can imagine what that's done for my self-esteem on all levels. To boot I've never had a relationship with any kind of ...

    The Art of the Threesome Part I
  • September 2, 2011

    I don’t get a lot of advice questions from men, but of the ones I do receive, the vast majority of them are about threesomes. Have I ever had one, would I ever have one, do girls really ...

    Aaaand we’re two!
  • September 1, 2011

    As always (by which I mean as I did once before) I’m going to commemorate the occasion by looking back at the past year. Take a stroll down memory lane with me, won’t you? Your 5 ...

    Don’t Do Boyfriend Shit
  • August 31, 2011

    In keeping with this week's apparent theme of how to behave in ambiguous relationships, I'm here today to school you men.

    Don’t Do Girlfriend Shit
  • August 30, 2011

    So the homey Malik is back with another guest post. This time he’s schooling ladies on what not to do in a friends with benefits situation if you don’t want the man to think ...

    Ask Max: They Think I’m Easy
  • August 29, 2011

    And we’re back with our regular Monday advice question. This is an interesting one. I am a 35 year old professional black woman, with my life pretty much in order-except for my love life. ...

    I Need to Get F*cked
  • August 26, 2011

    It's been 63 days since you last fucked me. And I need your dick. Now. I've been thinking about it, dreaming about it, painting my nails and imagining you here with me. Fucking me.

    Yeah I’m Cocky, And What?
  • August 25, 2011

    Okay guys. I'm sorry but I've got to give you a throwback today. It's a bad time. Baaaaad time. This is one of my first guest posts ever that ran on Three Ways to Take It (RIP) a while ago. If ...

    How to Be a Jump Off Without Ruining Your Self-Esteem
  • August 24, 2011

    As a lover of sex and a shunner of monogamy, I hold casual sex relationships in very high regard. I believe in them. And I know from personal experience that they can be sustained for long, ...

    Man Logic

     You guys know I love men. I think they are vastly superior creatures in every way. They’re funnier, they’re dirtier, and they just make sense. Well, they make more sense, I should ...

    Ask Max: Her Best Friend’s Man
  • August 22, 2011

    So after all my emo-ness last week, it’s time we got a little rowdy around here to balance things out. So I hereby declare this #rowdyweek and I pledge to do my very best to return to the ...

    I Like to Look at It
  • August 19, 2011

    I like to fuck with the lights on. The brighter the better. I’m not shy and you better not be either. I don’t want to fuck you in the darkness because I like to look at it. I want you ...

    No, I Don’t Want to Meet Your Mother
  • August 18, 2011

    If there’s one thing that will get the “danger” bells ringing in my brain it’s a man telling me he wants to introduce me to his mother. Although I recognize that meeting ...

    The 400th Post
  • August 17, 2011

    This is the 400th post. 715 days ago I got myself so up in arms digging in the crates of Single Black Male that I said to myself “I’m gonna start my own blog!” because I had too ...

    Max & The Corny Dudes
  • August 16, 2011

    I've been laying off the video posts lately since some guy called me ugly when I posted the last video as a lot of you have mentioned in your responses to my reader survey that you're not able to ...

    Hard Time Blues
  • August 15, 2011

    Confession: lately life has been kicking my ass. I haven’t been feeling well, work is…work, and last week I got fucked over royally by the universe and the cosmic purpose of that has ...

    Come Inside (A Nasty Friday Guest Post)

    It’s past time we had the lovely @MizzLoveLippz come and bless us on a Nasty Friday – no one does hot talks better than she. If you don’t know about her site, please get caught ...

    The Quiet Fuck
  • August 11, 2011

    Let me tell you a story: once I fucked a man I'd wanted to fuck for a really long time. When the moment came that I knew it was finally going to happen, I was so excited. I knew it was going to ...

    Girls to Watch
  • August 10, 2011

    I’m all for the power of sisterhood. At least I am right now while I’m still aglow from my all-girls vacation. Friendship among females is a beautiful thing and any woman who ...

    Dear Mr. Mindf*ck
  • August 9, 2011

    Dear Mr. Mindfuck, I am writing to tell you that I am done with you. I know it seems counter-intuitive to do so. I know that the best way to let you know I'm done is just to be done, but I ...

    A Day in the Life of Max
  • August 8, 2011

    First off, a huge thank you to those of you who have responded to my reader survey. I've gotten more responses than I anticipated and I'm really enjoying reading them all. The results are really ...

    Help Me Be Great
  • August 6, 2011

    Though it may not seem like it at times, I’m always working to figure out how to make max-logic as great as possible for you guys so you have a good time for the few minutes a day you spend ...

    Oral Fixation (A Nasty Friday Guest Post)

    Nasty Fridays returns in a big way with a guest post from my former FXP nemesis and friend The Analyst . If you don't know about him, he is the author of the amazing When Keeping it Real Goes ...

    Black Greeks for Dummies
  • August 4, 2011

    As you guys already know, I stay losing by being Canadian. They do not give out condoms on the subway here, we don't have Pandora, and our butter pales in comparison to yours. It's no kinda life, ...

    When Girls Get Together
  • August 3, 2011

    And I’m back! I apologize again for disappearing on you guys even though you obviously didn’t miss me much since not one of you hit me up to ask me why I wasn’t posting. ...

    Gone Fishin’
  • August 2, 2011

    So in case you guys haven’t noticed, I’m on vacation. I apologize for not telling you in advance but I didn’t plan for it to be a vacation from the blog. Unfortunately, when you ...

    Life Au Naturale
  • July 28, 2011

    As some of you may remember, at the beginning of the month I vowed not to wear makeup or flat iron my hair during the week for the month of July.

    Mind of a Woman
  • July 27, 2011

    Yesterday my homey and birthday twin @BrazenlyVirile wrote an awesome post on his blog about the things he notices about a woman.  I already knew he was a different type of dude but it was ...

    F*ck the Feedback
  • July 26, 2011

    Last week I got a nasty email. Not the good kind of nasty from a man lusting after me; filled with well-placed fucks and detailing exactly what the sender wants to do to me. No this was the bad ...

    Ask Max: What Are His Intentions?
  • July 25, 2011

    From Christina: “I really stumped on what this guy’s intentions are and I was hoping you would help me make light of it. I knew this guy for about 7 months now, we met in college.I ...

    Mind Sex (A Nasty Friday Throwback)

    As I type this, the temperature is almost 50 degrees in my apartment. That would be roughly 130 degrees for my Farenheit folks. Why am I talking to you about the weather? Because it is too damn ...

    So You Wanna Be a Freak
  • July 21, 2011

    The thing about being a female sex and relationships blogger is that people tend to expect things of you. Readers look to you for answers, friends expect you to follow your own advice in your ...

    Old Friends
  • July 20, 2011

    A couple of weeks ago I was in a cab, rushing to West Queen West to judge an event with three lovely ladies.  Because I’d read some epic smut and had to take a fast nail-painting break ...

    The Damsel in Distress
  • July 19, 2011

    So those of you who follow me on twitter might have seen my tweets about my shopping excursion last night. If you missed it, I tweeted that I was on my way to buy some adjustable weights to step ...

    He Always Pokes Me
  • July 18, 2011

    And we're back with another advice question. This one comes from Kyra and she writes: So basically I've known this guy for about 7 years and recently decided to take it to the next level which ...

    Come Get This P*ssy

    This week we have a guest appearance from a regular reader and commenter. But I’m not telling you who it is. Read it and see if you can guess. The last time I crossed paths with her it was ...

    Talking to You and Hearing You Answer
  • July 14, 2011

    "Talking to you and hearing you answer - that's the kick" (Toni Morrison)

    When I Like Someone
  • July 13, 2011

    One of the best things for me about being single is having no shortage of mantertainment. Although I've gone through droughts in the past, at this point in my life I pretty much have a man I can ...

    I’m About to Smash Your Ex
  • July 12, 2011

    So I’m back with another great advice question. This one comes from Kookie and it’s really interesting. “[Back in 2009 I met a woman online with whom I had similar interests]. I ...

    Dealing with Disappointment
  • July 11, 2011

    So this weekend I spent an obscene amount of time watching Work Out.  It’s a reality show about a personal trainer named Jackie Warner, whose workout DVD’s kick my narrow ass on a ...

    The Zipless F*ck
  • July 8, 2011

    Another Friday night at another club with your girls. Your little clique dispersed ages ago; and you stand off to the side, watching the crowd and wondering why you didn't just stay home and ...

    So What Ever Happened to the Spectacular Asshole?

    This is by far the question I am most often asked by readers these days. I've been reluctant to write about Mr. SA because the story is way too complicated to be adequately conveyed in one post, ...

    A Post About Water
  • July 6, 2011

    Every week in my house there is a different debate going on. Sometimes it’s whether I need to get out of whatever romantic entanglement I’m currently in, sometimes it’s whether ...

    Max Au Naturale
  • July 5, 2011

    As you guys know, I was brought up to be a “proper young lady”. I was walking with books on my head at 13, I’ve got a mean strut in heels, and I know how to get in and out of a ...

    Deflowering a Virgin
  • July 4, 2011

    So I received a great advice question via email the other day and I thought today would be a great day for a video post since the majority of you are not working. Oh but then again, if ...

    Your Favourite Male Bloggers in Bed (Calling Out Names)
  • July 1, 2011

    I don't consider myself an e-groupie. I don't aspire to bone the men behind the blogs I so enjoy. With one exception. Okay two. No - three. But that's neither here nor there. I get enough offers ...

    I Don’t Love You Anymore
  • June 30, 2011

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v3nbdFdCi-Y There is no worse moment in your relationship than the moment at which you look up at your partner and think to yourself “I don’t love you ...

    What Is It With Cuddling?
  • June 29, 2011

    The homey Malik recently schooled me on a phenomenon that traumatized the shit out of me: the cuddle buddy. Apparently there are men and women in the world who get together in a bedroom, lie down ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @NIANaturally
  • June 28, 2011

    This week for Any 10 on Tuesday we have one of my favourite commenters @NIANaturally. She’s a regular in this corner of the e-streets and can always be counted on to be reasonable, ...

    You and Your Dick Pics
  • June 27, 2011

    At some point in relatively recent history I made a bet with a man. It was one of those bets that you know you can’t lose so I made the stakes ridiculously high. If I lost I would have to ...

    You Just Need Motivation by @DrJayJack

    The man who needs no description is back to bless us with some Friday nastiness. Enjoy and overshare in the comments.

    He Never Says I’m Pretty
  • June 23, 2011

    A few months ago a man told me I was very beautiful. And since he didn't say it during sex, I believe he meant it and I have to say it floored me.

    Random Reasons I Judge a Man
  • June 22, 2011

    When it comes to the men I dally with I’m not one for must-have lists. I have no income or height requirements, no minimum education level to qualify. Being shorter than I is not grounds ...

    I’m in Love With Myself
  • June 21, 2011

    My fellow diehard SBM fans will recognize the title of this post and think I’m topic-jacking, but you guys should know me better than that by now. For one thing, those guys have written ...

    The Best Words I Never Use
  • June 20, 2011

    Given that I was known in another life as “the walking dictionary”, it comes as no surprise that I love words. Weird words, obscure words, dirty words, and of course big words. I love ...

    The Old-Time F*ck
  • June 17, 2011

    Today is the last day to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. Before you enjoy today’s nastiness, please head over here to vote for me. Nobody loves a dirty fuck more than me. The titillation ...

    Compassion
  • June 16, 2011

    Only a few days left of voting for the Black Weblog Awards. Please head over here to vote for me. Please! Picture it. I’m standing outside the AMC waiting for my sister and my bestie. ...

    A Rant, An Impassioned Plea

    Only a few days left of voting for the Black Weblog Awards. Please head over here to vote for me. Please! Yesterday the homey @MalikPanama sent me a rant apropos of nothing. I read it and then I ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @PrimaryThoughts
  • June 14, 2011

    Time is running out to vote for the Black Weblog Awards! Thanks to the best readers ever, I’m nominated for Best Personal Blog, Best International Blog, Best Sex & Relationships Blog, ...

    Revisionist History
  • June 13, 2011

    Only a few days left of voting for the Black Weblog Awards. Please head over here to vote for me. Every woman has experienced this story at least once in her life: you’re strolling down ...

    Throwing it Back

    Okay I suck (literally). But after the week I had, the well of nastiness is run the fuck dry so we’re throwing it back today. I’ll hit you with something truly depraved next Friday, I ...

    The Benevolent Dictator

    First things first: please take a moment to head over here to vote for me to win in The Black Weblog Awards for Best Personal Blog, Best International Blog, Best Sex & Relationships Blog, and ...

    The Soul of a Cheater
  • June 8, 2011

    Lately I've been thinking a lot about monogamy. More specifically, I've been thinking about monogamy as it relates to me - what would I be like in a monogamous relationship? As you guys are well ...

    Squeamish is as Squeamish Does
  • June 7, 2011

    I take two buses to work every morning. When I get off the bus I use my teeth to pull a cigarette out of the pack and suck it back quickly before heading to my floor. When I get there I run to ...

    The Man Code
  • June 6, 2011

    At any given time in a single woman's life, she has at least three dudes who would love to smash. There's probably one that stays sniffing at her crotches even though he hasn't a chance in hell, ...

    Pussy Be Yankin’
  • June 3, 2011

    Under normal circumstances my aversion to music videos would have prevented me from ever encountering this song, but my favourite person recently turned me on to it.

    Mixing Friends and Lovers

      As those of you who know my life story are already aware, my first love was one of my best friends for years before we ever bumped uglies. As a result, he was thoroughly integrated into my ...

    Time to Throw in the Towel
  • June 1, 2011

    Whenever I tell the story of me and the Spectacular Asshole back in the day, the listener asks me three questions: How long did this go on? How did you stand it? How did you eventually stop? The ...

    Getting Your Mojo Back
  • May 31, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    Nothing to See Here
  • May 30, 2011

    Don’t forget to vote for me to win a Black Weblog Award. Head over here to get the details and whatnot. For 70% of my readers it’s the unofficial kick-off to summer and I sincerely ...

    The Hottest Thing a Man Can Say
  • May 27, 2011

    As a reader, a writer, and a talker, words are a big deal to me. I take them seriously, choose them carefully, and value them above feelings and actions. Nothing inspires me, motivates me, or ...

    A Trip Down Memory Lane

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    The Double-Edged Sword
  • May 25, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    How to Argue (A Guide for Women)
  • May 24, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    My First Time
  • May 23, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    Romancing Your Man
  • May 19, 2011

    Yesterday I read a post by the beautiful @GemoftheOcean where she talked about being deprived of romance. I totally felt her on it, because I've almost never experienced it myself. And judging ...

    Playing By The Rules
  • May 18, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @Sowhatiff
  • May 17, 2011

    So thanks to you – best readers ever – I topped what I did last year and am nominated for four Black Weblog Awards! You guys fucking rock. Now you know what to do right? Head over ...

    The Day the Lights Went Out
  • May 16, 2011

    There are a lot of things that can cause a person to leave your life. Sometimes it’s some deep and unforgivable bullshit that goes down that causes you to dislike or distrust the person and ...

    A Little Post About Twitter
  • May 15, 2011

    I'm writing this post to admit defeat. I tried to live by my own rules and I was wrong. I have been beaten on Twitter and now I must make a change.

    Her
  • May 13, 2011

    I've got a little Nasty Friday story for you guys. Hope you like it.

    The Power of Three
  • May 12, 2011

    When I was growing up I read a story that contained a line that has stayed with me my entire life: Once is funny, twice is silly, three times is spanking. I don’t remember the context in ...

    Intimate Talks

    The choice is yours today.

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @Goddess_I
  • May 10, 2011

    This week for I think what is the first time ever we have a fellow Toronto blogger joining us for Any 10 on Tuesday. Goddess Intellect is new to the max-logic fam, but check out her site – ...

    The Case of the Ex
  • May 9, 2011

    The last man I dated with any type of regularity disappeared off the face of the earth when we called it quits. I wasn’t mad because in my world, that’s the natural order of things. ...

    Nominate Me Please
  • May 7, 2011

      Today is the last day to submit your nominations for the Black Weblog Awards and therefore the last day for me to desperately plead with you to please nominate me. It only takes a few ...

    I Wanna F*ck You
  • May 6, 2011

    A few weeks ago I asked a random man if I could touch his hair. He had long, beautiful, well-tended to locks and the urge to feel them in my hands outweighed the sense of decorum that normally ...

    The F*ckwit
  • May 5, 2011

    Here’s your daily reminder to please nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Or two. Or four and we can top last year. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to ...

    Love and Lies

    Yet another story about the Spectacular Asshole.

    Any 10 on Tuesday with Malik
  • May 3, 2011

    Here’s your daily reminder to please nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Or two. Or four and we can top last year. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to ...

    1.5 Inches of Pleasure
  • May 2, 2011

    Click here to watch the video version of this review. So a few weeks ago my friend C (hi C!) called me up asking if I’d heard of a company called Lelo . I hadn’t, and proceeded to ...

    5 Must-Have F*cks
  • April 29, 2011

    Here’s your daily reminder to please nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Or two. Or four and we can top last year. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to ...

    Dudes Who Don’t Call (@WisdomisMisery Weighs In)

    Here’s your daily reminder to please nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Or two. Or four and we can top last year. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to ...

    No Questions Asked
  • April 27, 2011

    I’m fucking amazing at job interviews. That might be the most random opening line ever, but it’s also true. Though I have the tendency to be a highly-strung nervous Nelly in my day-to-day ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @ObsidianFiles
  • April 26, 2011

    It’s that time of year again. Nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to nominate me too! This week’s Any 10 on Tuesday ...

    A Marriage of Convenience

    A couple of weeks ago I took in a Raptors game with Mr. Should-be Right. Since the Raptors weren't doing much and we could only really spend about three minutes marveling at the fact that Juwan ...

    Bad Shoes (and Other Random Instant Turn Offs)
  • April 21, 2011

    It’s that time of year again. Nominate me for a Black Weblog Award please. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to nominate me too! As you guys know, I’m a ...

    Max’s Workout Plan
  • April 20, 2011

    So it's a banner week over at casa maxfab and do you guys know why? Because we are celebrating six full months of Max working out regularly!

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @MrSanks
  • April 19, 2011

    It’s that time of year again. Nominate me for a Black Weblog Award. Go here to get all the instructions and ish. And tell a friend to nominate me too! It’s Tuesday and that means ...

    Somebody Else’s Man
  • April 18, 2011

    Confession: I have a thing for your man. Well not yours necessarily, but someone’s man. I don’t know what it is or when this started, but I’m realizing in my old-ish age that I ...

    Crossing the Red Line (A Throwback Post)

    Yes, another throwback. Sorry kids. It’s been a bad week and I’m not feeling well. But I’ll be back with the goodness next Friday even though it’s a holiday. Deal? In a ...

    Top 10 Honky Hits
  • April 14, 2011

    Okay first of all, please don’t get offended by my use of the word “honky”. It’s a stupid word but it goes better with hits than “Caucasian”. Is that settled? ...

    Am I Bad in Bed?
  • April 13, 2011

    Confession: the comments on Monday’s post gave me a bit of a complex. Now I’m not the woman in the scenario, but I felt for her. Like I said, I’ve been in the situation of ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @RedLady821

    I always say this, but I'm super excited about this week's Any 10 on Tuesday because we have one of my very favourite e-people on deck. If you haven't yet encountered the indomitable Red Lady, ...

    Did He Use Me for Sex?
  • April 11, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader advice question. Check out the question and my answer and then weigh in in the comments. So I met this guy about 8 months ago through mutual friends. He lives a ...

    Casual Meaningful Sex
  • April 8, 2011

    I’ve never wanted to fuck anyone as badly as I wanted to fuck him. The first time I saw him I knew I wouldn’t rest until I bit the side of his neck and kissed the hollow at the base ...

    The Starting Lineup
  • April 7, 2011

    Those of you who know me outside of my blog know that I can be a bit of a headcase. I’m extremely high strung, alternately too hard and too easy on myself, and have far less common sense ...

    My Name is Max and I’m an As$hole
  • April 6, 2011

    If you are among my close circle of friends, you know that in the last few days I’ve realized that deep down inside I am an asshole. I never would have thought this to be the case, but you ...

    The Ex Factor
  • April 5, 2011

    Those of you who follow me or any of your favourite bloggers on twitter have probably seen more than enough tweets about the epicness of our weekend in DC. I promised myself I wasn’t going ...

    Beauty and the Beast – Strip clubs vs. Burlesque Shows

    One last guest post for you guys while I recover from my epic weekend in DC. Today we have Nubian Empress of Kinetic Culture extolling the virtues of burlesque shows. Make sure you give her a ...

    Sex & Public Places

    I'm still running wild in DC so the homey @AO1379 is handling Nasty Friday this week. He had the ladies open with his last post and I'm sure he won't disappoint you this week. Be sure to ...

    Right Person, Wrong Time

    By the time you read this I’ll be causing trouble and wrecking shit in DC. I’ll be there for the rest of the week – and yes I will be at the SBM and VSB events (that I am too ...

    Some Things Men Will Never Admit About Themselves
  • March 30, 2011

    When you’re in need of advice, your best bet is to ask a man. Men are more logical, less emotionally-invested, and therefore better able to be objective about a situation. They’re also less ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @pinchmycheekie
  • March 29, 2011

    I am so excited to have the ridiculous and ratchet @pinchmycheekie for this week’s Any 10 on Tuesday. Lover of rice, mayor of the VSB comment section, and dispenser of stupidity over at her ...

    Don’t Look Back

    My mother was married twice before my father. Both relationships ended because the man committed one or a series of egregious acts that brought her to her breaking point. And so she bounced. In ...

    Two Men and a Lady
  • March 25, 2011

    For some reason, sexy men tend to travel in pairs. Have you ever noticed that? If you come across a regular looking guy, or an attractive but not hot guy, or even a fucking ugly guy, his ...

    A Dude, a Lady, and a Little Girl

    The other night I had a phone conversation with the spectacular asshole that can best be described as epic. Not just because of the content of the convo, but because it was effing long. And of ...

    What I Should Have Given Up for Lent
  • March 23, 2011

    So the season of Lent is upon us and all my Catholic people are denying ourselves some pleasure as a gesture of identification with Christ's suffering. Some people are giving up chocolate, others ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @reeciecups
  • March 22, 2011

    This week for  Any 10 on Tuesdays we have the lovely Reeciecups. Hardcore tweeter and insightful commenter, she’s also a music afficianado and every post on her blog will have to running ...

    Are you ready for your next relationship?
  • March 21, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader question. This one is from @TashiMee and she asks “When you get out of a long term relationship how much time do you think needs to pass before ...

    Didn’t You Eat Before You Got Here? (a Throwback Post)

    You guys read yesterday’s post (which I am too tired to link to) so you know what’s up. I’m up to my eyeballs in work so enjoy this throwback to the early days when Nasty ...

    Wanting is Complicated
  • March 17, 2011

    Confession time: yesterday at about 4 o’clock I went into my office, shut the door, put my head on my desk and quietly cried. It was only for a moment, but as any career-oriented girl ...

    When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust You
  • March 16, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader advice question. This one was a good one in that I was a little stumped. For those of you who can’t see the video or can’t be bothered to watch ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @streetztalk
  • March 15, 2011

    This week on Any 10 on Tuesday we have another fan favourite: the object of countless e-crushes, patron of max-logic.com, and the only SBM writer whose hotness I can personally vouch ...

    The Spectacular As$hole

    Of all the words I could use to describe the man I spent the better part of my twenties with, Spectacular Asshole is my favourite. Not just because it’s kinda funny, but because it is ...

    Mastering Missionary

    In the world of media strategy, we use different tactics to elicit different reactions. We might make an ad with a game in it to get people to interact with our brand. Or we might do a big ...

    Dear Men: You Are Not Kanye
  • March 10, 2011

    I once had to ban my boyfriend from listening to Jay-Z. Now I’m as big a Jigga fan as anyone else out there but my guy was just getting out of control trying to bring his lyrics to life. One ...

    The After-Sex Phone Call
  • March 9, 2011

    Conversations among girlfriends about the first time one of them slams a dude can vary wildly depending on many things. If the sex was good the discussion will be peppered with squeals of delight ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @8plus9

    I know I always say this, but I’m super excited to have NC-17 join us this week  for Any 10 on Tuesday. His blog Black Girls Are Easy is just as ignorant as the title suggests, but in a ...

    Snooping: A Rant and The Rules

    So today we’re talking about snooping and I’m doing a combo move. A video rant about how very much I wish women would stop doing this shit. And the rules of engagement for those of  ...

    The last epic sex I had
  • March 4, 2011

    A couple of weeks ago I was out with a group of friends. I should have been having a good time but I was horny and couldn't stop thinking about my secret lover and how much I would rather be with ...

    Your Multi-Penis Policy
  • March 3, 2011

    When you are a single woman trying to keep your parts oiled it’s imperative to give some thought to the issue of multiple sex partners. One of the beautiful things about being a dog without ...

    Whores Finish First

    I came across this post the other day on Jean DeGrate‘s blog and I almost choked to death laughing at it. He has graciously agreed to let me share it with you. ***Not necessarily ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @MrSpradley
  • March 1, 2011

    This week on Any 10 on Tuesday we have the fan favourite The Most Interesting Man in the World. If you know him you love him and wish he wasn’t married. If you don’t, get caught up. ...

    Can You Claim Him?
  • February 28, 2011

    So I’m back with another reader question. Read the question below and then watch the video to see my answer. I have “seeing” a guy for about 3 months now. He is the first and ...

    The Beautiful Backshot
  • February 25, 2011

    We have another Nasty Friday guest post this week courtesy of @AO1379 who is paying homage to the wonderful backshot. Give him a warm and nasty welcome. There are many views that take your breath ...

    Are You Stupid?
  • February 24, 2011

    The natural result of being a relationship blogger is that everyone wants to talk to me about their relationship issues. I don't mind it at all - part of the reason I wanted to blog about ...

    My Parents Know Nothing About This Blog
  • February 23, 2011

    My parents know nothing about this blog. Actually if you want to get technical about it, most of my family knows nothing about it. Only one of my sisters and a couple of my cousins have ever read ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @WisdomIsMisery
  • February 22, 2011

    I’m really excited to have this man join us this week  for Any 10 on Tuesday as it seems to be the only way to get him to read my blog he has quickly become one of my favourite bloggers ...

    I had sex today
  • February 18, 2011

    There are many good reasons to love sex. That exquisite moment when the cock slides its full length into the pussy. The sounds of bodies slamming into each other, nasty words whispered or ...

    Call It Your P*ssy (A @drjayjack guest post)
  • February 17, 2011

    The Well Respected and Connected Dr. J is back to bless us with another guest appearance.

    So You Smashed the Homie
  • February 16, 2011

    As you can see, I’m trying something different today. I’ve been getting lots of requests for video content so I’ve decided that whenever I get a reader question I will answer it ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @LalaBakir
  • February 15, 2011

    This week for  Any 10 on Tuesdays we have the lovely and talented Lala. You know her, you love her, you read her blog. Now see what she has to say about matters of the heart and parts. Describe ...

    (Toronto) Hip Hop You’re the Love of My Life
  • February 14, 2011

    With Valentine's day being forced down my throat. pause. upon us, I've been struggling to come up with an appropriate post to acknowledge the nauseating festive season. I couldn't write an Eff ...

    Intro to Bondage (a Nasty Friday Guest Post)

    This week we have a guest appearance from Julia of It's Not That Weird. She's gonna school those of us who are bondage novices on how to get our partners handcuffed and pliable so we can take ...

    5 Memos I Missed
  • February 10, 2011

    Whenever I get to talking to new people about my blog, one of the first questions that comes up is “how do know so much about sex and relationships?”. The answer I give varies ...

    I Could Date a Broke Man
  • February 9, 2011

    I could date a broke man. In these days and times of women who are out there doing it for themselves, climbing the corporate ladder and pocketing fat paycheques, that’s not a phrase you hear ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @dewangibson
  • February 8, 2011

    I’ve got a fresh new victim for Any 10 on Tuesdays. Dewan Gibson is a humorist and author of The Imperfect Enjoyment. He has written for Defenestration Magazine, Hobo Pancakes, FreshXpress ...

    Sex Manners (You be the judge)
  • February 7, 2011

    I heard an interesting story the other day about this girl I used to be friends with. Apparently she was long-distance dating a dude who lived in Ohio and after the requisite amount of getting to ...

    Make Your Hand Job Great
  • February 4, 2011

    A while back I schooled the men on how to properly finger a woman. In that post many of the ladies expressed their love for manual stimulation and bemoaned the fact that men were not giving it ...

    The Trials and Tribulations of the Female Sex Blogger
  • February 3, 2011

    There are a lot of amazing and wonderful things when you are a woman who blogs about sex. You get free blow job workshops, sometimes the comments make really good smut, and…well. ...

    Mr. Should-be Right
  • February 2, 2011

    Of all the men I've ever dallied with, there were only two I could see myself happily married to. Snickers, with whom I had almost nothing in common but a love deep enough to withstand our ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @TheManSamSharpe
  • February 1, 2011

    We’re past the point where we need preamble on Any 10 on Tuesdays right? Describe yourself in three sentences or less. Look, I am an honest and loyal dude; probably loyal to a fault. I ...

    Weird Ways I Love You
  • January 31, 2011

    I’m a bit of an asshole, but if I have one redeeming quality it’s that I have a big heart. If I take you into my circle I will shower you with the full force of all of the affection I ...

    A Freak is Born
  • January 28, 2011

    This post would not have been possible without @SimplisElegance who turned me on to Janet Jackson's Would You Mind when I needed dirty background music to write. I owe you one girl.

    I Just Don’t Give a F*ck
  • January 27, 2011

    For a reason that I can no longer recall (but I attribute to my feverish, delirious state) last night I was dicking around on YouTube and came across this video: It tickled me because it reminded ...

    I’m So Self-Conscious
  • January 26, 2011

    Those of you who follow me on twitter may have seen my tweets last night about going to hear Spike Lee speak. Despite @MidtownMo‘s determination to steal my joy, I was really excited about ...

    Unchartered Waters
  • January 25, 2011

    Confession: I have a crush. This is not exactly breaking news, considering that I am rarely without one. But this latest crush is different. I don’t know this person that well, but based on ...

    Any 10 on Monday with @Starita34
  • January 24, 2011

    Yes I know it’s not Tuesday but it’s been a while since we’ve had Any 10 on Tuesdays and I’m too crushed from the Jets losing to write I figured why wait? You guys know ...

    The Dramatic Structure of Sex
  • January 21, 2011

    The other night I had the most delicious daydream.

    Sex, Smut, and Porn (All I Need in This Life of Sin)
  • January 20, 2011

    I cannot start any more posts talking about the fact that I love sex. You guys already know this. Sex to me is the most important factor in my well-being. When I’m getting sex regularly ...

    The Switcheroo
  • January 19, 2011

    So yesterday my blogging boy Lincoln Anthony Blades put up a post about what he calls The Worst Lie Too Many Men Believe. The post basically attempted to dispel the “myth” that any ...

    P*ssy Pic Etiquette
  • January 18, 2011

    Ah the pussy picture. First I told you not to do it.  Then I ate my words. Now I am of the firm belief that the ability to take a hot coochie shot is an essential skill for the modern woman. Not ...

    The Men Weigh In
  • January 17, 2011

    So! Last week was quite interesting over here, wasn't it?

    Oh Baby I Like It Rough
  • January 14, 2011

    A couple of nights ago, armed with my new laptop and a blessedly empty apartment, I settled down to watch some porn.

    So Who Was Right?
  • January 13, 2011

    Well! We had quite the interesting day over here yesterday, didn't we? For those of you who missed it, we had a lengthy debate about whether a woman can get sex any time she wants it. The men ...

    No, We Actually Can’t Have Sex Any Time We Want
  • January 12, 2011

    If you subscribe to the theory that a way of thinking can be assigned to a gender, I definitely tend to think more like a man than like a woman. But if there is one point of view that men hold ...

    Playing Your Position

    Whenever I write about unconventional relationships like unboyfriends, open relationships, or casual hookups, the discussion always leads to someone protesting that they can’t get involved in ...

    The Bookmarking Man
  • January 10, 2011

    In the battle of the sexes, men and women often throw boomerangs at each other. By this I mean that we each bemoan the other’s propensity to do effed up things that we are guilty of ourselves. ...

    Deep Throat 101
  • January 7, 2011

    Ah the deep throat. As a woman who loves giving head and more importantly, who recognizes the power that comes with giving great top, the deep throat is one area in which I have been sorely remiss.

    Who Shot John? (A Throwback Post)
  • January 6, 2011

    This is one of my favourite posts that only got one comment when I initially posted it and it was from a dude I was dating so that doesn't even count. I thought it might be fun to bring it back.

    The Myth of the Different Man
  • January 5, 2011

    Here are two fundamental truths about my relationship history: 1. The thing I’ve liked best about every man I’ve fallen for is how different he is from all the others 2. I have had ...

    I’m Running Out of My Patience
  • January 4, 2011

    I want to tell you guys about my Christmas. I usually spend Christmas with my huge gang of aunties and uncles and cousins, but this year most of my family went to the Bahamas for the holidays so ...

    Fatal Flaws
  • January 3, 2011

    It’s a new year and I’m sure a bunch of you are either frantically scribbling down new year’s resolutions or struggling to work the ones you’ve already determined. ...

    Re-examining Some Things
  • December 22, 2010

    It’s almost the end of the year and that means it’s time to look back and examine things. What we’ve done right in the past year, where we’ve gone horribly wrong, and what ...

    Wedding Roasts (A Guest Post by @superblackgirl)

    Today we have a guest appearance from my lovely and talented little sis @superblackgirl. Show her lots of love in the comments and check out her most hiliarous but hasn’t been updated since ...

    A Great First Date
  • December 20, 2010

    I don’t date a lot, but I do have some pretty firm ideas of what a good first date should look like – who should pay the man, how long one should wait if the other person is late 5 ...

    Weird Ways We Wank
  • December 17, 2010

    The first time I ever um, painted my nails I thought I broke my vagina. I’m not going to tell you why – even for me oversharing has its limits – but I will say that I was ...

    The Well Has Run Dry
  • December 15, 2010

    If you guys follow me on twitter then you know that life in the land of max has kinda sucked lately. I’ve been working like a dog, surviving on microwaved pitas because they take only 30 ...

    The Trouble with Male Bloggers
  • December 14, 2010

    On any given day you will find me on gchat with one or more of my e-girlfriends. And while our conversation topics range from the mundane to the truly ratched, at some point of every conversation ...

    I Wish Someone Would: The Ex-Girl Edition
  • December 13, 2010

    It’s Monday and I have another I Wish Someone Would for you. This one has a twist, but I won’t be revealing what it is until later on today if the post gets enough comments. Ready? ...

    You on Top
  • December 10, 2010

    In all the years that I was with my first love, I don't think I ever rode his dick. I have no idea what the reasoning for this was, but I can only assume it was some silly girl combination of "I ...

    Life as a Misfit
  • December 9, 2010

    For as long as I can remember, I’ve always resided on the left side of normal. When I was in junior kindergarten I used to sign my name as “zero” on my homework assignments. In ...

    I love you, I miss you, I’m sorry
  • December 8, 2010

    One of the things most bloggers will say about themselves is that they find it easiest to express themselves through words. For mere mortals other people, it’s easier to show their feelings ...

    Do I Want an Older Dude?
  • December 7, 2010

    Let me tell you a story about my last good first date. I met the dude at a mutual friend’s New Years party. A few days after the party he sent me a nice note on Facebook saying he’d ...

    I Wish Someone Would: The Narcolepsy Edition
  • December 6, 2010

      And we’re back with another edition of I Wish Someone Would. This is a good one. Ready? Let’s begin. Okay so Man and Woman meet. They talk on the phone, they get together a few ...

    I Tried it. And I Liked it.
  • December 3, 2010

    As I mentioned somewhere around here recently, I wasn’t always a dirty bird. I know – it’s hard for me to believe too but it’s true. Until I was about 25 I was pretty ...

    Any 10 on Thursday with Suki
  • December 2, 2010

    Yeah yeah I know it’s supposed to be Any 10 on Tuesday but I am having the week from hell. You guys don’t even know. So just ‘low me okay? Anyway, today’s victim needs to ...

    How Safe is Your Sex?
  • December 1, 2010

    So I have a little story for you. As some of you guys know, in addition to this blog I also write a Sex Etiquette column on a site called PinkMafia.ca. One day I was chatting with my editor and ...

    I Wish Someone Would: The Booty Call Edition
  • November 30, 2010

    I heard a story the other day that blew my mind. It was so ridiculous I wished it had happened to me so that I could blog about it. I wanted to know what my dear friends and readers would have ...

    Signs of Single
  • November 29, 2010

    One Friday night a few years ago I was in Shoppers Drug Mart stocking up on essentials. In my cart there was shaving gel and razors, shampoo and conditioner, nail polish and the latest issue of ...

    What I Wish I Was Eating Today
  • November 25, 2010

    Those of you who know me in real life know I have some pretty epic digestion issues. I’m not gonna get into details here but suffice it to say I can’t eat anything good in life. The ...

    The So-Called Good Girl
  • November 24, 2010

    "Good girls say "no;" bad girls ask "when?""

    Your 101 Guide to Dating a Hot Boy
  • November 23, 2010

    Let me tell you a story. One morning not long before my ex and I called it quits we were outside taking out the garbage. We were late as usual so by the time we got to the end of the driveway the ...

    Don’t You Like Me Anymore Redux
  • November 22, 2010

    Okay okay I’ll admit that I have been beating the topic of disappearing men to death lately but only because it recently happened to me and I’m still not over it it’s one that ...

    Dirty Things I’ve Never Done
  • November 19, 2010

    It’s a common misconception that people who blog about sex get it a lot and it’s epic. And while that is definitely might be true, even us bloggers have gaps in our experience. ...

    5 Women You Don’t Want To Befriend
  • November 18, 2010

    Notwithstanding yesterday’s post, female friendship is a beautiful thing. Something special happens when women get together and it can be so intoxicating that sometimes we just want to add ...

    The Boys Club
  • November 17, 2010

    Ever since I was a little girl I've been boy-crazy. When I go home and look back over diaries I kept from ages 13-24, I have to laugh at the fact that all I ever talked about was this boy or that ...

    Baby What’s Your Sign (A Throwback Post)
  • November 16, 2010

    I’m throwing back this post a) because I’m lazy and b ) because I like the topic and a lot of you weren’t around when I originally posted it. I’m assuming I’ll be ...

    Am I Crazy?
  • November 15, 2010

    If, like me, you are a frequent consumer of dating and relationship blogs, you've probably come across many a discussion about crazy women. It seems that men these days are so afraid of crazy ...

    Signature Sex Moves
  • November 12, 2010

    The story of me losing my virginity is so crazily epic that the actual sex has gotten lost in the details. When I tell the story (which I am not going to do here today) I usually forget to ...

    Don’t You Like Me Anymore?
  • November 11, 2010

    As a perpetually single gal I’ve had a fair amount of dalliances with men. Some longer than others, some more hurtful than others, some more memorable than others. It would stand to reason ...

    5 Men I Would Like to Sleep With
  • November 10, 2010

    So we’ve talked about the men I can’t stand, the men I might not date, and the men I’m convinced don’t exist. Let’s spend some time talking about the men to whom I ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @Taut_7
  • November 9, 2010

    It’s Tuesday and that means it’s time for Any 10 on Tuesdays where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions. This week we’re talking to Tunde, ...

    Several Shades of Asshole
  • November 8, 2010

    It is a truism of the life of any single woman that you are going to encounter a few assholes on your journey to wifehood. And if you're anything like me, assholes are the only thing you're ...

    Bad Bedroom Moves for Men
  • November 5, 2010

    A couple of weeks ago I schooled the ladies on shit they shouldn’t be pulling in the bedroom. Men now it’s your turn. 1. The Jackhammer Okay really – WHY do you guys do this? ...

    Drink Away the Pain
  • November 4, 2010

    I had a really bad day yesterday. I wasn’t feeling well, someone stole my lunch, Lala tried to steal Cheekz from me and one of my account executives kept coming to my desk rather than using ...

    The 5 e-Personalities of Men
  • November 3, 2010

    Back when I schooled you on the joys and pains of the e-boo relationship, I forgot to include one crucial piece of the puzzle: knowing what type of e-man you're dealing with. Even more than in ...

    Any Ten on Tuesday with @IDoAlready
  • November 2, 2010

    It's Tuesday and that means it's time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions.

    The Great First Kiss
  • November 1, 2010

    The best first kiss I ever had was at the dinner table. I was on a first date with a dude that gave me major butterflies and, as we engaged in the kind of after-dinner banter that is the hallmark ...

    Please Stop Believing You Deserve Props Just For Trying

    My buddy Lincoln Anthony Blades is back with another guest post. Read and take notes then check him out at www.thisisyourconscience.com.

    Single by Choice Not by Chance

    If there’s anything that annoys a single, marriage-minded woman it’s a man who doesn’t want to be in a relationship. Especially because these men are rarely able to coherently ...

    There’s No Place Like Home
  • October 27, 2010

    As I’m sure you’re all aware by now, I’m on vacation. It’s a great thing in so many ways not the least of which is that it has allowed me to restore the sexy tan lines ...

    Any 10 on Tuesdays with Cheeks
  • October 26, 2010

    It’s Tuesday and we haven’t had Any 10 on Tuesdays in a really long time. This week we have one of my favourite readers here to overshare with us. So without further ado I give you ...

    Bad Bedroom Moves for Ladies
  • October 22, 2010

    There are few things in life that provide more opportunity for self-expression than sex. With the right combination of people, a simple “insert tab A into slot B” situation becomes a ...

    Next Lifetime (A Guest Post by @LaBakir)
  • October 21, 2010

    Today we have a guest appearance from the lovely and talented LaBakir. Make sure you show her some love in the comments. “Now what am I supposed to do when I want you in my world…I ...

    Fear of Flying
  • October 20, 2010

    While you’re reading this I’m freakng the fuck out. As many of you know, today I leave on my very first grown up vacation. For the first time ever I picked a place I wanted to go, ...

    Hush Mama (A Throwback Post)
  • October 19, 2010

    Like most days, I spent a good amount of yesterday over at SingleBlackMale.org. And like most days, a little bit of bacchanal popped off. Like most days, my blogging boy Dr Jay Jack dropped the ...

    Can You Do What I Do?
  • October 18, 2010

    I’ve always been kind of a nerd. You guys already know this about me. Most of what appeals to me in life is cerebral and carnal rather than physical. That’s the way I’ve always ...

    Faux Sex
  • October 15, 2010

    As much as I love the peen, I’m pretty selective about which ones I allow to play in my garden despite what you may have heard. This of course leads to droughts and you guys know how I feel ...

    Wanted: Unboyfriend
  • October 14, 2010

    It's getting chilly and the internets are abuzz with tweets and blog posts about people looking to couple up for the winter. And while I hate cold weather as much as the next girl, you know I'm ...

    Uncrossing the Line
  • October 13, 2010

    Everywhere we go in life there are lines. Invisible lines that designate the zone of acceptable behaviour in any given situation. Sometimes the lines are explained explicitly to you, other times ...

    Essential Dating Truths
  • October 12, 2010

    I’m making a guest appearance over at Three Ways To Take It today but my lovely and talented friend MsEsquire is back with a follow up guest post. Show her lots of love in the comments. On ...

    5 Football Players Who Can Tackle Me Anytime
  • October 11, 2010

    It’s Thanksgiving, it’s Monday and I am suddenly a football fan. What better way to celebrate than to take a look at 5 men I’d like to see in my endzone. 1. Reggie Bush If he ...

    Make it Mo’Better
  • October 8, 2010

    Personally I like my sex au naturel; no frills, no soundtrack, no condoms, no soft lighting, no foreplay, and no accoutrements. To add these types of garnishes to an already perfect meal is ...

    Just the Way You Are
  • October 7, 2010

    My blogging buddy and birthday twin Tunde as graciously blessed us with a guest post today. Enjoy. I downloaded Bruno Mars’ album (I plan on buying it as well), Doo-Wops and Hooligans, last ...

    A Reason to Believe
  • October 6, 2010

    In the wonderful world of advertising, it's not uncommon to read a brief that includes a section called "reason to believe".

    5 Random Things that Get My Motor Running
  • October 5, 2010

    If you measure horniness on a scale of 1-10, my resting rate is about a 4. I’m never not at least a little bit revved up and it doesn’t take much to push me from a 4 to a 10. Like ...

    The Bad Idea Man
  • October 4, 2010

    I have a crush. What else is new, right? But this one is dangerous. Dude is smart. Funny. Knows how to administer a perfect hush mama.  He’s cute and wears great shoes and has an ...

    Birthday Sex
  • October 1, 2010

    It stands to reason that if my birthday is my favourite day of the year and sex is my favourite thing in life, birthday sex would be the most wondrous thing ever. And I'm sure it would be...if ...

    Happy Birthday to Me
  • September 30, 2010

    It is finally, FINALLY my birthday! And since no work is allowed on my big day, I thought it would be fun if we played a little birthday game here. So I’m going to ask you 10 questions ...

    When What You Do in the Dark is Seen in the Light
  • September 29, 2010

    If you asked 100 people who know me in real life to list the things I cannot do, at least 90 of them would say count keep a secret. I am known far and wide for this. It’s actually not true ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @NicknotNikki
  • September 28, 2010

    It’s Tuesday and that means it’s time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some poor sucker an interesting person a bunch of questions. This week we’re talking to ...

    Revisiting In Through the Out Door
  • September 23, 2010

    I’m uninspired this week so we’re throwing it back to one of the first Nasty Friday posts. Enjoy and I’ll have something fresh for you next week. When I was young, oral sex was ...

    Silly Little Girls
  • September 23, 2010

    If there is a female equivalent to the panty meat man it is the silly little girl. And lord let me tell you this bish is just as frustrating as that guy. For grown people minding their business ...

    5 Friends I Wish I Didn’t Have
  • September 22, 2010

    I’m blessed to have (what I consider to be) a lot of friends. They may not all be of the ride-or-die, would pick me up at 3am in the middle of nowhere variety, but there are a lot of people ...

    The Wrong Kind of Black People
  • September 21, 2010

    Recently a complex set of circumstances resulted in me being at a house party. Not a party in someone’s house, but a party at which only house music was played. By the legendary Louis Vega ...

    10 Things I Secretly Believe
  • September 20, 2010

    It’s Sunday night. I’m tired as balls. Let’s get to it. 1. Of all the islands of the Caribbean, Jamaica produces the sexiest (and most unruly) men. 2. “He’s just not ...

    An Ode to Balls
  • September 17, 2010

    If penis is my one true love, balls are my eternal sidepiece. I really don’t know what it is about balls, but I effing love sucking them. They are just hours of entertainment…you can ...

    Funny Stories
  • September 16, 2010

    If you know me in real life you know that I have a wicked toothache this week that is wreaking havoc on my sleeping pattern. As a result I am ass-exhausted and could not get it together to write ...

    Much as I Loved It, Hate it Now
  • September 15, 2010

    Let me tell you about the kind of men that I love – smart (at least as smart as I am), insightful, articulate, well-hung, highly sought-after, in love with himself, slick enough to ...

    5 Signs He’s Not Worth It
  • September 14, 2010

    Part of dating someone new is putting them through the paces to decipher whether they’re worth your time. What exactly those paces entail is different depending on whom you ask, but at the ...

    Why You Must Love Me
  • September 13, 2010

    If there’s one thing I know in life it’s that I don’t think like everyone else. What makes perfect sense to me is blasphemy to normal people and things that make my eyes get all ...

    Songs That Make Me Want to Rip Your Clothes Off
  • September 10, 2010

    No matter how much I might be changing, I’m still a girl who loves sex. So much so that it usually doesn’t take much to get my motor running. I’ve been known to say on multiple ...

    I Am Changing (Max in Real Life)
  • September 9, 2010

    This morning as I was contemplating what to wear to work, I eyed the many, many pairs of stilettos in my closet and realized how infrequently I’ve been wearing them. I looked at them ...

    The Jump Off Code of Conduct
  • September 8, 2010

    During a recent conversation with one of my most favourite people, the subject of ideal jump off behaviour was raised. Not rules per se, because the nature of the jump off relationship kind of ...

    You Disappeared…Then What?
  • September 7, 2010

    About ten years ago I met a man named Stephen at a birthday party for a mutual friend. We chatted, hit it off, and exchanged numbers at the end of the night. I was living in London at the time ...

    Funny Things My Mum Says
  • September 6, 2010

    Those of you who know me in real life know I have a love-angst relationship with my mum. She’s dope but she drives me nutso. It’s her birthday today and I thought what better way to ...

    Dr. Max Answers the Mail
  • September 3, 2010

    Although we all get a lot of titillation on Nasty Fridays, at its heart is purpose is to educate so everyone can have better sex. Actually let me be real – the point is to over-share. At  ...

    Max-Logic is One!
  • September 2, 2010

    Guess what everybody? Yesterday was the first anniversary of max-logic.com. Which I guess means I should have posted this yesterday but….oh well. Although I am a huge bit of a suck in real ...

    5 Things I Want in a Man That I Don’t Have Myself
  • September 1, 2010

    Another post inspired by Until I Get Married – I swear that guy has the best ideas! I’m sure I’ve blogged about this at some point in time, but I don’t really believe in ...

    Emergency Broadcast
  • August 31, 2010

    Yeah this picture has nothing to do with anything but I like it. Some flotsam and jetsam to share with you guys: 1. There are officially only 4 hours left to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. It ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with Rem the Mulatto
  • August 31, 2010

    Today is the last day to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. Have you voted yet today? Head over there and vote at least 5 times before you read this. It’s Tuesday and that means it’s ...

    5 Gifts You Must Never Buy Your Girl
  • August 30, 2010

    Today is the last day to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. Have you voted yet today? Head over there and vote at least 5 times before you read this. With the holiday season (also known as my ...

    Shaking Things Up
  • August 28, 2010

    Hi kids! Just a head’s up that I’m moving max-logic from old crappy Blogger over to confusing-as-fuck WordPress so if things are a little nutso around here that would be why. I should ...

    The Lost Art of Fingering
  • August 26, 2010

    It's no secret around these parts how much I love the pipe. So much so that when it comes to secksy time I don't really care to take a detour through foreplayland or oralville - I want to be on ...

    This is the end, beautiful friend (Max in Real Life)
  • August 25, 2010

    This is the end. Those of you who know me in real life know that I'm a month and a bit away from a big birthday. At the end of September I'll be 35. Wow. Still can't wrap my head around that. It ...

    I’m on Beehive FM Today!
  • August 25, 2010

    Only a few days left – don’t forget to vote for me! Sorry guys I have no real post for you today but if you’re jonesing for a little max in your life, check me out today on The ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with Melissa
  • August 23, 2010

    First things first – have you voted for me yet?All the info you need is right here. It’s Tuesday and that means it’s time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some ...

    Signs You Might Be An Asshole
  • August 22, 2010

    There are only a few days left to vote for the Black Weblog Awards. Vote for me! One of my favorite expressions in life is “knowledge is power”. It explains my fascination with ...

    Mind Sex – A Nasty Friday Guest Post

    Even a perv like myself runs out of dirty things to talk about from time to time so we have a guest appearance from Lincoln Anthony Blades today.  If you’ve never visited his site, make ...

    Bad Home Habits – Max in Real Life
  • August 18, 2010

    First things first – have you voted for me yet?All the info you need is right here.  I live alone. The greatest sentence in the history of adulthood. There is no greater bliss than ...

    I’m Gonna Make You Love Me
  • August 17, 2010

    The other day while pretending to work toiling away at my incredibly demanding job my ipod delivered a one-two punch of songs that sent my little brain spinning – Your Girl by Mariah Carey ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with @drjayjack
  • August 16, 2010

    First things first – have you voted for me yet?All the info you need is right here. It’s Tuesday and that means it’s time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some ...

    I’m Gonna Get You Sucka
  • August 15, 2010

    If there is one universal truth about being single, it’s that sooner or later someone is gonna do something shitty to you. Just as they say you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your ...

    Hot Talks
  • August 12, 2010

    Those of you who have been paying attention around here should realize three things about me: 1. I like sex 2. I like talking about sex 3. I like to use the dirty words It should come as no ...

    5 Things I’m Not Doing if I’m Not Wifey
  • August 10, 2010

    Don’t forget to vote for me and your other favourite blogs for the Black Weblog Awards. All the details are right here So yesterday I was over on Until I Get Married reading Five Things ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday with HLBB
  • August 9, 2010

    First things first – have you voted for me yet?All the info you need is right here. It’s Tuesday and that means it’s time for “Any 10 on Tuesdays” where each week I ask some ...

    Very Bad Things
  • August 8, 2010

    Please don’t forget to vote for me and your other favourite blogs for the Black Weblog Awards. All the details are right here. Those of you who follow me on twitter should be well aware by now ...

    Cunnilingus 101
  • August 5, 2010

    In the weeks since I wrote my post on not wanting a man to um, eat at my table, I’ve had a lot of men eat my pussy extoll the virtues of their muff-diving techniques. This has led to me to two ...

    Ten Songs I Hate and You Love
  • August 4, 2010

    First things first: have you voted for me and my buddies yet?? Anyone who knows me in real life knows that I am a contrary person. I don’t like to like the things that everyone likes. It’s a ...

    Reckless Talk
  • August 3, 2010

    Don’t forget to vote for me for the Black Weblog Awards! All the info you need is right here. In this day and age of casual sex, unrelationships, and random hook-ups, the need to keep our ...

    Any 10 on Tuesday
  • August 2, 2010

    So Throwback Tuesdays was getting a bit stale so I thought it was about time we did something new around here on Tuesdays. This week we start “Any 10 on Tuesdays” – each week I’ll ask an ...

    Just Some Stuff
  • August 1, 2010

    It's a holiday so I'm taking a day off...I'm coming back tomorrow with a new Tuesday series that I'm hoping you enjoy.

    Sending Your Coochie Through the Mail
  • July 29, 2010

    With all the talk we’ve been doing about thirst these days (see this and this if you need to get caught up) I thought it might be a good idea to devote this week’s nasty Friday to a ...

    Top 10 Songs You Don’t Know

    Those of you who know me in real life know that I walk pretty much everywhere I go; therefore my iPod is my constant companion and very best friend. It’s filled to capacity with songs for ...

    Things You Can Blame on My Ex
  • July 27, 2010

    Like any evolved human being, I’m on a constant quest to improve and grow as I travel down life’s long road. I try to cultivate good habits and phase out bad ones except smoking; I love ...

    The Art of the Chase (Throwback Tuesdays)

    In the old days, when I had my eye on a dude, I had one strategy: shameless and reckless pursuit. And although this method made for some great stories, it never really yielded optimal results.

    5 Dudes I Can’t Stand
  • July 26, 2010

    So we’ve talked about dudes I can’t find and dudes I won’t date….let’s spend some time talking about my least favourite dudes…the dudes who make me want to ...

    Who Doesn’t Masturbate?!? (a collabo post)
  • July 22, 2010

    If you guys have been paying attention around here, you know two things: first, that I’m a highly sexed girl and second that I’m on a celibacy kick. And if you guys are as smart as I ...

    Are You Good? (Max in Real Life)
  • July 21, 2010

    Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Last night I got the words “I am bad” tattooed on my back. I meant ...

    The Great Guy and the Regular Chick
  • July 21, 2010

    Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Last night I was gossiping talking to a girlfriend about a mutual friend of ...

    Who Told You to Have Feelings (Throwback Tuesdays)

    Only a few days left to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards…have you done it yet? Observe this conversation between fcuk buddies: Girl: So can I come over ...

    The e-Boo
  • July 19, 2010

    Time is running out to nominate me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards. Take a quick five minutes to cast your vote please!  Ah the e-boo. Part crush, part long-distance ...

    Leave My Bush Alone
  • July 15, 2010

    Just nominate me please. You’ve heard the spiel enough times.  So today I have a bone to pick with someone. Two people actually. One is whoever invented the Brazilian wax and the other ...

    The Go-To Person (Max in Real Life)
  • July 15, 2010

    Since Thursdays are all about my real life, I’m gonna be real with you guys and tell you I’m having a shitty week, so do me a solid and go nominate me for the Black Weblog Awards. If ...

    Ready for Love – A Guest Post

    If you’ve been reading this blog with any kind of regularity you probably know by now that love is not on my agenda. Although I have a great appreciation for love in other people’s ...

    Does Crazy Get the Guy? – Throwback Tuesday
  • July 12, 2010

    Not long after I wrote my post on being the 'just before girl' I ran into a friend of mine - let's call him Yoda - at the wedding of my ex-unboyfriend/best friend/roommate (another blog post for ...

    The Amazing Disappearing Man

    Ah the amazing disappearing man. Songs are written about him, books celebrate his ability to transcend time, entire blogs are dedicated to him. It’s a sad fact of the life of a single woman ...

    Didn’t You Eat Before You Got Here?
  • July 9, 2010

    In the good old days when I was making my first forays into the wonderful world of sex, things were a lot more straightforward. It seemed every dude had the same game plan - a few french kisses, ...

    A Change is Gonna Come (Max in Real Life)
  • July 7, 2010

    When I was a little girl I knew that I would grow up and move to Toronto. And I did. There were three specific streets I wanted to live on and I’ve lived on nearly on all of them.  So ...

    Dudes, Dads, and Dating
  • July 7, 2010

    If you know me in real life you know that I grew up in a pretty homogenized community. Everyone I knew lived on a street like mine in a house like mine with some pets or siblings and two parents. ...

    Throwback Tuesday – The Just Before Girl

    The just before girl kinda has a bad rep.  Nine times out of ten she is (or is portrayed as) the one who lied, cheated, took advantage, stole, stalked, hurt, betrayed, or cheated on your ...

    How to Hook Up
  • July 5, 2010

    Time’s ticking…have you nominated me for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. If there is one thing I’ve learned from observing mating ...

    On My Celibacy Sh*t
  • July 2, 2010

    Don’t think that just because I haven’t bothered you for a few days about the Black Weblog Awards that you’re off the hook. Have you nominated me yet? You can get all the ...

    Why I’ll Never Get Over My First Love
  • June 30, 2010

    "The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can ever end" - Benjamin Disraelier

    Throwback Tuesday – One is the Onliest Number

    For most of my adult life I’ve been a one-woman show. And notwithstanding my auntie’s prayers for a husband for me and my mum’s assurances that “my time will come”, ...

    Gotta Love a Good Ex
  • June 28, 2010

    Okay now really – have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? I hope you have but if you haven’t there’s still time to redeem ...

    Max in Real Life: Do I Spend Too Much Time Online?
  • June 24, 2010

    Here's what a typical day in the life of max looks like: I wake up, suck down a bottle of water, and head for my laptop. I check out what's going on in the world: Twitter, SingleBlackMale.org, ...

    What I Won’t Do for a Date
  • June 23, 2010

    Have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. When I called my daddy to wish him a happy father’s day, I ...

    Throwback Tuesday – Dealbreakers

    Have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. Anybody who knows me knows that I am really not a planner. Outside ...

    Good Looks for Girls
  • June 21, 2010

    If you're a longtime or dedicated reader of mine you know that I am a throwback girl. I'm that handwash your dirty draws, Cater to You is my theme song, wake up at 3:00am to cook for you, ...

    Bi? Curious?
  • June 18, 2010

    Have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. One of my very best friends in the world is a man to whom I’d ...

    Max in Real Life – I Hate the Phone!
  • June 17, 2010

    Have you nominated me and my blogging buddies for the Black Weblog Awards yet? You can get all the details and sh*t over here. If you judged me solely on the content of this blog, you would think ...

    Guest Post – Getting In The Path of Destruction

    It's that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can get all ...

    Throwback Tuesday – The Comfort Zone

    Welcome to Throwback Tuesday. Since Google Analytics tells me that most of you are new visitors, I thought I’d re-post all the good ish you missed before you got on board the max-logic ...

    The Gentlemanly Thing to Do
  • June 14, 2010

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can ...

    Three-way Sex Three Ways
  • June 11, 2010

    It's that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can get all ...

    The Ladylike Chronicles – Week V

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can ...

    The Substitute Dude
  • June 9, 2010

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can ...

    Throwback Tuesday – 10 Dumb Things Women Do

    Welcome to Throwback Tuesday. Since Google Analytics tells me that most of you are new visitors, I thought I’d re-post all the good ish you missed before you got on board the max-logic ...

    The Complexities of Dealing with a Busy Dude
  • June 7, 2010

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) by nominating me. You can ...

    7 Dudes I Might Not Date
  • June 4, 2010

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) nominating me. You can get ...

    The Ladylike Chronicles – Week IV

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) nominating me. You can get ...

    First Time Fail
  • June 2, 2010

    It’s that time of year again. Nominations for the Black Weblog Awards have started and I would really like one. So show how much you love me (and I know you do) nominating me. You can get ...

    Your 101 Guide to Head
  • June 1, 2010

    If there is one truth to life as a single woman, it is this: into every girl's mouth a penis must eventually be placed.

    Throwback Monday – My Version of the Ladder Theory

    Sorry folks – it was quite a weekend and I did not have time to post. We we’l do throwback today and I’ll give you something good tomorrow…sound good? So about a year ago ...

    Good F*cking Morning
  • May 28, 2010

    Shout-out to @HoneyMatthews for suggesting this post. For years I have bemoaned the fact that I had never had morning sex. Especially considering I spent three years in a living hell cohabiting ...

    The Ladylike Chronicles – Week III

    It’s time for an update on The Ladylike Chronicles. First off, I have to apologize for not giving you one til now. Fire (our target) was missing in action and I am lazy so I had nothing to ...

    I Am Too Proud to Beg
  • May 26, 2010

    A couple of years ago I counselled a good friend through a breakup. Athough her boyfriend was a great guy, she had some very good reasons for wanting to end things. She felt awful about it ...

    Throwback Tuesday – Lies We Tell Ourselves

    Welcome to Throwback Tuesday. Since Google Analytics tells me that most of you are new visitors, I thought I’d re-post all the good ish you missed before you got on board the max-logic ...

    Not my ex
  • May 19, 2010

    If you follow me on twitter, you may have caught a few of my outraged tweets after Private Practice ended on Thursday night. Not to go into too much detail for those of you who aren’t into ...

    Throwback Tuesday – The Problem with Friends and Advice

    Welcome to Throwback Tuesday. Since Google Analytics tells me that most of you are new visitors, I thought I’d repost all the good ish you missed before you got on board the max-logic ...

    Fall for Your Type
  • May 17, 2010

    If you asked me to articulate what my type is, I probably wouldn’t be able to do it.  At one time I would have said that tall men are my type, but after 3 relationships with ...

    A Love Letter to Articulate Men
  • May 14, 2010

    Anyone who knows me knows how much I swoon for a man who is able to express himself; but I don’t think I spend enough time on this blog singing the praises of these men. So this is a ...

    What You Do for Love
  • May 12, 2010

    When it comes to relationship blogging, the meat is often in the big issues.

    Throwback Tuesday – The Art of the Game

    Welcome to Throwback Tuesday. Since Google Analytics tells me that most of you are new visitors, I thought I’d repost all the good ish you missed before you got on board the max-logic ...

    Shy My A$$
  • May 10, 2010

    When you are a woman who refuses to ask a man out like me, you will inevitably spend a lot of time wondering why the object of your desire hasn’t made a move yet. And if you are like most ...

    Getting in F*cking Shape
  • May 7, 2010

    You met him. You charmed him. You’ve tweeted, texted, and talked. Been on the requisite number of dates. And now the big day is here. He’s coming over and you’re gonna bone. Now it’s time ...

    The Ladylike Chronicles

    I decided to switch things up around here and start a new post series. Welcome to The Ladylike Chronicles. Yesterday’s post about whether a raunchy bigmouth such as myself will ever find ...

    Not Such a Proper Young Lady
  • May 5, 2010

    Some tidbits about me: Among my favourite songs (click title to read the lyrics): Wildflower – Ghostface Killah Stapleton Sex – Ghostface Killah Oochie Wally – QB’s Finest ...

    Baby What’s Your Sign?
  • May 3, 2010

    It’s the beginning of the month and you know what that means right? Time to check out the monthly forecast on AstrologyZone.com of course. As a new month draws near, I find myself reviewing ...

    Hush Mama
  • April 30, 2010

    Like most days, I spent a good amount of yesterday over at SingleBlackMale.org. And like most days, a little bit of bacchanal popped off. Like most days, my blogging boy Dr Jay Jack dropped the ...

    Older Women 101
  • April 28, 2010

    A while back I wrote about the allure of the younger man. At that time, I hadn’t  played in the sandbox experienced the phenomenon and wondered whether there were any drawbacks to getting ...

    The Slow Dance
  • April 26, 2010

    I don’t know about you guys, but high school was a less than enthralling experience for me. I don’t wax nostalgic on anything about that time…except one thing, the dances.  ...

    A Throwback Post – Why I Don’t Date White Guys
  • April 23, 2010

    Sorry guys – it’s been one of those weeks. But here’s another oldie but goodie for you. Years ago when I was in school I had these two friends Adam and Cory. They were the kind ...

    The No-Cry Zone
  • April 21, 2010

    As a woman who is blessed with many male friends, I hear a lot of stories about sex. First-time sex in particular. And lately I’ve noticed an alarming trend among these stories. Far too ...

    I Wanna Little Sugar in my Bowl
  • April 19, 2010

    If you’ve read this blog even once before then you know I’m a pretty forthright person. Despite that, I tend to keep the more um, intimate details of my life out of my blog. But at ...

    5 Reasons Why You Didn’t Count
  • April 16, 2010

    Love is a game and we all have a score. But unfortunately for all of us, your score isn’t calculated based on your virtues, it’s based on your bedmates. And scoring too high can be ...

    First-Date Sex
  • April 14, 2010

    At the end of my last first date, the dude suggested we retire to his bedroom. I laughed, thinking he was kidding. He wasn’t. He proceeded to explain to me that the notion that it’s a bad ...

    Conversations About Sex
  • April 12, 2010

    In case you haven’t noticed, I kinda love sex. Sex comes second only to books as the true love of my life. I write about it as often as I can, think about it all the time, and never, ever ...

    Throwback Post: Random Funny Story
  • April 9, 2010

    Another funny from my old blog. Sorry everyone – Nasty Fridays will resume next week. Many, many years ago I had a little on again, off again thing with this guy. He was a rapper of ...

    Crash the Car

    The ever-talented Dr.Jay returns with his take on yesterday’s post. I thought my idea was good but his is sheer evil genius. After you read this, check him out over at your ...

    Pest Control
  • April 7, 2010

    It is a sad but true fact that into every woman’s life a little infestation must fall. For us gals, the existence of pests is as ubiquitous as a trip to the feminine care aisle at Shopper’s ...

    A little fun on a Monday: My Market Value
  • April 5, 2010

    UPDATE: I don’t know what I was smoking when I posted this, but I’ve updated it so that the link to the test actually goes to the test. My score is posted in the comments. This past ...

    Black Man Sexy
  • April 1, 2010

    My male readers often accuse me of bashing them so today’s post is in honour of man. The Black man, that is. Because while I appreciate Brad Pitt as much as the next white girl, there is no ...

    A Date at the Strip Club
  • March 31, 2010

    Way back before I became the dirty bird that I am today, I went to a strip club one night with a few of my male friends. I was a young dumb thing at the time and I sooo did not want to be there. ...

    PSA for Ladies – The Toilet Seat is not that Deep
  • March 29, 2010

    I've been meaning to rant on this for a minute and now the time has come. Ladies I'm talking to you today and I have only one question: what is it with you and the toilet seat? No - ...

    Donkey Punches and other Liberties
  • March 26, 2010

    I'm of the opinion that sex is like hockey - better with a little violence. Trouble is, a single woman who avoids attachments usually doesn't take time having those 'getting to know you' ...

    Other People’s Logic: Is this the new guy?

    For the first time ever we have a guest poster today. The indomitable Dr. Jay who tells women about their parts on a regular basis on twitter, The Book of Jackson, and your favourite ...

    The Next Girl
  • March 24, 2010

     Even when they’re done properly, there are a lot of things that suck about breakups. The missing, the crying, the what-ifs, the things he left behind – it’s all a big ball of misery. ...

    A Throwback Post – The Little Engine that Could
  • March 22, 2010

    I had a bit of a rough weekend with no time to write so I’m sharing a post from my old blog with you today. Many years ago I went on a date with this guy. The date was so unspectacular that ...

    Yuck is in the Details
  • March 19, 2010

    I'm not a romantic woman. I don't need soft music or rose petals to get me in the mood. Whispering sweet nothings in my ear will make me throw you out of bed. I think foreplay is over-rated. But ...

    Why are you yelling?
  • March 17, 2010

    Once upon a time, a man and a woman lost their minds decided to move in together. The woman was easygoing and reasonable and the man was – well, not so much. Because of the woman’s ...

    The 5 Men I’ve Never Met
  • March 15, 2010

    I read UndressingHer’s list of the 5 women he’s never met and laughed my a$$ off. Here are the 5 men I’ve never met but desperately need to believe exist. If you’re one of ...

    The Connection will not be Televised
  • March 10, 2010

    I’ve spent most of my life being the voice of reason for my girlfriends. I’ve got it down to a science by now, to the point where I barely even need to listen to their tales of woe to ...

    Vibes or Politeness
  • March 8, 2010

    While I liken the age of technology to the second coming of the Messiah - I'm all for anything that gets me out of talking on the phone - it does make life just a little more complicated. The ...

    Spreading myself all over
  • March 5, 2010

    Check me out over at Met Another Frog talking about what women can learn from men about feelings or catch an oldie but goodie over at The Fresh Xpress Nasty Fridays will resume next week. The ...

    Can I have a hug?
  • March 3, 2010

    A single woman has the one thing everyone in the world should value - freedom. You do what you want, when you want, if you want, and you never have to consider anyone's feelings but your own. If ...

    Canada vs. USA
  • March 1, 2010

    Note: If you’ve found yourself here after Googling the results of yesterday’s hockey game, you’re lost and should probably leave now. This is definitely not the place for you. ...

    No Too $hort
  • February 26, 2010

    If there’s one thing I’ve learned from writing this blog, it’s this: no matter how nasty you think a sex act is, at least one of your friends is doing it. Now usually in this ...

    Baby what’s your size?
  • February 22, 2010

    One of the things women love to do is to take random facts about a man and deduce from them details about his attributes. There are many manifestations of this – how he treats waiters is ...

    The Thin Red Line
  • February 19, 2010

    In a woman’s life, there is only one thing more certain than death and taxes – the arrival of Aunt Flo. Like a mini plague, the curse descends upon us monthly, wreaking a kind of ...

    The Good Break Up
  • February 17, 2010

    One of my biggest reasons for shunning relationships is that it ipso facto shuns break ups. For all the mouth I have here on this blog, I can be a punk softie in real life. This makes it ...

    How to Keep a Man
  • February 16, 2010

    If you follow me on twitter you saw me tweeting the other night about the old diaries I was reading. They were so sadly pathetic that I was actually a little bit ashamed to be myself. But I found ...

    a little funny for you
  • February 15, 2010

    In honour of Family Day, I’m not putting up a real post today but here’s just a little something to tide you over til the next one. If you know me in real life you know that I ...

    The Tossed Salad
  • February 12, 2010

    With Valentine’s Day almost upon us, the internets are awash with flowery lovey-dovey posts about how to celebrate your boo on the big day. If you guys are anything like me you’re ...

    size, shape, width, and girth
  • February 10, 2010

    Way back when I first moved to Toronto, I lived in a house with four single girls. As you can imagine, all manner of debauchery went on in that house, to the point where we had a whiteboard in ...

    Double Feature Day – Looking for trouble
  • February 8, 2010

    Note: I wasn’t really feeling today’s post, so I decided to make it double feature day. Don’t get used to it – it will probably never happen again. Also I really wanted to ...

    Happy Effing Valentine’s Day
  • February 8, 2010

    The dreaded day is coming. Valentine ’s Day. I planned to ignore it, even though my examiner.com editor tells me I have to write about it. I’m trying not to think about it. I remind myself ...

    The Control Freak
  • February 3, 2010

    I was recently explaining my aversion to sleepovers to a new friend. As I desperately tried to convey the importance of sleeping on a satin pillowcase (and the dearth of said pillowcases at ...

    A little treat for you….
  • February 1, 2010

    When I was a lot younger, I dated this dude. I should have known he was a bad scene because he took me to see Blade on our first date (worst.movie.EVER!). But I persisted and, inevitably, the ...

    The Crush Not Taken
  • February 1, 2010

    In general, I’m a pretty happy person. No matter what’s going on in my life, I’m usually able to put a smile on my face and joke around as if I don’t have a care in the world. I’m one ...

    Remembering Jay
  • January 29, 2010

    I’m taking a break today from my usual stuff to write about something a little more personal. Fret not, I’ll be back to talking about the dirty stuff next week. Ten years ago today ...

    Is the grass ever greener?
  • January 28, 2010

    The dearth of romance in relationships is something I touched on in yesterday’s post; and judging from the feedback I got, it’s a hot topic for a lot of people. A lot of women who ...

    Things Women Shouldn’t Say to Men
  • January 27, 2010

    I don’t usually write response posts, but Slim Jackson’s Things Men Shouldn’t Say to Women  had me howling…and got me thinking. Slim is right on the money with his list, but ladies ...

    The Sex Match
  • January 26, 2010

    I hate the beginnings of relationships, but I do like discovering people. Meeting someone who floats your boat and getting to know them can be exciting. The first few conversations – when ...

    The Other Woman
  • January 25, 2010

    The other woman is a bad girl, isn’t she? This predatory b*tch is the target of many a scorned woman’s ire. She’s evil, she lacks self-esteem, she has no respect for marriage, she can’t ...

    Shhh…It’s a Secret!
  • January 22, 2010

    A great man recently said “the key to a great sex life is discretion’. Not being a big proponent of discretion myself, I can’t really comment on that, but it did get me thinking about ...

    The High Maintenance Man
  • January 20, 2010

    Okay so we talked about the high maintenance woman last time, let’s take a peek at the underside of the coin: the high maintenance man. It’s not a term we hear often (which supports ...

    The High Maintenance Woman
  • January 19, 2010

    I was reading one of Christianaa’s rants the other day about high maintenance women. It was interesting and of course set the little wheels in my brain spinning. Then I stopped by The Book of ...

    Meet the Family
  • January 14, 2010

    With the holidays just behind us, family is a bit on my mind. I have a kind of love-aggravation relationship with my extended family and usually feel sick with dread when I know I have to spend ...

    In through the Out Door
  • January 12, 2010

    When I was young, oral sex was the thing no one admitted to. No self-respecting Black man would admit to ever eating a woman’s fruit – much less beg her to let him do it. And no good girl was ...

    The Way Men Think Part II
  • January 8, 2010

    Yesterday’s post was rattling around in my brain for quite some time before my life calmed down enough to give me time to write it. While I was marinating on it, I came up with the idea for ...

    The Way Men Think Part I
  • January 7, 2010

    Happy New Year Everyone! I promised I’d be back in January and here I am. Things are finally settling down over in the three-dimensional world and now I can give you the attention you so ...

    Don’t call me baby
  • December 3, 2009

    Oe of the most fun parts of a new relationship for me is figuring out what I’m gonna call him. I’m usually looking for two things; a pet name and a euphemism with which I refer to him ...

    The Dull Roar
  • November 27, 2009

    I spent the years between ages 18 and 20 with a permanent knot in my stomach. Those were the years between when I met my first love and when we finally got together. In that time, everything was ...

    You Want to Sleep Where?!?
  • November 25, 2009

    As I may have mentioned a time or two, I don’t like sleepovers. Now considering the fact that I’m a bachelorette for life, I would have thought that this was no big deal; I was under ...

    You know you want it
  • November 23, 2009

    Hello people! Sorry for being MIA – I’m having some technical issues and have been reduced to Blackberry blogging…those of you who know me in real life know how problematic that ...

    Other People’s Logic – Your RMV

    This topic comes courtesy of Justin, one of my favourite people to bump into when I’m running the streets. If you live in Toronto and you don’t know about tdot.tv, head over there (after you ...

    You’ll come around
  • November 9, 2009

    If you’re single and in your mid-thirties, you’re extremely lucky you’ve probably figured out a few things about yourself. You know what you believe, who you are, what you want out of a ...

    I cheated…but I love you!
  • November 4, 2009

    Today’s topic comes courtesy of Mizzlovelippz who responded to my desperate twitterplea for something – anything! – to write about when the well was running kinda dry. (We also have to give ...

    i swoon…
  • November 3, 2009

    for man cleavage. I just think it is the most delicious ever. A man with good cleavage just drives me to distraction! And I thank the gods of man cleavage for bringing this trend into my life ...

    And if I can’t have it, then I’m fakin’ it
  • November 2, 2009

    Ah the big O. I’ve talked about this before but a discussion that came up at Inside Our Heads the other night prompted me to re-examine it.  We were discussing the importance of ...

    Oh You Have Kids??
  • October 30, 2009

    I was reading this on my very favourite blog the other day and got to thinking about men and kids. If you’re a single woman in your 30′s you’re probably going to encounter this ...

    The 10 Commandments
  • October 28, 2009

    My absolute favourite part of Secrets of a Black Boy was what they called “How to Get a Man in 10 Easy Steps”.  As soon as they said that I was scrambling for my blackberry to ...

    Panty Meat Moves
  • October 22, 2009

    A while back I laid into you ladies about the dumb things you do in relationships. I don’t have a similar list yet for men, but I have something better and that is the top 10 panty meat moves ...

    I’m a backpack, he’s an upscale
  • October 20, 2009

    *this is a repost from my new urban singles column on examiner.com. please go over there and subscribe. and yes, you do have to subscribe to both* If you’re urban and single in Toronto and you ...

    the boy has to ask the girl to dance

    If I kept a tally of all the advice I get from my girls, the #1 most-advised thing to do would have to be this: “Just ask him ____”.  As in, just ask him out. Or just ask him for his ...

    Textual Relations
  • October 14, 2009

    So I have my eye on someone. I’m not gonna get into a tonne of detail on here in case he reads it because my entire life need not be fodder for this blog, but this dude’s entire existence ...

    I Just Wanna Get to Know You
  • October 13, 2009

    I’m a curious person. The kinda person who knows a little bit about a lot of things and wants to know something about everything. The kind of person who can easily spend two hours on ...

    max about town: sex, relationships, and sometimes love
  • October 12, 2009

    Last week my girl Jem and I attended the media launch of Sex, Relationships, and Sometimes Love, a GLAAD- nominated Off-Broadway hit running in Toronto until November 9.  It’s not ...

    I am that Angry Black Woman
  • October 7, 2009

    So if you listened to me and saw Secrets of a Black Boy you probably remember Sean’s monologue ‘White Girls are my Kryptonite’. In it he talks about why he’s given up on ...

    where’s your window-shade? (part I)
  • September 28, 2009

    After a very interesting night on Friday, I had a very interesting conversation with a very interesting man. After discussing life, art, sex, and money, we got to talking about the merits of ...

    good hair
  • September 24, 2009

    this is a topic that’s been rattling around in my brain for a minute so i thought i’d throw it up here and let you guys weigh in. anyone who knows me personally knows about my ...

    the one that got away
  • September 23, 2009

    My twitterbuddy Darling Nicky asked this question in her ladies quiz a couple of weeks ago: Do you feel at this stage in your life, that you’ve already met the love of your life (even if ...

    Do you have to be bad to be good?
  • September 13, 2009

    So I was chatting with a couple of ladies last night when someone asked me 'why is the best d@ck attached to assholes?This got me thinking about my own experiences with good sex and assholes ...

    honesty is the best policy

    'honesty is the best policy' is one of those things that people say to make themselves feel good, but in reality it's just a license for rude behaviour. yes, i do believe that life would go a lot ...

    would you date a blogger?
  • September 10, 2009

    here’s a random question for you: say you’re a dude and you meet me and of course are instantly smitten. what’s not to love, really? we get to talking, have a couple of dates, ...

    can a bad girl turn good?
  • September 9, 2009

    i came across this post in my google reader the other day. and while the actual content of the post was bullshit had little to do with the title, it still got me thinking…. can a bad girl ...

    The Allure of the Younger Man
  • September 6, 2009

    Demi did it. Samantha Jones did it. Apparently Courteney Cox has a show coming out about it. It seems a younger man is the new accessory of choice for the thirty-plus woman…so should you do ...

    what’s your number?
  • September 4, 2009

    Over at The Fly Guy Chronicles reading this post got me thinking about numbers…not telephone numbers (because realistically, who needs those anymore?) but the ‘magic’ number ...

    PSA’s for men and women
  • September 2, 2009

    at this point i’m not sure who i’ve roughed up more on this blog – the women or the men – but today’s post is equal-opportunity education. because you both do things ...